Partner putting the art back on the wall after I removed it

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Partner and I are moving house in a week. We have a 7 month old and a 2.5 year old. I have pretty much done all the packing myself - partner has this frustrating attitude of “it will get done”…

Anyway I removed all the art from the walls this evening and he’s come home from work and said why did I do that, he’s just going to put it all back up???

He said it takes 30 seconds what’s the point, and that having the art keeps the flat looking nice… The point is it’s the accumulation of 1,0000000 things that “only take” 30 seconds, 5 minutes, etc. it’s knowing we are done and we can just leave the house and not have loads of shit to do on what will already be a very busy day… please remember we have 2 children under 3.

I know it’s a stressful time - esp for us, moving home and having a baby and a toddler, but AIBU to think he’s being absolutely ridiculous here??

I am planning to marry him next year and he is usually really reasonable but sometimes he gets a bee in his bonnet about something like this and I just don’t understand it, at all.

YABU - keep the art up, it takes 30 seconds to remove and looks nice
YANBU - it’s one more thing to do on what will already be a ridiculously stressful day

I'd make it his problem. If he doesn't want something packed in advance it goes on his to do list for the day of the move.

I'd leave it up and just remind him, several times if need be, on moving day that he needs to take it down.

He’s responsible for it on the day then. Even if it gets forgotten or smashed in transit because he hasn’t packed it properly. Same as all the other stuff he’s not bothering to help with.

On moving day, you take the children and leave it to him, after all it will only take him 30 seconds!

He better be taking the day before the move off just to pack if he cant live with empty walls for a week

Honestly! It’s a couple of prints off Etsy, we’re hardly bloody high end collectors. Also all of our decor is packed up already so it honestly looks a bit ridiculous. Sparse rooms and then a huge print on the wall

What’s unreasonable is that he’s asked why you removed something that’s being packed for a house move when you’re packing the house for a move. Like, I can see his point of view of thinking to leave it to the last minute but putting them back now it’s done Isn’t just unreasonable, it’s borderline insane?

That’s the plan! He’s also said this about the food cupboard, wouldn’t let me pack up the food and leave a few essentials - salt, pepper, peanut butter etc - in case I decide to channel Heston Blumenthal and use all the garam masala and jerk seasoning to make a culinary delight

Yeah so he hasn’t actually done it yet, more of an annoyed threat. I wouldn’t put it past him though

He's being an arse. I've moved multiple times over the years. We've always done the packing ourselves and the last couple of days you're basically camping because everything has been packed!

It'll need wrapped thought tp protect it? I think this was one of the first things I did when we moved!

Yeah, I will def make it his problem on the day! Tbf we are very different, I am v type A with a spreadsheet of things to do and he’s more of a “go with the flow” kind of guy. Although I do wonder how much of the flow he’d be able to go with if he didn’t have me in the background orchestrating things / feeding his children / setting up direct debits, etc. like the man is 33 and has never directly paid council tax - I just tell him how much to transfer…

Yeah I’ve bubble wrapped it! So if he does remove it and put it back up he’ll be an absolute knob

The only way I'd say he has a point is that if it's "good" art that might get damaged, and can't be easily replaced, the safest place for it while you pack is probably the walls.
We had some paintings on the floor propped up against the wall for a while (long story) and it was quite a worry that they would get damaged where they were. We ended up packing them all up in huge sheets of cardboard, but I'm not convinced they're really very safe still.

It is decidedly not good art 😂 I mean, they’re pretty, but they’re not valuable by any means

It's all very well saying to make it his job on moving day but that just makes him unavailable for other jobs that need doing then.

Are you absolutely certain that marrying this man will enhance your life? A lazy, tedious man who 'doesn't let' you do things.

Omg exactly. This is what I’m trying to tell him. He’s already said he’s happy to go back and forth with boxes in his car that won’t fit in the van and leave me with the 2 kids to “unpack”…. Like no thanks, I’d much rather drive thanks.

Haha, no I do quite like him 😉 To be fair this is his absolute worst and oddest trait. He has lots of good qualities too!

Ah sod 'im then. Stick them in a big bag with cardboard sheets between to stop them getting scratched and crack-on.
If he doesn't like it, he can manage all those "5-minute" things on moving day while you nip to a spa.

In my opinion, life is too short for this type of "compromise".
Living alone is and always has been the best.

I’ll let my 7 month old know he’s got a week to find a new place

This ^ I’d kill him. Unless I loved it myself, I’d bloody well leave it there lol Definite him problem on the day.

I couldn't tolerate somebody that had such a lackadaisical attitude, he would drive me up the wall.

Tell him he needs to pull his finger out and start helping with the move and that you find his lack of enthusiasm and any physical effort to be extremely tedious.

You beat me to it, HaudYer!

Seriously, it would be best if you removed the children from the chaos of the move. You've packed, you've done your share, now it's time for him to do his. After all, "it will get done", right? It just needs him to do it. You'll be busy wrangling a baby and a toddler.