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British or English

279 replies

Dellspoem · 06/03/2025 16:32

Currently having a conversation/ debate with a friend. Are you British or English? Do you consider one a nationality and one an ethnicity?

My Asian family members describe themselves as British Asian. Saying 'I'm English' is synonymous with something else, mainly because of the connotations with the English flag and nationalism.

They are both geographic locations, so technically this shouldnt be that different. And you don't get the same with Scottish or Welsh.

What are your thoughts?

OP posts:
tinytemper66 · 06/03/2025 20:33

Welsh then British

namechangeGOT · 06/03/2025 20:50

I'm English! Have never and would never describe myself as British.

JassyRadlett · 06/03/2025 21:18

Groosh · 06/03/2025 17:46

You’re not seeing that there is nuance in it. From my pov an Australian with English heritage is not English. Because they are clearly not culturally English. I would also say that a person born in this country to two foreign parents is not English either. But their children or grandchildren might be. Culture and heritage matter, not just what your passport says or where you live.

My point was exactly that culture is vital. Heritage... well, that's open to definition, right? Is it a shared inheritance of John Major's Englishness? If it's about lineage, isn't my centuries long ancestry (interrupted by a century and a half, for most of which time they counted themselves as English) worth more than a couple of generations in situ?

How long does a foreign-born person of English ancestry have to live in England to be considered English? Is it ever? Is it different if their parents were English? Grandparents?

Or does this all underline the daftness of trying to define what is ultimately a national identity of what has always been a nation of immigrants, rather than an ethnic one?

You can't complain if people done integrate and/or assimilate when they're being constantly told they'll never belong.

biscuitandcake · 06/03/2025 21:19

Kilroywashere · 06/03/2025 20:06

I must be English - Ancestry tells me my DNA is 95% from Cornwall 😁
(Feeling a bit deprived that there isn't a "pasty" emoji)

Cornwall Cornish GIF by Stargazy Solutions

One day late for you!

biscuitandcake · 06/03/2025 21:24

Only slightly on topic but if someone tells you:

  • What they called games of "chase" when they were children
  • What word they used when they needed to freeze the game or call a truce
  • The word for a small individually baked piece of bread that one might use for a sandwich

Its possible to tell not only what country they are from (English, Welsh, Scottish NI) but usually quite precisely the region/town.

menopausalfart · 06/03/2025 21:28

My DNA is Eng/Welsh/Scottish.
I was born in Wales and lived here all my life. I always say I'm Welsh.

iwentjasonwaterfalls · 06/03/2025 21:31

Born in England. Have lived in Wales since I was 2. I was considered "first language Welsh" in school, now have a bilingual household, Welsh DH, Welsh DD, zero ties to England.

I'm Welsh. British at a push.

dogcatkitten · 06/03/2025 21:32

If you live in England with no affiliation to the rest of the British Isles then probably English, if you are a mixture of English, Scottish, Welsh and Irish, probably British unless you have a particular affinity to one or the other region, similarly if you live in one of the other regions. I would go with British myself although I've always lived in England my parents and grandparents were from various parts of the British Isles.

JustBec · 06/03/2025 21:36

I’m Welsh. My parents and grandparents are all Welsh. My husband is English. Of course, my passport says ‘British’ but I do not identify with that as my nationality whatsoever.

Christwosheds · 06/03/2025 21:38

I am not English, but I am British. Ethnically I am Welsh, Celtic not Anglo Saxon.

nocoolnamesleft · 06/03/2025 21:39

I'm British. I have English, Irish, Scottish and Welsh ancestry. Born and brought up in England.

Mydogmylife · 06/03/2025 21:43

Scottish. Don’t use British

Sdpbody · 06/03/2025 21:43

English and proud to be so. Next would be British.

I can trace my family back hundreds of years to the county we live in.

Groosh · 06/03/2025 21:43

JassyRadlett · 06/03/2025 21:18

My point was exactly that culture is vital. Heritage... well, that's open to definition, right? Is it a shared inheritance of John Major's Englishness? If it's about lineage, isn't my centuries long ancestry (interrupted by a century and a half, for most of which time they counted themselves as English) worth more than a couple of generations in situ?

How long does a foreign-born person of English ancestry have to live in England to be considered English? Is it ever? Is it different if their parents were English? Grandparents?

Or does this all underline the daftness of trying to define what is ultimately a national identity of what has always been a nation of immigrants, rather than an ethnic one?

You can't complain if people done integrate and/or assimilate when they're being constantly told they'll never belong.

Edited

But we haven't always been a nation of immigrants. America has (and Australia too), so people imbibe the idea as a cultural norm, but actually it doesn't apply to England in the same way. There were the Normans 1000 years ago, after that there were tiny amounts of immigration up until the 1950s and then it really ramped up about 20 years ago. Mass migration is a new thing here.

Yes, there are not hard and fast criteria for what 'English' is, am I just describing that for me it is not just a passport. The same complexity is probably true for Japanese people or Nigerians or Swedes.

It's very possible to assimilate without having to pretend everyone is exactly the same and indeed that was the whole point of the multiculturalism project. I am an example of someone fully assimilated as British, who is nevertheless not completely English.

JHound · 06/03/2025 21:43

I am both.

TheHateIsNotGood · 06/03/2025 21:44

British - Scottish Father/English Mother.

Itisbetter · 06/03/2025 21:45

You are only English if you were born in England

Groosh · 06/03/2025 21:45

biscuitandcake · 06/03/2025 21:24

Only slightly on topic but if someone tells you:

  • What they called games of "chase" when they were children
  • What word they used when they needed to freeze the game or call a truce
  • The word for a small individually baked piece of bread that one might use for a sandwich

Its possible to tell not only what country they are from (English, Welsh, Scottish NI) but usually quite precisely the region/town.

This is so interesting! How can you work it out?

JHound · 06/03/2025 21:46

JassyRadlett · 06/03/2025 21:18

My point was exactly that culture is vital. Heritage... well, that's open to definition, right? Is it a shared inheritance of John Major's Englishness? If it's about lineage, isn't my centuries long ancestry (interrupted by a century and a half, for most of which time they counted themselves as English) worth more than a couple of generations in situ?

How long does a foreign-born person of English ancestry have to live in England to be considered English? Is it ever? Is it different if their parents were English? Grandparents?

Or does this all underline the daftness of trying to define what is ultimately a national identity of what has always been a nation of immigrants, rather than an ethnic one?

You can't complain if people done integrate and/or assimilate when they're being constantly told they'll never belong.

Edited

It perplexes me when people complain about the failure of people to integrate….

…..while constantly telling them they can never truly be “from” the place the are meant to fully integrate into.

I remember having debates about this when I lived in France. People refusing to refer to French people of North African heritage as French…yet also getting mad when those same people did not see themselves as French!

rosemarble · 06/03/2025 21:46

I regard myself as English with a British passport.

JHound · 06/03/2025 21:47

Itisbetter · 06/03/2025 21:45

You are only English if you were born in England

I know a man born and raised in France who only considers himself English.

Perfectlystill · 06/03/2025 21:48

English

JustMeHello · 06/03/2025 21:48

I live in England, and within the UK, I say I'm Welsh. If I go abroad, I say I'm British (and clarify to Welsh if people go 'oh, English!')

Waterlilysunset · 06/03/2025 21:48

English and then British

HelpMeGetThrough · 06/03/2025 21:56

I'm British, although my father would be disgusted and say "No!!! You are Cornish!!!". Nope, I'm British.

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