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To be really cross about the proposed cuts?

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Byjimminy · 18/03/2025 20:19

And feel really effing sorry for those with genuine anxiety and depression - it is disabling!

Already seeing threads in MH with people despairing in anticipation of cuts. As if mental health services haven't already been decimated beyond recognition already. GP appointments as rare as hen's teeth, CAMHS and access to decent therapy is next to non-existent, the conservatiives slashed all the support workers and sure start centres and we've had the worst pandemic in decades (centuries?) - long covid is thing too! And now people are just self diagnosing/making up mental health issues? How the hell anyone believes anyone manages to claim PIP without a proper diagnosis is insanity itself.

I completely agree with this article: https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/wes-streeting-overdiagnosis-mental-health-adhd-b2716618.html

I know there will be umpteen threads on this already, but maybe some others like me just want to let stuff out in frustration and have a fresh place to say it. To think this is a labour government making these decisions BEFORE putting the services in place to actually help and treat people is beyond comprehension.

Sorry, Wes – my A&E is full of people having a mental health crisis

The health secretary is wrong to suggest that doctors are overdiagnosing patients with psychiatric conditions – it’s just not in our interest to reach for the prescription pad and sign them off work, says Dr Ammad Butt

https://www.independent.co.uk/voices/wes-streeting-overdiagnosis-mental-health-adhd-b2716618.html

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Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/03/2025 10:50

It's very hard to get my head around all this, it's quite obvious that Labour have set up hundreds of fake accounts on social media to push this narrative. It's incredibly sad that we've gone from a fairly empathic society to one that hates disabled people quite literally overnight.

So we're not allowed to discuss this? OK. 🙄

bestcatlife · 21/03/2025 10:56

It's just my opinion @Sweetpeasaremadeforbees

Sweetpeasaremadeforbees · 21/03/2025 10:58

No , you're trying to shut down the discussion by accusing posters of being bots. I think that's actually against talk guidelines but I'm not reporting because I think that your post should stand and be seen.

Oioisavaloy27 · 21/03/2025 11:06

AcquadiP · 18/03/2025 22:02

I was diagnosed with anxiety and depression in 2022, I take medication for it and I work full time and have since my diagnosis. I have a couple of colleagues on anti-anxiety medication. I don't regard having either condition as a reason not to work. Yes, there are mornings when my anxiety is bad and effects my breathing but there are techniques I've learned to control it. I'm not saying either condition is easy to live with because that's not true but sitting at home stewing isn't going to improve anything either.

I agree and I think sometimes this safety net traps people into not getting better and not helping themselves.

buffyajp · 21/03/2025 11:13

Wildflowers99 · 18/03/2025 21:38

I feel like people have gone to great pains to make out mental health is no different to physical health, when it simply isn’t true.

Let’s say I go to the GP complaining of anxiety symptoms. I’d probably be diagnosed with anxiety. However why am I anxious? Is it the adverse experiences I had as a child? Is it my stressful job? Maybe I’m not anxious at all - maybe it’s OCD? The human brain is so complex, it’s not like a computer where you can source the bug and fix it. I’m not even sure symptoms do fit into diagnostic boxes at all. It seems like a lot of guess work.

As for the treatment… well there are hundreds of parents on this website alone with anxious/autistic/adhd teens who won’t leave the house and se unlikely to work in the near future. Often the parent is saying ‘this wouldn’t be happening if they’d had the right support’ but what does that mean? Often it means hundreds of thousands of pounds worth of therapy which frankly may or may not have worked. It’s not surprising the NHS can’t keep up when all of a sudden we have hundreds of thousands, if not millions, of people wanting diagnosis/therapy/meds for something which until 7 or 8 years ago was reasonably rare. MH treatment isn’t the silver bullet it’s made out to be on here, it’s very expensive and often ineffective beyond letting the person vent and feel a bit better for a few hours.

I don’t work in benefits but I meet benefit claimants every day and listen to them describing their circumstances. I would say benefits have been a huge mistake for 80% of them - the benefits have frankly enabled them to make whatever the qualifying problem was much worse. Anxious people who have been paid to stay at home for 5 years are now positively terrified of the outside world. Men who are a bit feckless and found it hard to hold down a job, have used their UC to spend years smoking weed and addling their brains to the point they’re actually unemployable now. These people exist in the hundreds in my town alone. If they had had to work out of necessity back when their issues were smaller, rather than being allowed to drop out of society at the expense of the taxpayer, I reckon they’d be in a much better place.

That’s is your personal opinion and most certainly not a statement of fact. Poor mental health has been shown to be linked to poor physical health not to mention the huge risk of suicide. I firmly believe mental health is every bit as important as physical health and maybe if you had a child with cptsd who had taken overdoses you may see things differently. Unfortunately there are always people who will take the piss but that doesn’t mean we should make things harder for those needing help especially when it’s already a grossly underfunded area. Personally I would prefer a few pisstakers to people succeeding in killing themselves because they couldn’t get help as people saw them as time wasters. Attitudes like this are why I don’t bother seeking help for my poor mental health.

Wildflowers99 · 21/03/2025 11:33

buffyajp · 21/03/2025 11:13

That’s is your personal opinion and most certainly not a statement of fact. Poor mental health has been shown to be linked to poor physical health not to mention the huge risk of suicide. I firmly believe mental health is every bit as important as physical health and maybe if you had a child with cptsd who had taken overdoses you may see things differently. Unfortunately there are always people who will take the piss but that doesn’t mean we should make things harder for those needing help especially when it’s already a grossly underfunded area. Personally I would prefer a few pisstakers to people succeeding in killing themselves because they couldn’t get help as people saw them as time wasters. Attitudes like this are why I don’t bother seeking help for my poor mental health.

But how many people will realistically kill themselves? Our suicide rates have been going down since the 1980s thank God, but more people seem to have significant mental health problems than 20 years ago.

I don’t find the ‘do X or Y, or these people will die by suicide/neglect their kids/burgle your homes as they’ll have no choice’. There is an element of emotional blackmail there, and yes I have been extremely depressed and suicidal, 20 years ago but I remember it well.

Just to share my story I’ve been significantly mentally unwell since the age of about 15 (this was back when being under a consultant or needing MH at all at that age was quite rare). I’ve had 2 what I would describe as nervous breakdowns since then, but honestly I credit my recoveries with the fact I didn’t know benefits were an option, so I carried on working. It was hideous to start with and I would go into the toilets to hyperventilate and cry, but over time this eased off and routine and social element really helped in a way that I can only identify looking back.

I really don’t think benefits are the answer in most cases.

Slimbear · 21/03/2025 12:14

How many people with a disability that keeps them at home are now overweight. So much harder to get to work.

ginsterloo · 21/03/2025 13:09

Regarding MH Services, a lot aren't underfunded but understaffed because they cannot attract staff for the roles, that's not a opinion that's a fact. There are regions which are attractive for people to move and to work and there are those which aren't. I know of areas near me which have a whole multitude of NHS roles vacant which are funded but cannot attract staff, from consultant level downwards.
With the increase in people seeking help for MH conditions increasing dramatically, then the waits to be seen have also increased because if 10 staff have 1000 people on caseload in 2015 then 15 people needing to see 5000 people means something has to give and that's the wait times. There is no magic wand, but in all the money you want but if the staff aren't there then it won't do anything.

bestcatlife · 21/03/2025 13:53

Fair enough @Sweetpeasaremadeforbees

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 14:58

Slimbear · 21/03/2025 12:14

How many people with a disability that keeps them at home are now overweight. So much harder to get to work.

You could say the same for people working from home.
My boyfriend works from home I swear is getting bigger by the week.

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 21/03/2025 15:04

The issue is too many people arw relying on benefits to live. A very good example I'll give you is a girl I know who is very intelligent. Has Adhd Autism anxiety etc and so she doesn't work she lives on 1500 pounds a month.

I met her at a fan convention. She can't work supposedly due to all these crippling conditions but can fly to another country and spend 3 days hanging out with hundreds of ppl. Her trip was funded entirely on benefits. Were talking hundreds of pounds of tax payer money.

Im sorry no way! People like that absolutely should be working. The system is corrupt and I'm so glad Labour are actually for once doing something about it.

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 15:12

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 21/03/2025 15:04

The issue is too many people arw relying on benefits to live. A very good example I'll give you is a girl I know who is very intelligent. Has Adhd Autism anxiety etc and so she doesn't work she lives on 1500 pounds a month.

I met her at a fan convention. She can't work supposedly due to all these crippling conditions but can fly to another country and spend 3 days hanging out with hundreds of ppl. Her trip was funded entirely on benefits. Were talking hundreds of pounds of tax payer money.

Im sorry no way! People like that absolutely should be working. The system is corrupt and I'm so glad Labour are actually for once doing something about it.

What was her life like either sides of those trips? She may have been very anxious about going, and when she got home would possibly go into shutdown.
That is what would happen to me. I would have to do a lot of preparation ahead of such a trip and acknowledge that I would be useless for a few days after.
A fun trip that you choose to go to is totally different to going to a job. Totally different. If you are ND then pushing through something you are not interested in is very difficult.

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 21/03/2025 16:02

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 15:12

What was her life like either sides of those trips? She may have been very anxious about going, and when she got home would possibly go into shutdown.
That is what would happen to me. I would have to do a lot of preparation ahead of such a trip and acknowledge that I would be useless for a few days after.
A fun trip that you choose to go to is totally different to going to a job. Totally different. If you are ND then pushing through something you are not interested in is very difficult.

She's constantly going here there and everywhere. But to ill to work. Gimme a break. And why should the tax payer fund that?

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 16:04

ChocolatesAndRainbows · 21/03/2025 16:02

She's constantly going here there and everywhere. But to ill to work. Gimme a break. And why should the tax payer fund that?

You sound like you don't like her much.
You see her highlights. You don't see behind the scenes.

Retrospeaker · 21/03/2025 16:09

It’s the individualism versus collectivism thing again isn’t it. These cuts will be bad for individuals and I’m genuinely sorry for them. But it will benefit society as a whole. And governments do have to be about what is going to benefit the most people don’t they?

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 16:13

Retrospeaker · 21/03/2025 16:09

It’s the individualism versus collectivism thing again isn’t it. These cuts will be bad for individuals and I’m genuinely sorry for them. But it will benefit society as a whole. And governments do have to be about what is going to benefit the most people don’t they?

That reminds me of during Covid where people with learning disabilities and brain injuries were told they would not be offered a ventilator if needed.
Get rid of the useless dead wood.

nearlylovemyusername · 21/03/2025 16:16

The issue is that there are 33mn taxpayers in the UK. The current (2024) welfare bill is £64bn and expected to grow much higher. This is benefits only, state pensions aren't included.

It means that UC/PIP/DLA cost £1930 each taxpayer average. This is before we start talking about NHS/Education/Police/Defence/etc etc

By 2029-30 it's expected to reach £3000 average per taxpayer.

This simply can't go on. Anxiety and depression are treatable, yes it's difficult, but people have no choice but to start funding own living. What do you believe happens in countries with no welfare? by some miracle people there don't have MH issues? so is this welfare state which is causing it?

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 16:20

nearlylovemyusername · 21/03/2025 16:16

The issue is that there are 33mn taxpayers in the UK. The current (2024) welfare bill is £64bn and expected to grow much higher. This is benefits only, state pensions aren't included.

It means that UC/PIP/DLA cost £1930 each taxpayer average. This is before we start talking about NHS/Education/Police/Defence/etc etc

By 2029-30 it's expected to reach £3000 average per taxpayer.

This simply can't go on. Anxiety and depression are treatable, yes it's difficult, but people have no choice but to start funding own living. What do you believe happens in countries with no welfare? by some miracle people there don't have MH issues? so is this welfare state which is causing it?

Why do people keep mentioning anxiety and depression? I know a lot of people on benefits for mental health, and no one is on it for just those.

Miley1967 · 21/03/2025 16:45

nearlylovemyusername · 21/03/2025 16:16

The issue is that there are 33mn taxpayers in the UK. The current (2024) welfare bill is £64bn and expected to grow much higher. This is benefits only, state pensions aren't included.

It means that UC/PIP/DLA cost £1930 each taxpayer average. This is before we start talking about NHS/Education/Police/Defence/etc etc

By 2029-30 it's expected to reach £3000 average per taxpayer.

This simply can't go on. Anxiety and depression are treatable, yes it's difficult, but people have no choice but to start funding own living. What do you believe happens in countries with no welfare? by some miracle people there don't have MH issues? so is this welfare state which is causing it?

Shocking isn't it. I honestly don't think people realize the mess this country is in and how unaffordable this all is. I thoroughly expect these cuts to just be the start of it. Even as it stands now it isn't even going to start making an impact ( if it even does) for another 2-3 years by which time there will be near on another 1 million PIP claims already initiated. It is just a drop in the ocean.

DontWheeshtMe · 21/03/2025 17:10

vivainsomnia · 20/03/2025 09:01

I had debilitating anxiety when I was younger. I was on the verge of losing my job as I would have really intense panic attacks triggered by a wide range of things
My son is the same as many of his young adult friends. He is extremely introverted and was always an anxious child. As a young teenager, he would run all the way back home in the morning of he wasn't certain he had switched off his plugs.

When I insisted he needed to get a job after his GCSEs, he made it clear he would only do shelve stacking in a supermarket. He got the job and was put on till the first day, his worse nightmare...but gradually he realised that it wasn't that bad, and over the months working PT, he realised that he could deal with the public, even if it didn't come naturally.

His confidence grew massively. Then came being able to bake a phone call to public agencies, or potential employers without being in a complete state, approaching his Uni tutor when not happy with something to discuss the matter.

He started his career job and also experienced some panic attacks. It's horrible and I so feel for him, but he has learned that avoidance is not the answer, however strong the inner voice to do so is shouting. Things do get better and with that the confidence that he can cope along with his increased selfesteem.

Parents nowadays are much too quick to remove their children from any firm of anxiety. I get it, it's instinctive, but over time, it dors so much more damage than good. It's not about ignoring our children and their pain. It's about facing it with them throughout the journey.

We can't continue to evolve in a society where avoidance is the solution leading to more and more young people becoming older adults trapped in a life time of anxiety and depression feeling totally hopeless and fully reliant on others.

Excellent post

nearlylovemyusername · 21/03/2025 17:16

Retrospeaker · 21/03/2025 16:09

It’s the individualism versus collectivism thing again isn’t it. These cuts will be bad for individuals and I’m genuinely sorry for them. But it will benefit society as a whole. And governments do have to be about what is going to benefit the most people don’t they?

I'm not sure. The group of people which will be affected by these cuts will likely to be pushed to get jobs and it will be good for them longer terms as well.

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 17:21

nearlylovemyusername · 21/03/2025 17:16

I'm not sure. The group of people which will be affected by these cuts will likely to be pushed to get jobs and it will be good for them longer terms as well.

How do you know that?
Being pushed for work will make me more poorly.

Goldiefrocks · 21/03/2025 17:30

One of my kids had a breakdown about ten years ago following a traumatic incident. He had to be signed off sick for several months and had terrible anxiety. Couldn’t go to the supermarket, drive his car, was in tears all the time. He tried antidepressants but they made him dizzy and sick. He made it his ‘work’ to get back to life and to his job asap. Ate clean, didn’t touch alcohol, regular bedtime and cycled for hours. He had a mortgage to pay and didn’t want to get into debt. I take my hat off to him for the effort he put in to control his depression and panic attacks, but he was back to work in months. It took about a year for him to be comfortable driving, but he practiced very short car drives for months until he was again.

if he hadn’t had a mortgage to pay and had been living here at home, I think he would have been more likely to slip backwards and could possibly have ended up on benefits too.

nearlylovemyusername · 21/03/2025 17:38

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 17:21

How do you know that?
Being pushed for work will make me more poorly.

I'm not familiar with your situation. Those truly disabled will keep their benefits. The rest have to start funding themselves. End of

WeylandYutani · 21/03/2025 17:42

nearlylovemyusername · 21/03/2025 17:38

I'm not familiar with your situation. Those truly disabled will keep their benefits. The rest have to start funding themselves. End of

They wont. The cuts are brutal and sweeping. No one is safe.

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