Co parenting. Want to move

[Feelingtrapped100]

I know INBU but I feel like AIBU gets more traffic. I Left my abusive ex years ago, this prompted an assault where he had stalked and waited for me and I was convinced I was going to die. I was bullied into not going to court but he was convicted.
contact with his child was sporadic originally, a few years later he sees his child 3 weekends out of 4. He has done other awful things to us but I have little evidence and didn’t report.
Years later I have moved on and have a boyfriend of 3 years that lives miles away. He lives in a place that I have always wanted to live and we would love to buy a place there together. I have wanted to leave my home town forever and the perfect opportunity would be during the transition to secondary school. I would only do this if my child was happy to which he is. I desperately want to get away from here for a fresh start.
I finally mentioned my thoughts to my ex who exploded, informed everyone he could and threatened court and prohibited steps order.
I feel like he has held me back so much already and the move could potentially mean much better prospects, finally owning a house and being happy and independent. I currently rent a relatives property.
sorry this is so long, I just want to know if I have any hope at all of this going my way and I don’t want to stop my son seeing his dad. I just can’t believe that one parent can sacrifice so much and go through so much at the hands of the other and it have no bearing on a custody hearing (which is what it is increasingly seeming like). I have had some free legal advice. TIA

Hopefully not.

Having said that, it might be worth the OP speaking to a solicitor about getting a court order in place that permits the move.

The type of man she is describing might well apply just to abuse her further.

It depends on how far you move and for what reasons (not just because it's nicer there).
I'm going through the same at the moment. Ex is trying to prevent us from moving. I've spoken to my solicitor and to social services. If it has to go to court, it's going to be heavily focused on what would be better for the kids. In our case, they'd be closer to family (walking distance, same village), go to local schools (currently at independent about 20 miles from home because of work), have the opportunity to find local friends (not possible at the moment due to location of school) and learn the community language (kids are at an English-speaking school but we live abroad).
We're also not moving that far. It's about 30 miles. Unlike in the UK, ex would still have to sort transport for visitation. He could ask me nicely to keep driving DC (since that's what I'm currently doing to make things easier) but he's not being very pleasant through all of this and I'm not sure I'd want to. There is a public transport link, though.

I am a lawyer in this field.

It is difficult to predict, I agree, but her chance of success would be higher if she waited a couple of years.

The judge will be looking at what's best for the child overall - maintaining contact with the father is a big element of this and if she were able to argue "it's an hour on the train, DS is 13 and able to do the journey independently and maintain the current contact schedule", it would be a very harsh judge who would go with the ex. If it's a three hour drive, it is a lot harder.

I’m aware you are.

It’s 2-3 hours by car (presumably depending on traffic) and “a lot quicker” on the train. By the time they would move DS would be 12. No reason a 12 year old can’t do a 1.5 hour train journey and mum can go with him all or part of the way at least to start.

While OP may have a better chance in a couple of years, it’s more in DS’s interests to move in time for secondary, so it’s surely worth trying now even if it’s turned down. Once DS is settled at school he may not want to move himself and that will have to be taken into account.