My 13yoDD is addicted to shopping...

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Hello everybody,
My DD (13) is a shopaholic. I am not proud to admit this. She has a specific aesthetic that she decorates her room in that she spends massive amounts of money on/to maintain (buying PC/setup stuff, anime figures, decorations, building collections etc.) She doesn't spend most of this on clothes (she thrifts most of her clothes,) but XP is absolutely spoiling her with stuff whenever she asks. She has poor mental health with i'd rather not go into and some issues as well but will absolutely not respond to therapy so she numbs the pain with buying things. Her room is never 'done', there's always something to buy. I don't buy anything for her but XP enables it (we're divorced, there's troubles in our communcation; we have different parenting styles.) She has no friends, no connections, we've enrolled her in tons of hobbies/after school stuff/clubs but no connections there either. Shopping/buying/collecting is the one thing that seems to make her happy. AIBU for really not knowing what to do. Please help. Thank you.

The obvious response is to stop funding it.
Or at the very least, tie the money to her contribution to the household - here is a list of chores with a list of prices (£1 for washing up, £2 for cleaning the toilets, £3 for valetingthe car, £4 for mowing the lawn.... whatever you want doing and whatever your budget allows). She can choose whatever she likes on the list, but she has to earn the money in some way and save up for it herself. Regularly handing over £100-300 for a figurine or decoration is unsustainable and teaches her nothing about budgeting, saving, patience or the cost of living.

The op isn’t giving her money, her ex husband is buying things for his daughter’s room at his house. The daughter isn’t spending any money, nor is the op.