Horrified about DP’s sexist comments about IWD

[ThisFastLion]

We hosted friends last night, it was quite boozy and the topic turned to International Women’s Day.

My DP started ranting about how ridiculous it is and that men aren’t afforded the same ‘treatment’. He then questioned what happens on this day, and suggested ‘all the women should do the ironing’ whilst the men go down the pub. None of my friends nor their partners laughed at this and it was an incredibly awkward atmosphere for the final hour of the night.

i had a huge go at DP when everyone left and he simply doubled down and said he was joking.

AIBU to find that completely inappropriate?

In some countries women aren't given rights but flowers. It's customary to give a bunch of flowers to the ladies for being such pretty little things.

This.

What a dumbass.

It's been a year and he's not being as careful and the mask slipped to expose his misogyny.

He was playing to the men who were around and at least they weren't having it. They saw just what that was and weren't amused.

Boys will be boys is an excuse to rugsweep unacceptable behaviour.

I actually got given flowers with a purple ribbon by the building management, as were all the women. Suddenly easy to figure out who the women are. Anyway sorry to derail, yes the OPs bloke is a fucking twat who can find a tradwife.

I bet they have no pay gap and an equal amount of women in management. They have nothing further to do apart from celebrate the ladies.

He's got comfortable enough to start showing his true colours....which are gross.

I wouldn't want an apology. It's just words, and even if he gives one it'll just be because he wants you to stop mentioning it. It won't be sincere - if it was, he'd have immediately apologised and been ashamed of himself. Or, you know... not said it in the first place.

He's a misogynistic twat, and he's shown you who he is. Why do you want an apology? How can you honestly move forward knowing he thinks like this - "joke" or not? I don't think making sexist jokes is funny. Do you? Would you be willing to dismiss it as a joke if he'd said something racist? I hate how women are so indoctrinated to brush off sexist comments as jokes and banter, accept them and move on. It's repugnant.

I'd never be able to touch the fucker again.

That's what I mean about observance. We've had the legal right to equal pay since 1970. I was born after 1970, and equal pay has not been something I have been able to take for granted in my career - and I haven't had maternity breaks, which they often use as an excuse. I've usually been better qualified and at least as well experienced, if not more so, than my male peers.

Men also have the right to work full time and do housework and childcare. It is an issue thst many don't.

Apologies are utterly meaningless.
Actions are what count.
He has shown you in his verbal actions that he doesn't respect women.

Clearly you are going to accept this.
That's fine, your life.
Don't kid yourself that this won't crop up again and don't pretend you weren't warn.

He's a twat and now your friends know.
Subtle backing away from ye as a couple will likely commence.

Discerning people invariably cannot be arsed with uneducated twats.

He will embarrass you again.

"This is the first time he’s made any comments of that nature"

This should also be the last time he says them too as you kick his backside to the kerb. He's shown you what he really thinks ("in vino veritas" - "in wine, there is truth").

With him around, I can't see your friends sticking around much anymore either.