I think the posters making comments like this don't actually have any experience of private schools and are just being rather silly. The only parents I see with lip fillers etc near me are the ones at the local state school who come from the estate...
I personally don't need to justify sending my dc's to the private schools they've attended to anyone. I live my life according to my own desires and rules, not to impress. And the only people who's approval I care about is my family's.
The schools we chose were and are amazing and the results speak for themselves - but more importantly than that is the fact my dc's have loved going there - they haven't had to deal with any of the shit I dealt with growing up at my inner city state school. Drugs and fights and aggressive behaviour etc don't even feature on the radar. Half of my experience of high school was spent being scared of being singled out by the rough kids and either humiliated or physically attacked.
My dd's school has no such thing as detention as they don't see it as necessary - the girls are that well behaved and are taught to modify their own behaviour in a cohort of hard working kids who support and encourage one another and respect their teachers. They pull one another other up.
At my ds's boys school they are regularly taught about women's issues (they've recently been learning about the taking away of womens rights in Iran), actively discuss issues such as the popularity of Andrew Tate etc (ds thinks he's a dick) and I can have a conversation with him about any manner of subjects. they are made to volunteer at homeless shelters/old peoples homes etc and ds and his friends are the nicest, most socially aware teenagers I've ever encountered. He has friends from the state school who are obviously wonderful too - the majority of them are.
My dc's were all sad when they left to go to uni and still go back to visit their old schools.
Their gratification and the positive experiences they had at school is all the proof I need that we made the right choice. I didn't want my children going to a school where kids carry knives/deal drugs in the playground and attack teachers (all actual occurrences at our local state school) or are bullied bc they're studious and hard working. Unfortunately in a lot of state schools the few ruin it for the many, and it was a risk I wasn't willing to take.
Those of you who are saying private schools are just as bad as state schools - how would you know if you've only experienced the state system? What are you comparing? Do you have any actual stats? Or just going off one or two stories you've heard about misogyny in private boys schools?
Our dc's private education has been worth every single penny and I'm so glad I don't recognise any of the behaviours in the OP in my own kids experience of school.
Obviously there will be problems in some private schools, and there are some excellent state schools but comparing the two on balance is just some socialist fantasy. You're in cloud cuckoo land if you think there is the same level of anti social behaviour and unwillingness to learn in private schools as in state.
Oh, and the "public schoolboys are horrible" rhetoric comes from exactly where it seems to come from - envy and the equal sharing of misery mindset. If they can't have it they don't want anyone else to either basically! 🤷♀️ They have to believe all schools are shit, bc they've have to send their own offspring to crap schools and are pissed about it.