Page 4 | To think that people who say “money doesn’t matter” always have money?

ByCheekyDreamer · 2025-03-09T22:07:30+00:00

Only people who have never been broke believe that financial security isn’t one of the most important things in life.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 10/03/2025 17:21

coldcallerbaiter · 10/03/2025 15:41

Agreed apart from certain illnesses. I have known a several people whose millions could not save them from dying young.

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And having no money at all would have made that even worse, no?
I can't believe this needs to be pointed out again, again and again 😭.

Itssofunny · 10/03/2025 17:21

In discussions like these I often think of the Danish billionaire who lost 3 out of 4 children in a terrorist attack in Sri Lanka. Does money always bring happiness? I wouldn't want his life, even with all his billions.

And to the PP sure, I guess it would be worse to be on the poverty level while having 3 children murdered, but my point is that it's possible for a poor person to have a much happier life than a rich person.
https://www.bbc.com/news/business-48011075

Asos billionaire loses three children in Sri Lanka attacks

Danish billionaire Anders Holch Povlsen and his family were visiting Sri Lanka, where three of his four children died.

https://www.bbc.com/news/business-48011075

CrumpledInkBlott · 10/03/2025 19:47

JadeSeahorse · 10/03/2025 16:50

I definitely agree!

All the years DH and I worked, although we were both senior managers, our respective industries offered little in the way of job security. We had many scary times, sleepless nights and I vividly recall one summer during the late 90's where I had walked out of a bread winning position following months of bullying and DH was then made redundant from his PT teaching job - he was main carer for our severely disabled DD. Thankfully, I managed to negotiate £20k out of my previous employers but otherwise we had no income. We had 3 months of virtually not sleeping worrying we may lose our recently purchased home.

Almost 30 years later we are both retired, mortgage free and financially set for life thanks to sensible pensions and some healthy investments once we were both back earning.

The feeling of being able to go to bed every night never having to worry about a bill ever again is priceless and certainly gives you a much different perspective. Our NDN last year mentioned they needed some work doing to their house and it was going to cost around £8k. My initial unspoken thought was why don't they just have it done and then had to sharply rebuke myself and remind myself most people would have to save hard for that amount.

I can relate to mostly everything you have said in your post . We have had our backs to the wall a few times and got through it and like you prepared for the future . I am now in the financial position you are in . I sleep better and my skin condition that was aggravated by stress has gone . I also stayed in jobs that I was unhappy in because I had to . Not having to do those jobs anymore is bliss .

Regretsmorethanafew · 10/03/2025 20:33

Itssofunny · 10/03/2025 17:21

In discussions like these I often think of the Danish billionaire who lost 3 out of 4 children in a terrorist attack in Sri Lanka. Does money always bring happiness? I wouldn't want his life, even with all his billions.

And to the PP sure, I guess it would be worse to be on the poverty level while having 3 children murdered, but my point is that it's possible for a poor person to have a much happier life than a rich person.
https://www.bbc.com/news/business-48011075

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Even in that horrific circumstance, he's better off rich than poor. He just is. He can start a foundation with his billions in his children's names, he can pay for the best therapy for his child and family.....
His money doesn't make him happy after that, but as we keep saying, money makes misery simpler.

RitaAndFrank · 10/03/2025 20:40

Agree. Met up with an old friend recently who had been going through a tough time with her dd. She mentioned a couple of times over the weekend that (the great wealth that her husband had managed to accumulate) meant ‘nothing’. However, I couldn’t help but feel that without the on-hand therapist for her dd, the constant family holidays and her children’s private schooling, my friend might not be quite so blasé about the clear reliance that her family seems to have on money and all the many wonders that it buys.

louderthan · 10/03/2025 21:31

Money doesn't buy happiness; it makes being unhappy far more bearable which is pretty much the same thing in my book. Money can buy you time, freedom and choices which are three of the key things that contribute to happiness for me. It can also buy you and your family therapy, healthcare and dental care.

CrumpledInkBlott · 10/03/2025 22:58

louderthan · 10/03/2025 21:31

Money doesn't buy happiness; it makes being unhappy far more bearable which is pretty much the same thing in my book. Money can buy you time, freedom and choices which are three of the key things that contribute to happiness for me. It can also buy you and your family therapy, healthcare and dental care.

Well said and it can buy experiences that create happiness every time you think about that experience.

KittenPause · 10/03/2025 23:00

Also you can be completely skint but know that you have a cushion from parents or family so you'll think money doesn't matter

HRTQueen · 10/03/2025 23:05

I agree

or money doesn’t make you happy it’s so patronising we know it doesn’t make you happy but it allows you choices in life that makes life easier

FrozzyBrain · 10/03/2025 23:36

In the darkest times of my depression I thought that I could win 100m on the lottery but I’d still want to kill myself.
No amount of money could’ve fixed my brain.

Doingtheboxerbeat · 10/03/2025 23:56

FrozzyBrain · 10/03/2025 23:36

In the darkest times of my depression I thought that I could win 100m on the lottery but I’d still want to kill myself.
No amount of money could’ve fixed my brain.

Sorry you've been through that ,( I've been there too) but the point was that if you were poor enough to have been facing eviction and a job loss then things would have been so much worse.

KimberleyClark · 11/03/2025 00:14

Pumpkincozynights · 10/03/2025 07:56

See also people who say they would never bother with another serious relationship, whilst they themselves are in a secure loving, relationship.

You could just as well say that people who say romantic love/being in a relationship are overrated are always single.

Crikeyalmighty · 11/03/2025 09:14

As my mother always said when she remarried ( a very comfortably off guy) and wasn't that happy after a few years ---- 'it allowed her to be miserable in comfort' - bit of a depressing thought I know.

PassingStranger · 11/03/2025 09:58

Regretsmorethanafew · 10/03/2025 17:16

Nah. Stuff totally makes you happy. Having nice clothes that fit and flatter you makes you feel good, having nice jewellery, your hair cut and highlighted , it absolutely makes you happier than having none of those things.
Being able to afford nights out, meals, holidays...it all makes you happy.
I repeat...money absofuckinglutely buys happiness.

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If that was the case nobody rich would ever unhappy and that's certainly not the case in.life.
Many couples who aren't rich have stayed together, and rich ones have divorced..

Regretsmorethanafew · 11/03/2025 11:13

PassingStranger · 11/03/2025 09:58

If that was the case nobody rich would ever unhappy and that's certainly not the case in.life.
Many couples who aren't rich have stayed together, and rich ones have divorced..

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No, you've misunderstood. But I've already explained multiple times and can't be bothered again.

Papyrophile · 11/03/2025 12:13

"Wealth is preferable to poverty, if only for financial reasons" said Woody Allen.

overthinkersanonnymus · 11/03/2025 12:25

KittenPause · 10/03/2025 23:00

Also you can be completely skint but know that you have a cushion from parents or family so you'll think money doesn't matter

This is my BIL and it really pisses me off.

MrsSunshine2b · 11/03/2025 14:55

Money doesn't matter if having a bit less money would mean shopping at Tesco a bit more and Waitrose a bit less, or staying in a 4* hotel on one of your holidays for the year.

It matters quite a bit if it would mean your children are cold and hungry and you're being evicted from your home.

Fairyladyonwheels · 23/04/2025 13:22

Money is like oxygen! Without it life is crap. You need money to eat, live and it basically solves most problems. Growing up with nothing is a reality check to how important money is.