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Friends staying here and poorly

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Thissucks125 · 05/03/2025 23:58

On the 13th Feb I had a stomach bug. As did my daughter. recovered. Then caught a cold. On the 21st Feb we got a weird achy bug. I had a bad stomach with it (diarrhoea) she vomited. We sort of had dodgy stomachs for 4 days.

Friends staying here temporarily. They should be moving into their house next week. They've been stopping in hotels but I said they could stay here Tuesday and Wed to save money. They've started throwing up tonight. But they've blocked my sink with vomit and it's also gone allover my bathroom bin.

I feel really pissed off. I can smell sick and I have no way of unblocking the sink as i wasnt expecting them to not reach the toilet.. I dont want to catch it. I have worked 6 days out of the last 7 and I'm going in Friday morning too. So tomorrow I wanted to go to my parents for a couple of hours and do xyz. I was relying on this friend to be up and productive early. If I have anymore sick days I'll probably end up with a warning. Plus I really really don't want a sickness bug again.

I don't know why I'm writing. Just so miffed!

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BookClubGrinch · 06/03/2025 08:12

Completelyjo · 06/03/2025 07:40

Let’s face it, she likely caught it from you and your daughter! Adults very rarely pass stomach bugs from adult to adult and you and your child were both very recently unwell.
She should do a big clean later this morning and I’m sure she will be mortified but the posters acting like this is her fault are unhinged.

Exactly! It’s them who should be raging not op

Cucy · 06/03/2025 08:13

Pinkandcake · 06/03/2025 00:49

I struggle to understand how an adult can’t make it to the toilet to be sick?! Assuming they’re not - elderly, frail, disabled, blind and the rest of the exemptions before someone pipes up)

You know when you’re going to be sick because you can feel the build up, your mouth gets watery etc… and I wouldn’t even puke in my own sink (and I have 5) because it’s disgusting as others have to use them to clean teeth, wash face, hands etc.. when you’re sick in the toilet it gets flushed away and is more hygienic at least.

Id be fuming as well OP as there’s no need and to not clean it up 🤢🤢

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You’re either lying or you’ve never had a proper sickness bug.

It’s very easy to not make it to the toilet in time.

You admit you have 5 sinks so likely have more than 1 toilet which is not the norm as you know, yet you wonder why some people struggle to make it to their one toilet in time.

Most people who’ve had a proper sickness bug need a bucket next to them because they can’t even make it out of the room before projectile vomiting.

Luck you for never experiencing a proper sick bug.

Cucy · 06/03/2025 08:19

So tomorrow I wanted to go to my parents for a couple of hours and do xyz. I was relying on this friend to be up and productive early.

I don’t understand why your friend not being up and productive early has an impact on your day off.

You can still go to your parents and do what you were planning to do.

Leave your friend a bin/bucket, a roll of toilet roll, a sugary cup of tea and a big glass of water. And leave them to sleep/a note to say you’ve gone out and for them to stay in bed.

Bowies · 06/03/2025 08:30

Yeah that totally sucks. They should clean up but guess they were too ill to do so and obviously you can’t leave it.

Can you get some sink unblocker (chemical) to clear it? Ask them to please use the loo if they need to be sick (in case this was actually by choice) as your sink is prone to block.

Fingers crossed it’s one of the illnesses you already had.

MrsRonaldWeasley · 06/03/2025 08:35

Oh no no no! I'm emetophobic. I would genuinely have to leave my house and stay somewhere else (I've done this when my husband got a stomach bug!).

HouseAshamed · 06/03/2025 08:40

Get a plunger. You can get one in a cheap shop (my local £1 shop sells them). They are very useful.

rosemarble · 06/03/2025 08:53

Usually vomiting brings a short period of relief - enough that you would not need to leave your host's sink and bathroom full of sick.

Qwee · 06/03/2025 08:54

Awful OP to use the sink...ffs, of course they should have used the loo.

And leaving a mess, absolutely disgusting.
That would 100% turn me off someone permanently.

Everyone can make the loo.
My children knew you make the loo.
What a revolting mess to leave for someone.

I would be up and gone and leave a note to them with bleach to clean it up.

The only risk is the vomit could solidify a d you would have a bigger problem.

Use a wire hanger to losen it up and a small plastic bup as a plunger.
Would a neighbour have a plunger?

Pinkandcake · 06/03/2025 08:58

Cucy · 06/03/2025 08:13

You’re either lying or you’ve never had a proper sickness bug.

It’s very easy to not make it to the toilet in time.

You admit you have 5 sinks so likely have more than 1 toilet which is not the norm as you know, yet you wonder why some people struggle to make it to their one toilet in time.

Most people who’ve had a proper sickness bug need a bucket next to them because they can’t even make it out of the room before projectile vomiting.

Luck you for never experiencing a proper sick bug.

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I’ve got two kids and had plenty of sickness bugs 🤣 I would just clean it up end of.

In the same way you have to get on with it if you’re a single parent to a young child with no help or support and you catch a sickness bug. Some people don’t have the luxury of any help whilst they rest, they have no choice but to carry on through it…. Lucky you having support so you could recover.

Pinkandcake · 06/03/2025 09:00

rosemarble · 06/03/2025 08:53

Usually vomiting brings a short period of relief - enough that you would not need to leave your host's sink and bathroom full of sick.

Exactly!

RedCatBlueCatYellowCat · 06/03/2025 09:05

If you are too unwell to make it to the bathroom, fair enough. It's the making it to the bathroom and then using the sink instead of the loo that doesn't make sense to me. How big does your bathroom have to be to be able to make it there but not have time to use the loo?!

Redbird3 · 06/03/2025 09:13

Ewww how disgusting

Careertimenow · 06/03/2025 09:16

Thissucks125 · 06/03/2025 00:44

I had it between 2 and 3 weeks ago now. I dunno if it would be me as they've been around me last week.

They are asleep but probably not feeling up to bleaching.

I'll get over it. Just feeling sorry for myself as they don't have anything sorted for tomorrow and I had things to do and wanted my house back.

I do feel sorry for them.

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They're adults who can clean up after themselves regardless of how sick they are.

RachelLikesTea · 06/03/2025 09:19

If it is norovirus, they will have been feeling very, very unwell. As you and your daughter haven been unwell, may have caught it from you so I wouldn't worry about catching it from them. If they are decent people (which I am sure they are as you've let them stay in your house) then they will have been so unwell that they somehow couldn't make it to the toilet, will be mortified and probably still be feeling pretty unwell today. I think you need to find some empathy. Norovirus is the most sick I have ever been, it's dreadful.

MiserableMrsMopp · 06/03/2025 09:29

That is absolutely disgusting. Unless they're teenagers there is no way on earth they should have left the bathroom in this state.

I would bleach the hell out of the room, wearing a mask, but I'd also put a note in there attached to the bleach bottle (leave clothes/wipes/trash bags), saying something like, 'We all have to share this room. I appreciate you're feeling awful, but basic hygiene standards are essential for everyone.'

Careertimenow · 06/03/2025 09:32

RachelLikesTea · 06/03/2025 09:19

If it is norovirus, they will have been feeling very, very unwell. As you and your daughter haven been unwell, may have caught it from you so I wouldn't worry about catching it from them. If they are decent people (which I am sure they are as you've let them stay in your house) then they will have been so unwell that they somehow couldn't make it to the toilet, will be mortified and probably still be feeling pretty unwell today. I think you need to find some empathy. Norovirus is the most sick I have ever been, it's dreadful.

There's no excuse for nastiness unless they left mummies house to stay at ops house? It does explain why they are not house trained. I was ill over Christmas and so was my partner with the norovirus I never felt so ill in my life but I still managed to clean up my sickness with bleach. I have a duty to ensure it didn't pass on to my children and luckily it didn't.

Ashshandmaid · 06/03/2025 09:34

They can't help being ill. But they absolutely could have cleaned up their sick. I once had a horrible stomach bug and pooed (liquid) all over myself while vomiting. I managed to shower and clean up after myself as it was our only bathroom. My partner of 20 years would have done it, I would for him too, but I didn't want to risk him getting it. What I'm saying is even if you're really ill you can probably clean up.

TheThreeCheesesOfTheApocalypse44 · 06/03/2025 09:37

A bottle of mr muscle and a few kettles of boiling water will sort out the sink. Give them a bucket and some plastic bags to line it.

It sounds like they have picked up the bug from your house sadly, I feel sorry for them. Can't think of anything worse than being that ill and not having a home to go to. As for throwing up in the sink I've done that before, sat on the loo having the wildshites and throwing up at the same time. Decided throwing up in the sink which was right next to me was the lesser of two evils as if I'd left the loo to be sick I'd have been firing out of my backside.

BatchCookBabe · 06/03/2025 09:41

This is why I never EVER have people staying at my house. EVER.

Not helpful sorry @Thissucks125 YANBU! How horrible for you! 😖

sweetpickle2 · 06/03/2025 09:49

Nobody vomits in a sink out of choice- I would cut her some slack here and assume the toilet was, ahem, otherwise occupied at the time of vomiting.

However she should be cleaning it up, or if she's truly too unwell to move then at least she should be informing you and apologising profusely and not letting you wander into the bathroom to find it. I wouldn't mind cleaning up a friend's sick if they were too unwell, but I'd appreciate a heads up.

Cucy · 06/03/2025 10:10

Pinkandcake · 06/03/2025 08:58

I’ve got two kids and had plenty of sickness bugs 🤣 I would just clean it up end of.

In the same way you have to get on with it if you’re a single parent to a young child with no help or support and you catch a sickness bug. Some people don’t have the luxury of any help whilst they rest, they have no choice but to carry on through it…. Lucky you having support so you could recover.

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As a single parent there have been times when I’ve been violently sick and not been able to throughly clean up until the next day.

One time I even passed out and woke up a couple hours later on the bathroom floor. Fortunately my DD was safe in her cot.

And if you’ve never not made it to the toilet in time then you’ve never had a proper sickness bug.

You don’t get prior warning or very little warning to get to the bathroom in time.

And of course they should clean up after themselves but they probably thought they had and didn’t realise it wasn’t fully washed away or they were delirious and didn’t realise what they were doing.

I would never be speak so harshly about a good friend who was so poorly.

Only on MN is a woman blamed for not being on perfect form 100% of the time.

She will be absolutely mortified when she wakes up.

Fireandflames · 06/03/2025 10:16

I would be mortified if I threw up in someone else's house or bathroom. It would get cleaned up immediately, it's wrong to leave it in that state.

Tiddlywinkly · 06/03/2025 10:17

Unless at death's door, I would have cleaned up my sick. Leaving it for someone else to deal with in their own home is not on.

ButterCrackers · 06/03/2025 10:21

How disgusting and unreasonable. They should clean it and organise and pay for any damage repairs. I wouldn’t trust them to clean properly though. I bet that they haven’t washed their hands. Tell them clean up now and then leave. Once they’ve cleaned put protective gloves on and clean again. Clean all surfaces and door handles. They leave this morning.

27Maisie27 · 06/03/2025 10:25

I don't care how unwell someone is with Norovirus. An adult should be able to clean up after themselves. I would order a next day delivery sink plunger from Amazon, and leave it in the bathroom, with gloves, wipes and disinfectant. If they don't take the hint, confront them. If I vomited all over someone's bathroom, I would be mortified, and would do my utmost to clean up, disinfect everywhere, and leave it pristine for the next person.

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