No photo?

[PrincessCalley]

My brother and his wife had a baby this morning and they have sent us no pictures. AM IBU to be a little sad/upset by this? My own 2 daughters have been waiting all day to see a picture of their new cousin but we've gotten nothing

He sounds like a bit of a taker. Hope you get a pic soon 🙏

All going well I'm sure she'll be home tomorrow or on Monday at the latest so we'll see her then. No biggie. But I guess I'm just feeling a bit down about it. I know her sisters will have gotten a photo as will her brothers. They are a close family too. Just saddened we didn't get the same. That's all. Thankfully all went well, baby is healthy and well, mother is healthy and well. And I'm sure well get cuddles and all tomorrow or Monday.

AND women are always better at communicating to their family's IMO

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Seriously @PrincessCalley Chill............. 😎

Thanks for your input. It's been appreciated.

A taker? 😆 WTF? 😂

Sounds like he has his priorities right. Looking after his wife and child on the day the child is born. Not pandering to the silly whims of his sister who is butthurt that he is not returning every tiny teeny 'favour' she does for him. 🙄

Jeez, heaven forbid someone who just gave birth doesn’t prioritise sending you a photo. Just ask for one if you’re so desperate or maybe wait 24 hours. They probably just forgot to send to you having just GIVEN BIRTH.

Fuck me OP, you're taking a lovely thing that's happened today and making it all about you and 'the terrible state of the world'. Maybe your brother hates you and this is the first you're hearing, maybe they're joined a religion that doesn't believe in photography and maybe - call me crazy - they just forgot to hit send because they've been a tiny bit busy what with having had a baby today. Wow wow wow.

What the actual?? Do you know anything about me or my family?! The assumptions thay are made here are insane!

That was in response to the post about her brother getting her kids to help him out all the time, not the baby photo timeline issue.

100% this! ^

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Love the notion that the STATE OF THE WORLD is summarised by your brother not sending a photo less than 12 hours after his child is born. This is embarrassing

I’m sure you’ll see a photo soon. As you know yourself from having your own babies, the first few hours after the birth fly by: there’s checks on mum and baby, feeding, a shower (if you’re up to it) tea and toast and of course, the marvelling over every tiny detail of your new baby. That’s without sending messages and phone calls.

100% this. ^

In your details you do sound a bit like you hate him - or at least you’re keeping a log of every favour he asks. Maybe you’re not as close as you think

Agree with this too.

You are making a big drama out of this ! YOU have started a thread on Mumsnet about it !!! and continue to argue your point with the majority of posters.

and as for having cuddles with baby tomorrow or Monday - don't expect that either.

surely you have been on Mumsnet to know that baby will be staying in Mum's arms for days yet...

and hopefully none of you including your children have a sniffle or a cold.

Well I managed to send pics of DS to family and friends within an hour or 2 of birth. Just one message forwarded to the group of people I wanted to know. 2 minute job.

So what is the point of posting then? If people’s replies aren’t accurate because ‘they don’t know you or your family’ (which is exactly the same scenario for every poster on here) then why post if you don’t like the replies?

That’s a shame op, I’d be disappointed too!

However, as a family, we really celebrate births of babies together. We have lots of visits regularly from family and friends in the very first few days of birth. We encourage family and friends to come and enjoy those first few precious days together.

It’s unusual I’d say now tho- it’s all no pictures, shut the curtains, unplug the phones and weeks of bonding before anybody else looks at the baby. Pictures are probably the new thing to go 😂

I hope he sends you one soon!

So what?

They are probably a bit busy at the moment. Honestly you sound a bit pathetic, sulking about this sort of thing.

OP you still haven't said why, if you know other people have a photo (how do you know this?) you haven't just asked them to send it on to you.

But then that would be on the assumption you actually want to see the baby. Rather than you want to get narky and offended because you think your brother owes you something because you sometimes do him a favour.

Ah OP, I get how you feel. I've always felt impatient and really wanted to see new babies when I've heard that they've made their arrival. Hopefully they'll send some photos over soon.

On the other hand though, me and DW have always planned to have the first 24 hours just to us and won't be messaging/calling etc aside from a quick "baby is here, everyone's fine" once things have calmed down.