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Inheritance to adopted child

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harlacem0507 · 07/03/2025 21:53

This is a very delicate/awkward post but I just need some advice.

My grandfather died 3 weeks ago, expected, a good age of 93, we were all with him. His will stipulates that his house/money goes to his 3 children, should any of them pass away before he did, the money that child was due to get goes to their children.

My dad passed away 3 years ago suddenly. I'm still grieving and will never get over it. However, my parents adopted me when I was 4 years old. My uncle (he's awful) has dropped hints that he will contest the will because I am not a biological child and I shouldn't get my father's share. My question is, will be have a case? The best of it is, I'm not bothered about the money, I have money and my OH has a good job and it won't be millions but still a good amount obviously, but it hurts more because he obviously doesn't see me as 'real' family? I mean that in itself just devastates me but what also bothers me is that I don't want him to get my dad's share either because he doesn't deserve it after what he has said about his own brothers daughter. Does it matter if I'm adopted?

OP posts:
PurpleFlower1983 · 10/03/2025 19:44

No, if you were legally adopted then the portion that would have gone to your dad will go to you. Your uncle has no case. It’s expensive and very difficult to contest a will anyway.

TheaBrandt1 · 10/03/2025 21:02

I wish layman would not post their nonsense on these threads. You do not need to name individuals in the will. Many people make their wills then have further children / grandchildren. It is perfectly normal and correct to have a class gift to “my children” or “my grandchildren” which would then include additional members of the class born after making the will but before your death.

On the facts you’ve given he has no claim op. Sorry you are related to such a twat.

auderesperare · 10/03/2025 21:11

I was so touched when my father died to see he specified the will to include any future adopted children my siblings and I might have. We’d all completed our families and our childbearing years were behind us but on the off-chance we died before him and had adopted after his will was written, any adopted future children would have been specifically included in his will. OP you and your mum will make much better use of your rightful inheritance than you greedy, scheming uncle ever could. It sounds like he may find himself ostracised from the rest of the family if he pulls this appalling stunt.

typicaltuesdaynight · 10/03/2025 21:31

I'm adopted and I would be devasted if family members thought of me that way. It's the only family I know and I've never felt anything but belonging to my adopted parents , they are very much my only family . Legally it goes to you . You are seen as his child through court of law. I would concentrate with you vile'uncle'

JudgeMenthol · 11/03/2025 07:22

Has it been established who the executor of the Will is?
If its a solicitor I'm sure they will tell your Uncle that he doesn't have a leg to stand on.
If your Uncle is one of the executors I would be a bit more wary - although from what you've said in your posts hopefully your grandad may have been aware of your Uncles horrible attitudes, and chosen someone more appropriate.

GreatFish · 11/03/2025 11:58

What a vile person.Greed always shows its ugly face in situations like this.

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