To think that people who say “money doesn’t matter” always have money?

[ByCheekyDreamer]

Only people who have never been broke believe that financial security isn’t one of the most important things in life.

I agree. Family member who's never experienced real hunger, worried about how they will pay their rent, have never gone without and had an idyllic childhood loves to spout on about money not being important, it's all about family. All while watching her family struggle with issues that money could solve. Including stopping their own daughter from becoming homeless after they fled a violent marriage. Money that they actually had but liked to sit on while watching people suffer.

Totally agree.

Yep. The same as people who say “you can be whatever you want to be if you just want it enough” are the people who made it.

I gave up aspiring to wealth years ago. I now only aspire to financial security, which increasingly feels like a pipe dream. Money very much does matter when the lack of it is a constant source of stress and anxiety.

Freedom, choice , security and good health is all I want and I know money can solve all that .

Ha like Green Party supporters, many are wealthy enough to be as left wing they want to be as they’ll always be able to pay their bills.
It’s privilage mate. I’ve never had a partner who earns more than pretty much minimum wage but surrounded by wealthy families where the man supports the family and wife can dip in and out for yoga etc. People like this will never understand what it’s like to have done everything on your own, at great and continuous personal struggle and sacrifice. The next person I date will damn well have some money!

Yes. I've never had money really. I grew up in a family that would probably be described as in poverty now. I'm not a high earner and probably never will be because short of something really unexpected I don't have the skill set to progress much higher in my job. We make it to pay day with a few pounds left usually so we're managing but that's as far as it goes thanks to the COL situation. It's always people with money who say it doesn't matter.

I think it depends how they mean it. If they genuinely mean that having any amount of money at all doesn’t make a difference or matter to them, then they are sheltered and deluded.

But if it’s a clumsy way of saying ‘being wealthy’ doesn’t matter, then I actually know lots of people who are happy to live a simple life, with no ambition to accumulate wealth beyond the essentials to keep everyone warm and fed.

Money matters up to the point that it creates financial security and a certain amount of choice; after that it doesn't buy happiness. It's been shown by research many times. It used to be that £55K was the approx. salary threshold in the UK after which happiness starts to flatline even as income goes up. I read that some years ago though and have not taken inflation into account!

It’s 120k now!

I have no time for them. They are usually left, leaning liberals with very secure backgrounds and private incomes.

Money is very important. Having enough to stay on the right side of the Micawber principle is very important.

This, with bells on

Let's not forget that the people who stay with crappy partners do so because they can't afford to leave, also the poor souls who have awful neighbours can't afford to move out. It's the little things .

And people who witter on about money bot making any difference when bad things happen in life...what bollocks. Money makes misery easier, it makes bad shit easier to deal with. When a parent dies, it's awful. But is better if you inherit a house and loads of money or you get nothing but a bill for the funeral, which you can't afford to pay?

See also: money can't buy happiness....yes it fucking can.

I disagree. But only because my sister and I are the opposite way around. She is quite financially insecure and has the ethos that money doesn’t matter, whereas I am very financially secure and believe that money matters a great deal.

Yes it’s definitely a privileged view to have and I always feel it’s so tone deaf.
ultimately no money itself cant buy you happiness, however it can make every single aspect of life easier and enable you to make decisions that can make you happier.

Yes. We know it's awful to lose parents and grandparents but it's going to happen to everyone, but it's better if you're not scrambling to pay for funerals and maybe gain even a small inheritance.
It may sound cold but it's reality.

Yes it fucking can . Win or inherit enough money to kiss goodbye to a job you hate , escape a shit relationship and shit neighbours .

To know you don't have to worry about bills or a mortgage or what to put in your food trolley . It must be heaven .

Money makes life run smoother and takes care of problems and can buy experiences .

Having a lot of money brings security and freedom and choice .

I'm still paying the credit card bill for my dads funeral 5 years ago 😢

i think what they mean is that money can’t make childhood trauma and depression go away, it can’t heal relationships, it can’t make someone whose wounded function healthily. A rich broken person would rather be a broke normal person

Agree. Having a parent dying. and expected ,is even worse if absolutely no financial security

I agree. Money buys choices. It makes grief more bearable. I think it's better to be poor and happy than rich and miserable. But far better to be rich and miserable than poor and miserable.

Yes, when I was young, my family was relatively wealthy and I thought money was no big deal. But when I grew up and started working, I felt that money was the last straw that broke the camel’s back.

Yep def, as someone who's never had much. I don't want to be rich just comfortable. I'd much rather have a world where everyone has financial security and a reasonable standard of living than one with billionaires and extreme povery. If I had an extra 25 to 30k a year, i'd feel to much more relaxed and happier.

I just paid for a private GP appointment. I am significantly happier and 'weller' than I was two weeks ago.