As the title says, it’s has come to light that the guy I’ve been on a few dates with ONLY has gay friends, (no straight male friends) and what makes me more so uncomfortable, that he appears to almost brag about it. Maybe I’m not explaining it properly, but it’s almost as if he thinks this raises his credibility and he almost uses their status for his own image?. I feel like this second point is the bigger issue.
The first/second dates he’d mention the following in conversation.
”I have this friend, Jane, she’s a lesbian. We met when some lads were picking on her and she was been chastised for her sexuality. I told them to do one. She has a hard time generally because she’s quite overweight too and she’s woke judge her on her appearance, but I see past that”
(I felt he was been minorly smug while saying this, and his attitude about her was condescending)
“I’ve asked my neighbour to take in a parcel, she’s a lesbian so I’ll pick that up from her tomorrow”
“My best friend Darren, who’s gay btw, is going to London”
“My friend and his boyfriend want to open a cafe”
(The way he said “boyfriend” was as if he was making a point of that and wanted me to take notice)
Fast forward to today, we had our 3rd date this afternoon.
He said all of his friends are from the LGBTQ community, and that he doesn’t like straight men because they’re “dickheads”.
I responded “Well, aren’t you a straight man?”
He said “Yes but I’m different that way I’m comfortable with my sexuality”
He is adamant he is 100% straight, never had any previous intimacy with men. Only ever been with women.
I don’t think it’s odd for a straight man to have gay friends, but I do think it’s odd to alienate your own demographic and label them all as “Dickheads” while only seeking out another community to have friendships within.
I’m a bit weirded out by today’s conversation and not sure I want to see him again.
Is this weird?