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Friends staying here and poorly

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Thissucks125 · 05/03/2025 23:58

On the 13th Feb I had a stomach bug. As did my daughter. recovered. Then caught a cold. On the 21st Feb we got a weird achy bug. I had a bad stomach with it (diarrhoea) she vomited. We sort of had dodgy stomachs for 4 days.

Friends staying here temporarily. They should be moving into their house next week. They've been stopping in hotels but I said they could stay here Tuesday and Wed to save money. They've started throwing up tonight. But they've blocked my sink with vomit and it's also gone allover my bathroom bin.

I feel really pissed off. I can smell sick and I have no way of unblocking the sink as i wasnt expecting them to not reach the toilet.. I dont want to catch it. I have worked 6 days out of the last 7 and I'm going in Friday morning too. So tomorrow I wanted to go to my parents for a couple of hours and do xyz. I was relying on this friend to be up and productive early. If I have anymore sick days I'll probably end up with a warning. Plus I really really don't want a sickness bug again.

I don't know why I'm writing. Just so miffed!

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Devianinc · 06/03/2025 01:54

Thissucks125 · 06/03/2025 00:04

I know they've thrown up in the bathroom sink and it's all splashed around the edges. My toothbrush will be going in the bin. Just can't believe they didn't clean it. It's the only bathroom I have.

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First of all, who throws up in the bathroom sink. Is she dense.

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 01:56

You throw up in the toilet or go outside. That friend would not be my friend anymore. I’m grossed out just reading this. I do have a real problem with vomit though. I’d throw up on top of the throw up

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:02

Mumtobabyhavoc · 06/03/2025 00:48

Shit luck. Literally. 🤦‍♀️💐

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A plunger work, you literally have to remove the chunks.

Oftenaddled · 06/03/2025 02:05

For a friend I'd clean it up. Kettle of boiled water down the sink will likely clear it. Bleach and cold water to follow.

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:11

I don’t care if you’re crawling on your knees. Someone needs to clean it up and it’s on the person who vomited in the sink instead of the toilet. No the nice person who put you up for the night

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:12

Oftenaddled · 06/03/2025 02:05

For a friend I'd clean it up. Kettle of boiled water down the sink will likely clear it. Bleach and cold water to follow.

I don’t think you’ve ever experienced this and that’s not the case

Neodymium · 06/03/2025 02:13

That’s so gross. What kind of adult would leave that in someone else’s house. I’d literally have to be passed out unconscious.

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:13

Thissucks125 · 06/03/2025 00:04

I know they've thrown up in the bathroom sink and it's all splashed around the edges. My toothbrush will be going in the bin. Just can't believe they didn't clean it. It's the only bathroom I have.

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Ewwww, what a pig

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:15

Thissucks125 · 06/03/2025 00:44

I had it between 2 and 3 weeks ago now. I dunno if it would be me as they've been around me last week.

They are asleep but probably not feeling up to bleaching.

I'll get over it. Just feeling sorry for myself as they don't have anything sorted for tomorrow and I had things to do and wanted my house back.

I do feel sorry for them.

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Life sucks and then you die. Who cares. You’re not their mother. Omg

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:17

The one thing you know now is that they will never ever be a welcome over night guest again. This on her to fix this.

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:28

Ellepff · 06/03/2025 01:53

I doubt the friends expect her to clean it. They are just horrifically sick and unfortunately for OP there is no second bathroom and a plugged sink so not much option.

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She obviously does bc she’s in bed. I don’t care how sick you are. You can take care of your own crap, or vomit. Whatever

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:31

Mumtobabyhavoc · 06/03/2025 00:51

Ever had a bad bout of noro virus? ...
It is the bloody worst (as in exploding at both ends. Sorry to be explicit).

Yes I have and and always made it to the toilet. Number1 reason being I’d continue to throw up so nothing would get done so I make massive effort to get there.

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:36

I’d ask her for a cleaning service that took care of infectious diseases bc she threw up all over your bathroom

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:42

She’s not making any effort to clean it and I’m sure the op has other people using the bathroom so who should clean it in your opinion. This lady has to go to work.

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 02:47

Thissucks125 · 06/03/2025 00:44

I had it between 2 and 3 weeks ago now. I dunno if it would be me as they've been around me last week.

They are asleep but probably not feeling up to bleaching.

I'll get over it. Just feeling sorry for myself as they don't have anything sorted for tomorrow and I had things to do and wanted my house back.

I do feel sorry for them.

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You are a good person. I wouldn’t be able to do it. Hope all your family are now healthy and happy

Devianinc · 06/03/2025 03:03

I’m obviously afraid of vomit. Thank god my children never threw up all over everything. I think I might be a lucky person but my kids did know I couldn’t deal with that. I know I’m overly like eww but I really can’t stomach any on else’s vomit. Just thinking about makes me ill.. so , I’m sorry if I came too much about vomit.

FishOnTheTrain · 06/03/2025 03:04

I’m phobic of vomit and would absolutely be distraught in this situation if I were you. But I feel sooooo very sorry for your friends. If you had norovirus prior to them coming, it could be that they picked it up from you. It lives on surfaces for weeks.

i assume the only reason the sink was used is bc one of them was on the loo. Norovirus is bloody awful. You can’t control anything. Yes they should clean up after themselves but they are prob not in a fit state to right now.

Mummyoflittledragon · 06/03/2025 03:19

I am imagining it came out of both ends at once otherwise, why else use the sink? This situation has happened to me before. As for clearing up, she should have done her utmost to do so. I get close to passing out with bugs and have just enough time to get back to bed after an episode. If she is the same, maybe she struggled. Idk. But yes, clearing up your mess, especially when not in your home, is basic respect.

KierEagan · 06/03/2025 03:40

In my teens and 20s I would let anyone crash with me but as an adult I would never invite anyone to stay if I couldn't offer them a separate bathroom. This is my worst nightmare. Even if nobody is ill I don't want to hear, see or smell other people's bodily excretions and I don't want them to hear, see or smell mine. Obviously when I'm out I use public loos but home is my sanctuary. Whenever I've lived in a place with one toilet I don't have people stay overnight. TBH I prefer not to even share a loo with my partner if I can avoid it.

penguinbiscuity · 06/03/2025 03:47

When I had norovirus I threw up in the sink. I couldn't use the toilet as I was sitting on it having diarrhea at the time.

It can literally come out both ends when you're that sick.

They likely caught if from you / your house OP, and are probably feeling pretty sorry for themselves.

WiddlinDiddlin · 06/03/2025 04:13

You clean up your own sick, being dead might be an excuse for not doing so but still... borderline.

I cleaned up my own puke from my mates bathroom (twice actually) before I even contemplated waking her to let her know I really did need to go to hospital due to gallstones. It didn't even cross my mind to leave her with a pukey bathroom, it was bad enough I needed to go to hospital!

May229 · 06/03/2025 04:14

Oh no, I hate my house being so dirty, I would be very angry if it were me, maybe you should tell them exactly that and let them clean it up themselves.

Theextraordinaryisintheordinary · 06/03/2025 04:26

You were kind letting them stay. Continue to be compassionate by allowing them to recover. Sounds awful for them They'll be really grateful for you right now. It’s bloody awful being unwell.

Life is hard sometimes, it’s learning to manage our emotions that sets us free. You can hand them the bleach soon enough and get a new toothbrush- everything will be ok.x

CarolinaWren · 06/03/2025 04:38

Pinkandcake · 06/03/2025 00:49

I struggle to understand how an adult can’t make it to the toilet to be sick?! Assuming they’re not - elderly, frail, disabled, blind and the rest of the exemptions before someone pipes up)

You know when you’re going to be sick because you can feel the build up, your mouth gets watery etc… and I wouldn’t even puke in my own sink (and I have 5) because it’s disgusting as others have to use them to clean teeth, wash face, hands etc.. when you’re sick in the toilet it gets flushed away and is more hygienic at least.

Id be fuming as well OP as there’s no need and to not clean it up 🤢🤢

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You're assuming that no one has ever been sicker than you have and that's obviously incorrect if you've always had plenty of warning that you might vomit. I've unfortunately projectile vomited into the toilet with so much force that it ricocheted off the water and splashed all over my face, hair, clothes and much of the bathroom. 😭 I've also vomited forcefully all over myself while sitting on the toilet with diarrhea. I had to throw away the clothes I was wearing.

TumbledTussocks · 06/03/2025 05:11

Most sick bugs I've still been able to clean but I've had two that gave me sort of vertigo and cold sweats. Physically couldn't move lying on a floor vomiting into the bin.

I'm sure they feel awful but give them a chance to make amends. No one wants to block someone's sink with sick.

As pp said, it's very likely they picked this up from you/ your home anyway.