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Would you be grossed out by homemade baked good in care package?

635 replies

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 15:35

I am helping my sister put together care packages for her wedding. She is paying for the wedding party to stay in a posh hotel for a few nights. We are going to leave little care packages on the bed. I have an exceptional brownie recipe and was going to leave a trio of favours in the box. But sister’s SIL says she would never eat a homemade treat due to hygiene reasons.

obviously I will be clinically clean and wil even wear a hair net as I couldn’t think of anything worse than someone finding a hair.

Who is being weird?

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TheMorels · 07/03/2025 17:45

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/03/2025 17:43

Nobody's answered this yet, unless I've missed it. What is the risk people think they are taking by eating home-baked cake? What hygiene problem might you have from eating something made from fat, sugar, eggs, flour and flavourings that's been baked in a hot oven for long enough to kill off all sorts of germs and cook the egg through?

It wouldn’t occur to me that it might make anyone sick, it’s just the ick factor. Less than clean kitchen, less than clean hands etc.

Boomer55 · 07/03/2025 17:46

Not sure why wedding guests would need a care package. 🤷‍♀️. If I knew the cook well, I’d probably eat it - other than that, no chance.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 07/03/2025 17:46

Every time you touch a doorhandle you are encountering that ick factor. How often do you fall ill as a result? If our immune systems were that fragile, the human race would have died out long ago.

MajorCarolDanvers · 07/03/2025 17:46

I think it’s a lovely idea but as you can see lots of people are weird about it.

Weepixie · 07/03/2025 17:47

Yes. I’d eat them.

Buttonless · 07/03/2025 17:49

I would eat it. Better a good home bake any day.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 07/03/2025 17:49

I'd eat them.

Zone2NorthLondon · 07/03/2025 17:49

In fairness MN is not representative of real life. MN posters articulate ticks, quirks,and revulsion not seen in RL but evident on mn in what they will or won’t do .Such as declining home made cake. Such as believing commercial made cake = quality

user2848502016 · 07/03/2025 17:49

I probably wouldn't eat them if I didn't know the baker sorry!

Drbrowns · 07/03/2025 17:50

Sleepygrumpyandnothappy · 07/03/2025 15:44

The sister’s SIL must be a mumsnetter. It didn’t even occur to me that people felt like this about home cooking until I read it on here.

This

SiobhanSharpe · 07/03/2025 17:52

I love homemade cakes, in the main they are vastly superior to just about anything you can buy. I have friends who are skilled bakers, my bestie makes the best Victoria sponge ever, super light, moist and fluffy (and big, you really get a decent slice...)
However I once bought something masquerading as a brownie at a school bake sale - the baker couldn't have eaten a real brownie in their life. It was a beige-brown slab of cheerless, over-baked, dry-as-dust waste of calories. There might have been a hint if cocoa powder in it but it was difficult to tell. So sad.
(I'm sure the OP's are gooey, fudgy, chocolatey bars of gorgeousness and I would eat them in a New York minute. )
I think it's a lovely idea, I can well remember times when I've been at a wedding late in the evening and it seems a looong while since we ate. Might be just me.

Donostiera · 07/03/2025 17:54

My goodness, I would never even think of not eating it (if it was something I like eating)

LittleBigHead · 07/03/2025 17:55

I’d love them! The resisters can send them to me.

Gundogday · 07/03/2025 17:55

I’d eat them without a second thought.

JustAnotherDayWorkingAtHome · 07/03/2025 17:55

I'm confused you are making brownies for wedding guests so people you know. Why would they not eat it? Do they not got to dinner at friends houses and eat food there? This is seriously weird?

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 17:55

Boomer55 · 07/03/2025 17:46

Not sure why wedding guests would need a care package. 🤷‍♀️. If I knew the cook well, I’d probably eat it - other than that, no chance.

The gift packages are only for the wedding party who staying in hotel for a few nights away from home comforts. So they can enjoy a few snack, bottles of water that sort of thing.

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diddl · 07/03/2025 17:56

Honestly looking at the pics you posted Op I'd think that that had been done professionally.

Not that that would sway me either way-I'd still be eating them!

MassiveOvaryaction · 07/03/2025 17:56

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 17:15

Ingredients
3/4 cup salted butter, cubed 170 grams before browning, 140 grams after
4 ounces semi-sweet chocolate, choppedChocolate chips work, too
1/4 cup vegetable oil 56 mL
3/4 cup cocoa powder 63 grams
3 large eggs, at room temperature
1 large egg yolk, at room temperature
3/4 cup granulated sugar 158 grams
1 and 1/2 cups powdered sugar 174 grams
2 tsp vanilla extract
1/4 tsp salt
1/2 cup all-purpose flour 65 grams
pinch of espresso powder optional
1 cup semi-sweet chocolate chips You can omit this in a pinch, but it does create delightful pockets of melted chocolate in each brownie!

  • Prep: Preheat your oven to 350℉. Spray an8×8 metal pan with nonstick spray and line with parchment paper (this makes for easy removal & slicing later).
  • Note: A 9×9 pan is fine, too. Start with about 6-7 minutes less bake time as the layer of brownie will be thinner.
  • Brown the Butter: Add cubed butter to a medium saucepan over medium heat. Melt the butter, stirring occasionally. Once it's melted, turn the heat to medium-low, and continue cooking the butter, stirring frequently. The butter will get foamy and bubbly, then turn a deep golden shade with a nutty, caramely aroma. (This will take about 3-6 minutes once the butter has melted.)
  • Once the butter is browned, stir in your semi-sweet chocolate until completely melted, then whisk in the vegetable oil and cocoa powder. Set aside to cool slightly.
  • Make the Brownie Batter: In a large mixing bowl, add the eggs, egg yolk, and granulated sugar. Whisk for about 1-2 minutes, until the sugar is fully dissolved. (Feel the mixture between your fingers – if it's completely smooth, you're good! If you feel sugar granules, keep whisking.) Next, whisk in the powdered sugar, vanilla, and salt. Then, check that the chocolate mixture is no longer piping hot (it will be quite warm, though), and whisk it into the bowl of eggs/sugar/. Fold in the flour & espresso powder, then the chocolate chips. The brownie batter won't be very thick.
  • Bake: Pour the batter into your prepared pan, and bake for 29 to 32 minutes. The center will have the slightest wobble when you move the pan, and the outer edges will appear set.

I know it’s hard but leave the brownies overnight. They really do taste so much better the next day. Add hazelnut cream and broken up kinder bueno or Ferrero Rochers for even more decadence

What is "semi-sweet" chocolate? And do you add the hazelnut cream/kinder bueno on top after baking or in the mix before please?

WereTalkingAboutHumanLivesJim · 07/03/2025 17:56

My sil bakes and often gives gifts of baked stuff, cookies/ gingerbread/ brownies and whatnot. I have no problem from a hygiene/ food safety pov but I’m just never bothered with them as gifts. Home baked food is nice there and then when you’re sitting down with a cup of tea and it’s freshly baked and you get tempted by the smell etc. It just doesn’t appeal to me wrapped up in a package and it nearly always ends up in the bin. I think the stuff from bake sales is usually not very nice and I wouldn’t buy from them, again not because of germs.
People would probably prefer fancy chocolates or something than a homemade brownie. I think it’s kind of a weird thing to give as a gift, especially if they are only so-so. You’re just making extra work for yourself.

Thatcannotberight · 07/03/2025 17:57

I bake chocolate chip shortbread for my son's scout troop fundraisers. Always gratefully received and always eaten. I'd be mortally offended if nobody ate them, and here they are paying for them. But we're a small community not full of weirdo germophobes. 🤣 I'd eat your brownies.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 07/03/2025 18:01

ManchesterGirl2 · 07/03/2025 15:49

I'd eat it. IMO home baked is better for you than ultra processed, with cheap ingredients, emulsifiers and flavourings.

This, with bells on.

BusyTraybake · 07/03/2025 18:01

MassiveOvaryaction · 07/03/2025 17:56

What is "semi-sweet" chocolate? And do you add the hazelnut cream/kinder bueno on top after baking or in the mix before please?

Chocolate that is 50-60% cocoa solids. I have tried 70%, really good quality chocolate and it is just too bitter.

I cut up the kinder bueno into bite size chunks and fold that into the batter (do not overfold at that point, use a knife). And then for the hazelnut cream, I just pour half the batter in the tin and then spread a nice generous thick layer of spread on top. Followed by the rest of the batter. Glorious.

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cardibach · 07/03/2025 18:04

TheMorels · 07/03/2025 17:29

I’m in the bin it camp.

I help out at my village fete cake stall and am always amazed at how fast the home made cakes go. Possibly because I see the absolute state of some of my elderly neighbours’ kitchens - and they’re the ones kindly baking the cakes.

And have you heard many tales of home made cake buyers coming down with dreadful cake based diseases? Or has everyone somehow been ok?

Roadtrippingroundgreece · 07/03/2025 18:04

I would eat a small brownie if it looked good!

But to second others, having been on my on my fair share of hen dos/been in wedding parties, the care package bags are a bit of a waste of money. I’ve chucked out so many ‘recyclable bags’ and bad quality dressing gowns, have way too many personalised champagne glasses, and if if there’s more than one or two treats, they won’t get eaten. Best thing you can do is some ibuprofen, some chewing gum, a nice bottle of water/juice and a small treat or two.

Matching pyjamas I would be ok with as they do look nice if you’re having photos, but again would only wear them again if they are actually good quality which has only happened once!

Wellthisisnotfun · 07/03/2025 18:08

The brownies sound great.

My natural instinct is to say it’s all very over the top but even as I think it, I’m wondering why such a miserable attitude…? Something about everything needing to be fancy these days. Getting ready with your friends is surely what’s fun, regardless of matching pyjamas. Things always seem to be very “glossy” presentable these days.

That said, it will be fun I’m sure.