Brief history :- I am a mum to 3 children, husband (not divorced yet but living apart, moved on, etc.) and boyfriend. Boyfriend has 2 children (1 he sees, 1 he doesn't).
When husband left, changed mortgage to interest only (lots of equity in the house), since changed back to repayment (15 months now).
I work part-time and like/deserve my holidays.
Went to Tenerife at Easter for 1 week (children spent one week at their dads), went away for the next week but eldest daughter (15) didn't want to come - wanted to see her school friends/boyfriend, etc. so me, my mum and 2 youngest went to Tenerife. Eldest DD stayed with her dad (part week) and my boyfriend (part week).
Have also booked to go to Tenerife half term week in October with myself, my mum, my 3 children, my brother and his 3 children (all 'roughly' the same age). My eldest is looking forward to Tenerife in October as she will be with her cousin.
Have also booked to go to Turkey for 2 weeks on 19 August (again me, my mum, my boyfriend, my 3 children). Eldest again doesn't want to come as she will be at her dads for 2 weeks and then we go away for 2 weeks and she will not see her friends/boy friend.
My boyfriend has not been away with me for the last 2/3 years as he cannot afford it - owes me £10,000 (yes, ten thousand) and my mum £15,000 (yes, fifteen thousand) and his mum £20,000 (yes, twenty thousand - she remortgaged) as he started his own company (now closed) and had cash flow problems (don't we all!).
(1) My eldest doesn't want to go to Turkey for 2 weeks after spending 2 weeks at her dads - hates the sun, hates a sun-tan, etc., (2) my 2 youngest have had one week in Tenerife with me and my mum, and (3) all my children will have 1 week in Tenerife (different hotel, different resort) in October.
When I booked the holiday (last November), my boyfriend knew what it was costing, I paid the deposit (only £300) for all of us and he know when the holiday was due to be paid (27 May) - now he tells me he doesn't have the money and can I pay for it and he will pay me back (like all the other money he owes me, I think not!!).
Today, after speaking to my mum, I am thinking of cancelling Turkey for all of us and I will go away with my mum for 2 weeks when the children are with their dad.
... so am I being unreasonable to cancel the 'family' holiday (my boyfriend included) and just go with my mum (the children don't care either way - they don't need holidays like I do!)