Why some mums are so weird ?

[Butterfly1940]

I have been wondering this since I became a mum myself, but this particular scenario happened yesterday and I found it so weird.

I have booked to go to a museum with my DC for a play & stay session in a museum, I paid a fee to participate, so it is not a free event.

This took place in a very nice and pleasant area in London, so people were not in a rush nor stressed.

There were two buildings, beautiful garden and few mums with children waiting outside the building.

I approached and asked if there is a queue- this particular mum turned her head and said “ I don’t know, I’m just waiting for someone”.

As I couldn’t find the entrance I asked again where is the entrance she said “ I don’t know”. That’s fine, I left.

Few minutes later we are all in, and the host says “who has been here before?”, And this strange woman is the only one who raises hand and says proudly that she was here before 😟😟 and no one join her so obviously she wasn’t waiting for anyone,
I don’t understand why people are deliberately being difficult, lying, pretending they don’t know.

We are in the same boat - we are all moms to young children who they learn from us and our interactions with people…

I’m confused as before the event I spent 5 minutes helping a mum who was lost and needed help, the other day an older woman couldn’t reach a top in NEXT so she asked me for help - I take pride in doing it … even though I’m with my young DC…

what’s happened to people ?

Agree with this, I've seen it too. Middle class London parents can be abominably rude.
I don't know whether it's entitlement, meanness, lack of awareness or (perhaps more charitably ) because they are just totally fried due to being mortgaged to the hilt and juggling two busy careers. But this is absolutely A Thing.

Ahhh now we know why this woman wanted nothing to do with you.

Whenever people behave rude or entitled or ‘weird’ as you say, I always think to myself ‘don’t take it personally’. There are lots of people fighting their own battles, have disabilities or have psychological disorders (like narcissism for example or sociopathy..). Why get upset with these people? It’s quite clear they are not normal. Just shrug it off and move on☺️

This is a chat forum. People can talk about whatever they want, trivial to you or not.
(and yes, I do agree it’s very trivial)

This had nothing to do with being a mum??
Random woman was unhelpful yes nothing to do with being a mum.

I have said you are being unreasonable because I don't think the fact that the woman is a mother has anything to do with her behaviour and you can't conclude that mother's are weird from that example.
You can say some people do strange things but we all know that and it's their parental status isn't relevant to their behaviour.

Goodness me OP you have lots of condescending responses from exactly the same type of people as the woman outside the museum.
I do agree though that it's not just mums it people in general. Most people where I live are quite nice and helpful. I'm glad about that.

I don't know ! 😆
Seriously I come across the I don't know brigade all day every day. I think people are simply dismissive, possibly passive aggressive. I swear certain people would respond, 'I don't know' if you asked them for their name.

I got lost once in a city all I knew was the hotel name I asked a lady if she could point me in the right direction and she walked with me to the hotel! Don’t be disheartened still is some lovely people around x

She suspected you were a mom, not a mum? 😂

Some people are weird. Some of them are women who have children. I'm not sure there's any correlation or causation between them.

Maybe they had a different entrance last time?? Also it’s not a mum’s are weird thing, it’s more a ‘everyone’s different’ thing. Also, London.

Oh the irony of someone whinging calling someone else a Karen. 😂😂

(is that the kind of stereotype you like?)

I would assume she got stood up by the friend 🤷‍♀️ Plus she was probably feeling stressed about whether her friend was going to make it.

I don’t think it’s unlikely that she couldn’t answer your questions, even if she had been there before. I’ve lived in walking distance of the NHM for over 20 years, one of my DC lived practically next door in halls, I’ve been there many times as a child, parent and now as a grandparent, and professionally to the bit that isn’t open to the public. I would say I know Albertopolis very well but I couldn’t answer your question about the queue and it would depend where you were whether I could direct you to the nearest entrance. I know where the central entrance is and the one that used to be the geology museum but, although I know it exists, I couldn’t direct you to the west entrance 🤷‍♀️ The queuing system has changed many times and I seem to remember it is different on busy days. I think it depends on whether you are going to an event, have a timed ticket or are a walk in.

Some people ask stupid questions and if you're having a bad day you might not necessarily want to engage. I generally don't enjoy chatting to people I don't know. I can do it easily but I'll avoid it if I can. I must look like the Oracle because every time I catch the train these days (not often) people will ask me daft questions. I will be polite and try to help but some people are seemingly helpless to try to figure out things themselves. I also have a terrible sense of direction and can't follow or give directions so avoid either (figure it out myself using maps/pictures of buildings etc). I have an adult child and a primary school aged child and I don't remember needing as much help as you seem to OP. I'm nothing special nor spectacularly intelligent, I just try to be a self sufficient adult.

To add, I have a job which requires a lot of interaction and "helping" people. I'm also a single mum. I get communication burn out and just want a quiet life sometimes.

Slightly off topic OP but this is a workplace 'thing' too.

I asked a bus driver if the bus he was driving was going past Liverpool Street Station he said, I don't know.

Asked the jeweller if they had any tennis bracelets she said, I don't know.

Called the GP to book an appointment and asked which day was late night opening? I don't know was the response.

I could go on...

In the workplace I feel the 'I don't know', should be followed by, 'Let me find out...'🤔

I was about to ask if you were a woman of colour or not.

Could it just be that she was having a bad day and you caught her at a bad time? So perhaps she didn’t mean to be short but she was.