What do you think of this family house rule?

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People in the house are not allowed to come downstairs in the morning without being fully dressed/clean and moderately groomed.

This does not apply to school kids during the week. But at the weekends/school holidays memebers of the household are not allowed to be in pyjamas. They can veg out on the sofa but they have to be groomed and in clean clothes. Trackies are allowed.

UNMATCHED SOCKS??? Bloody hell. The first step towards crack addiction.

The Royal Household?

God, some of you sound exhausting.

And actually I can potter in the back garden in my dressing gown with my morning coffee quite easily, and do most mornings.

Just seems the way an institution (like a boarding school or orphanage) might run things and not a home. Institutions are a famously damaging way to raise happy healthy people so I wouldn’t be borrowing ideas from them.

@Miaowzabella may be onto something there though. If you potter about undressed, even better! All that morning sunlight!

I was just about to say that this sounds like an institution.

What happens when you sleep to make you so dirty?

Just leave them alone. How on earth can pyjamas be dirtier than their clothes? That's ridiculous

The mum of the house sounds like an unhappy, insecure control freak.

Homes are places that families should be safe, comfy and loved.

Who the fuck cares if someone is sat downstairs in their PJ’s with unbrushed hair?

I could never imagine making my family and children live in such a toxic and depressing environment.

No. First thing I do is use the bathroom and get dressed. We all do, and always have done. I don't recall ever enforcing it, but no one comes down in their pyjamas.

I bet OP is a "no breakfast in bed" person too.

In bed? I bet if you're so much as having a biscuit with your tea you have to sit at the dining table.

🤣 Batshit I would never get downstairs. You can’t be clean dressed and groomed in 5 minutes.

Prisoners don’t have to do this and there’s a difference between bringing up an independent child and making their life so uncomfortable that they leave early.

My parents used to have stupid rules like this. I've never imposed such daft rules on my kids and quite often I will go downstairs to make tea, unload the dishwasher, do a few jobs before I get showered for my day.

While I wouldn't necessarily implement it personally, I can see why it might work. Stop people faffing around and help them get the day started. If you just do this stuff automatically it saves a lot of mental energy. Days when I don't have a time to be up by I faff around and waste half the day.

There's a lot to be said for routine!

Fuck that.

One of the joys of the weekend is lounging around in your pjs.

Do they roll in fox poo at night or something?

Well, it wouldn't suit my family - I'm often to be found mooching around in my dressing gown and sons often appear in the kitchen in their boxers to forage from the fridge! Whatever suits your family is up to you though 🤷‍♀️

Menopausal night sweats.

Horrible. Awful place for kids to grow up

I don’t feel right if I’m still in pyjamas past breakfast time. It makes me feel like I’m having a sick day. It makes me less likely to go outside and do something with my day.

My 5 year old son doesn’t like getting dressed in the morning, but by 10 am or so I make him. Otherwise he gets dysregulated because he feels like the day has no plan or structure.

I do see where you’re coming from with that rule, it just goes a little further than I do 😄 I don’t begrudge my son his pyjama time but it does have to finish earlier than he’d like!

I couldn't be fussed with that .

It’s their HOME. It’s not a hotel. They should be allowed to wear whatever they want - it’s not affecting anyone else if they have pjs on. What a joyless way to parent.

We are very much a straight in shower, get dressed type family. I can’t say I’ve ever sat in pjs all day before, unless I was poorly.
If someone is in the bathroom then we will come downstairs and put kettle on in pjs until it’s free and take turns.
I Don’t think you are being unreasonable op in wanting your family to get up and dressed in the mornings, but I think it’s a bit much to make it a rule.