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Supermarket staff wearing a keffiyeh

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Alpaccas · 07/03/2025 22:35

I saw a member of staff wearing a keffiyeh today in Sainsbury’s. Do you think it’s a bit too political for a member of staff to be wearing, whilst wearing their work uniform?

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OKNerd · 08/03/2025 14:14

Izzy54321 · 08/03/2025 14:04

@AthWat where did I say anyone was fair game?? What I said was it is war and any death is terrible. The 50,000 deaths have been debunked. Hamas used the 50,000 as a guess including people who died from cancer or old age. Hamas have admitted that themselves. I see you are questioning my beliefs the exact question I have been asked at work, making me as a Jewish feel like I am personally responsible for what the Israeli government do. I was born here I am a British Jew I want peace I want the hostages returned. Why don’t you ask yourself why you feel the need to question what I think? Why are you holding me responsible? It’s not the gotcha moment you think it is.

The wearing of the scarf is encouraging more hate, the weekly marches need to stop, the hate towards Jews in Britain needs to stop. If it was your children being murdered and paraded I am 100% sure you would agree with me.

I am not Jewish but I am an ally of Jewish people and I stand with you and promise to call out hate even in its smallest form. What people don’t realise is the small ways they perpetuate very ancient and hateful beliefs about Jewish people, the same beliefs that led no one to give any fucks when Jews were tortured during pogroms and marched in ghettos less than 100 years ago. All in the name of progression. I see these people. Many of us do

LBFseBrom · 08/03/2025 14:15

Alpaccas · 07/03/2025 22:39

It was clearly not cultural. It was political in this case.

How did you know, did you ask the person?

I can't get over how observant you are, I doubt anyone else noticed what a staff member was wearing.

Greywhippet · 08/03/2025 14:23

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 12:49

And you really must stop conflating religious symbols/dress with political statements. They are two totally different things.

I have absolutely no issue at all with being served by a lady wearing a hijab for example..that's her religion. But a pro Palestinian badge would make me feel deeply uncomfortable.

Each to their own. It would make me feel thankful that someone else thought the destruction of Gaza was something to protest against. I would think bravo

Izzy54321 · 08/03/2025 14:24

@OKNerd Thank You so much I have good friends who are the same as you, calling out the hate towards me and my family. We need all the help we can get. My Grandparents fled just as WW2 started but many members of my family were murdered. I thank you of behalf of all Jews everywhere.

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 14:24

Greywhippet · 08/03/2025 14:23

Each to their own. It would make me feel thankful that someone else thought the destruction of Gaza was something to protest against. I would think bravo

Well as long as you're alright....

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:26

Izzy54321 · 08/03/2025 14:04

@AthWat where did I say anyone was fair game?? What I said was it is war and any death is terrible. The 50,000 deaths have been debunked. Hamas used the 50,000 as a guess including people who died from cancer or old age. Hamas have admitted that themselves. I see you are questioning my beliefs the exact question I have been asked at work, making me as a Jewish feel like I am personally responsible for what the Israeli government do. I was born here I am a British Jew I want peace I want the hostages returned. Why don’t you ask yourself why you feel the need to question what I think? Why are you holding me responsible? It’s not the gotcha moment you think it is.

The wearing of the scarf is encouraging more hate, the weekly marches need to stop, the hate towards Jews in Britain needs to stop. If it was your children being murdered and paraded I am 100% sure you would agree with me.

What you said was "The celebrations that took place afterwards were unhinged so yes those Palestinians", implying that anyone who celebrated deserved to be treated like the murderers.

The death toll has not been "debunked" at all. The Israelis say it is lower, everyone else says it is higher. I imagine you think that every other source of information in the world is suspect and only the Israelis can be trusted.

I have no idea why you think I hold you responsible for the Israeli government. I don't think they represent even all the people of Israel, let alone all Jewish people in the world. Why on earth would I? That's a conflation you are making, not me. Only the Israeli government and they who voted for them are responsble for their actions. Can you quote the lines of mine you believe think show that I am holding you responsible, please? Because there are none.

However, you are arguing that Israeli actions are justified. So I will ask you this. I know you deny that the death toll is accurate, so what do you put it at? Do you accept any innocent Palestinian children have been killed?
If so, how many is it acceptable to kill to get back the hostages? If you were in charge, where would you draw the line? A thousand? Two thousand? Ten for each hostage? Which?

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 14:27

Izzy54321 · 08/03/2025 14:24

@OKNerd Thank You so much I have good friends who are the same as you, calling out the hate towards me and my family. We need all the help we can get. My Grandparents fled just as WW2 started but many members of my family were murdered. I thank you of behalf of all Jews everywhere.

Absolutely...I second that sentiment.

Unfortunately this thread shows us just how many other people there are who don't care at all about how Jewish people in the UK feel....

EasternStandard · 08/03/2025 14:28

@Comedycook I do. And workplaces should be aware not everyone is comfortable with various things.

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 08/03/2025 14:28

28Fluctuations · 08/03/2025 10:56

If that was my staffroom, I'd take it down every time it appeared.

You are either:

Accurately reflecting the non-work-related views of every person in your workplace.

Or. Intimidating your colleagues, who may be too scared or sickened to stand up to the intimidation.

I'd make sure I had products from the companies listed on the poster.

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:29

OKNerd · 08/03/2025 14:14

I am not Jewish but I am an ally of Jewish people and I stand with you and promise to call out hate even in its smallest form. What people don’t realise is the small ways they perpetuate very ancient and hateful beliefs about Jewish people, the same beliefs that led no one to give any fucks when Jews were tortured during pogroms and marched in ghettos less than 100 years ago. All in the name of progression. I see these people. Many of us do

Perhaps you can tell me how saying "I don't think these circumstances warrant the bombing of civilians and deaths of thousands of childrens and innocents" serves to " perpetuate very ancient and hateful beliefs about Jewish people".

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:30

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 14:27

Absolutely...I second that sentiment.

Unfortunately this thread shows us just how many other people there are who don't care at all about how Jewish people in the UK feel....

I care about how Jewish people feel and I care about how Palestinian people feel. Do you?

Izzy54321 · 08/03/2025 14:32

@Comedycook Thank you for being an ally too. It is quite bad here but you won’t see it on mainstream media. With support from friends and strangers it gives Jews hope Thank you.

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 14:32

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:30

I care about how Jewish people feel and I care about how Palestinian people feel. Do you?

Have I said anything which suggests otherwise?

I am perplexed that you have even asked me that.

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 14:34

Izzy54321 · 08/03/2025 14:32

@Comedycook Thank you for being an ally too. It is quite bad here but you won’t see it on mainstream media. With support from friends and strangers it gives Jews hope Thank you.

Im Jewish too... although I'm non practising but it's an important part of my identity

LBFseBrom · 08/03/2025 14:34

Jalopy77 · 08/03/2025 13:08

It's Lent

It is Lent, it is also Ramadan. It will soon be Passover.

Where I live there are many cultural and religious celebrations, always something going on. I enjoy it.

Eid is great fun.

LBFseBrom · 08/03/2025 14:36

CaptainMyCaptain · 08/03/2025 13:05

I have no such fears. Some schools are more multi cultural than yours and many schools learn about a variety of religious festivals.

Yes they do and quite right too.

HermioneWeasley · 08/03/2025 14:37

MiserableMrsMopp · 08/03/2025 11:23

I'm not missing the point. MY point is that it is FREEDOM of expression to wear what we want.

Hijab
Keffiyah
Yahmulke
BLM badge
Peace symbol

No one gets to police what another person wears (or shouldn't try to).

I don’t think you understand how uniforms work

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:54

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 14:32

Have I said anything which suggests otherwise?

I am perplexed that you have even asked me that.

Yes, you seem to be suggesting that showing any sympathy for the Palestinian people who are dying in tens of thousands in Gaza is insensitive.

Comedycook · 08/03/2025 15:02

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:54

Yes, you seem to be suggesting that showing any sympathy for the Palestinian people who are dying in tens of thousands in Gaza is insensitive.

What does showing a visible sign of support, like a badge or keffiyeh actually mean though? Does it mean sympathy for the Palestinian people...or does it mean hoping for the destruction and removal of the only Jewish state in the world? Does it mean sympathy for the Palestinian people or does it mean supporting Hamas? How are people meant to know what it means without further context. And why show support for that particular cause over others? How about a badge showing their support for the people of Sudan or the DRC? There's all sorts of causes around the world which one could support....wonder why this one is so popular?!

LBFseBrom · 08/03/2025 15:11

A keffiyeh can mean solidarity with the Palestinian cause but can also be cultural or someone wears it because they like it. Without asking the Sainsbury's member of staff why he (I presume it was a 'he'), wears one, we don't know and I doubt the op did that. I think it's more a case of jumping to a conclusion. If it was a young person, young people wear all sorts of things and often adhere to different causes, that is part of being young. This thread is taking it far too seriously.

Here is an article which may be of interest:
www.vogue.co.uk/article/keffiyeh-meaning#:~:text=So%2C%20in%201938%2C%20rebel%20leaders,occupation%20of%20Palestine%20matters%2C%20too.

28Fluctuations · 08/03/2025 15:23

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:54

Yes, you seem to be suggesting that showing any sympathy for the Palestinian people who are dying in tens of thousands in Gaza is insensitive.

I understand that you can't get ypur head around anyone taking a different stance to you.

It's really this simple: the Palestinian/Israeli war is a massively contentious issue.

Wearing a keffiyeh at work is a political statement in support of Palestine/ the Palestinian people.

I get that really really really cannot imagine that anyone would take offence, or feel threatened.

But lots of people disagree with you. Lots of people - mainly Jewish people - do indeed feel threatened and intimidated by outward signs of support for Palestine.

So... don't bring the contentious position to work. Pop on the t-shirt, wave the flag, whatever... outside of work.

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 08/03/2025 15:23

LBFseBrom · 08/03/2025 14:15

How did you know, did you ask the person?

I can't get over how observant you are, I doubt anyone else noticed what a staff member was wearing.

Edited

You don't think anyone would notice a Sainsbury's staff member in a keffiyeh? Really?

Where do you live, off the Edgeware Road?

And perhaps the OP knew because the person wearing it was not an Arab.

OKNerd · 08/03/2025 15:33

AthWat · 08/03/2025 14:29

Perhaps you can tell me how saying "I don't think these circumstances warrant the bombing of civilians and deaths of thousands of childrens and innocents" serves to " perpetuate very ancient and hateful beliefs about Jewish people".

Because it fails to acknowledge that innocent civilians are dying as a result of war…like every war….that was started PURELY because whole classes of people want Jewish people off the face of the earth. It also buys into the trope that the Jewish people are The Bad Guys - and their enemies are poor and defenceless. e. This is demonstrably untrue. It refuses to acknowledge just how vulnerable the world’s Jewish population truly ar. It also raises the question of why when so many other religions are committing genocide on wars they DID start, no one cares.

LBFseBrom · 08/03/2025 15:38

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas, I live on the outskirts of London, it's fairly multicultural. I am sure I wouldn't notice, I'm not particularly observant and if I did, I'd think nothing of it. Neither would I notice whether someone was or was not an Arab unless they were in full Arab gear, like this: https://desertdress.com/6-piece-full-arabic-mens-dress-costume-1-thobe-2-bisht-3-shemagh-4-kufi-5-trousers-6-igal/. in which case I'd assume they were someone important or attending a function. I'm pretty sure never seen a supermarket worker dressed like that :-).

What does Edgware Road have to do with anything? I know it is very long and has many restaurants, some Egyptian. When I was working in town I twice went out for a meal there, once for a curry and once a Lebanese meal, both lovely.

JustSawJohnny · 08/03/2025 15:54

ExcessiveNumberOfNinjas · 08/03/2025 13:25

Well that's interesting because if he wasn't white and red headed with an Irish heritage but Korean or African or Sri Lankan, then white kids commenting on his appearance and showing an interest in his ethnicity/colouring, even if done in a genuinely interested and accepting way, would still be considered the very definition of unintentional/inherent racism, or a racist micro-aggression by many and it would be handled as such by some schools if a complaint were made.

It's not like that at all but you clearly have an agenda of 'poor white folk' which I have zero interest in.

Off you pop.