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Partner putting the art back on the wall after I removed it

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Illprobsregretthis · 07/03/2025 18:02

Partner and I are moving house in a week. We have a 7 month old and a 2.5 year old. I have pretty much done all the packing myself - partner has this frustrating attitude of “it will get done”…

Anyway I removed all the art from the walls this evening and he’s come home from work and said why did I do that, he’s just going to put it all back up???

He said it takes 30 seconds what’s the point, and that having the art keeps the flat looking nice… The point is it’s the accumulation of 1,0000000 things that “only take” 30 seconds, 5 minutes, etc. it’s knowing we are done and we can just leave the house and not have loads of shit to do on what will already be a very busy day… please remember we have 2 children under 3.

I know it’s a stressful time - esp for us, moving home and having a baby and a toddler, but AIBU to think he’s being absolutely ridiculous here??

I am planning to marry him next year and he is usually really reasonable but sometimes he gets a bee in his bonnet about something like this and I just don’t understand it, at all.

YABU - keep the art up, it takes 30 seconds to remove and looks nice
YANBU - it’s one more thing to do on what will already be a ridiculously stressful day

OP posts:
beachcitygirl · 08/03/2025 03:46

My blood is boiling on your behalf
I have and I mean this most sincerely and I went the long way round and kissed ALL the frogs. But I have a useless partner in practical terms. Whereas I'm queen of a spreadsheet

On moving day I made him go visit a friend for 2 days and made him
Pay for packers and removal men

Every fucking thing I packed in the preceeding weeks he bloody unpacked

Lost my shit. Put my foot down and I appreciate him for the strengths he does have,
Kindness., intelligence, great father. My best pal, wonderful writer and loaded & da bomb in bed but never ever ever again will
He have anything to do with anything practical .

If yours is good in every other way - hey ho.
If he's just an arse then kick him
Into touch

autisticbookworm · 08/03/2025 04:59

I'd tell him anything he unpacks will be his responsibility on moving day.

Are you putting dc in child care. If not after initial move I'd take dc out and leave him to it.

HairOfFineStraw · 08/03/2025 07:51

Are these held on with a nail or other fixtures because wouldn't they need repairing to get your deposit back?

Loopytiles · 08/03/2025 07:56

Easy to ‘go with the flow’ when someone else is doing the work. Shit way to treat you and poor parenting too.

Illprobsregretthis · 08/03/2025 08:03

HairOfFineStraw · 08/03/2025 07:51

Are these held on with a nail or other fixtures because wouldn't they need repairing to get your deposit back?

Nails that were already there. The landlord had their own paintings up and we replaced them with our own. So nothing to do there.

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Illprobsregretthis · 08/03/2025 08:04

Loopytiles · 08/03/2025 07:56

Easy to ‘go with the flow’ when someone else is doing the work. Shit way to treat you and poor parenting too.

Poor parenting?? How so?

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Loopytiles · 08/03/2025 09:23

Doing practical stuff to do with providing housing/home is an important part of parenting. A move is an upheaval for DC. At a key point he’s not doing the stuff: poor parenting. Secondary to his poor treatment of you.

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