No photo?

[PrincessCalley]

My brother and his wife had a baby this morning and they have sent us no pictures. AM IBU to be a little sad/upset by this? My own 2 daughters have been waiting all day to see a picture of their new cousin but we've gotten nothing

Yeah, with our first born, (born at 11.30am,) we didn't tell anyone til 5pm that they had been born. It was too late for anyone to come visit then. The hospital's visiting hours were midday to 5pm on the ward I was on. So no-one could come. I didn't want anyone near. I wanted to wait until at LEAST the day after the birth.

I had been in labour for a day and a half, and had has a c-section, and I was shaking and trembling from the anesthetic, and felt weak and emotional. The last thing I needed was pushy, entitled, extended family members poking their face into the ward - and sticking around for 2-3 hours - when I was still fragile and vulnerable. The demands from some people to see a baby in the extended family, the second it pops out of the mother, is utterly gross, and breathtakingly entitled.

And don't even get me started on extended family members who want to be there even BEFORE the baby is born. As soon as the mother is rushed into hospital in labour! Hanging around the maternity wards, waiting for the baby to come. What the fuck is THAT all about?! Unless you are the mother of the baby, or the father, (or at a push, a sibling!) stay away!

I can totally understand why you’re a little hurt. I’m sure so would most of the posters here claiming otherwise.

I mean a sibling of the baby! (Too late to edit.)

you're resentful because he's getting the farm

Geez, the self-centredness and entitlement is really quite something.

And the talk of "the state of the world today..." as if there's a long-established tradition of people taking and digitally circulating pictures of their babies on the day of their birth.

??? What farm?

😆

Don't be obtuse. Camera phones have been out for 20+ years, over two decades. It is usual that family are sent pictures.

Just download a random baby pic from the internet. Newborns all look pretty well the same anyway.

Do you want a medal?
jus because you’ve done it, doesn’t mean OP’s SIL and DB need to.

Who is we? Your mother got it. So you didn’t.
just get the picture(s) from your mother. 🤦🏽‍♀️

Oh my god the posters on here are just nuts!
it takes 5 second to send a pic. The OP has every right to be upset at her brother!

I know . The amount of heavies on here is crazy !!!

I'd wager that he's just forgotten, which I think is particularly understandable on what can be a pretty distracting day, to say the least.

It's not as if he forgot about his sister - he called to give the good news (and a call is more effortful, and I'd say more meaningful, than sending a pic).

I expect if the OP would have sent a gentle nudge, he'd have sorted it. If not, there'd probably be some other good explanation as to why he or SIL don't want to share it.

It just feels a little like she'd rather stew.

As you’re close, I think it’s likely he thought that your mum would send you the photos that he sent to her. I wouldn’t read anything else into it.

I understand your feelings, @PrincessCalley. You and your girls were so excited to see the new baby’s photo. DB and SIL sent pictures to other family members, and you and your family should have been included.

Congratulations on the arrival of your new little niece!

You're allowed to be disappointed but not getting pictures has nothing to do with you. It's better to assume no ill intent, especially as she's just had a baby. Even if everything has gone well it doesn't mean it was a walk in the park for the baby to get here.

Ask your mother to see the pics and let it go.

It will look like a baby… mine had forceps marks everywhere and I felt kind weird sending photos. In the end sent one of his foot.

Good grief, at less than 24 hours after the birth, you're annoyed that you have not been sent your own personal photo, despite the fact that the couple have sent one to your mum, that you could easily get hold of. Get a grip and stop making it about you.

She only want a picture 😂

This is why I am glad I am an only child.
Such daft expectations of one's relatives are exhausting and so unnecessary.

And I'm sure well get cuddles and all tomorrow or Monday.
Given previous threads on relatives wanting to be all over people's newborns, that a big assumption...
Your SiL might not want the baby pawded and handed from pillar to post - such protection is not a 'sad sign of the times'. It's perfectly natural to not want stragers being all over their baby, indeed, quite an inherent and unconscience natural reaction.
It is not a photo-op or a time to demand cuddles with a baby.

I thought that, so melodramatic 😂 You’ll meet baby before long if you’re as close as all that op, who really cares about seeing a photo a day or two sooner?

I hope he hasn't bought the farm..

I think you left off a word or two...