Can my family take me to court to see my children

[godfreyfour]

I have a very toxic mum and sister who I cut contact with many years ago.
I've since married and had 3 children 1, 5 and 7 who have never met them or heard anything about them we and don't live in the area.
We have dh family and the children have loving grandparents/cousins and extended family on his side.

I've always been very discrete on social media blocking anyone I didn't want to see me and keeping profiles private but it appears to have got back to them and that I have children, they've contacted me through a third party to insist I allow them to meet my children which I've declined and now the message relayed to me is that they'll see me in court because I'm preventing them from meeting grandchildren children/niece/nephews which they think they have a right to.

Are they likely to be able to have contact with my children who are completely unaware of these people and without me as I don't want any contact with them?
I really don't want to have to spend a fortune on legal fees just to keep life as it is.

You don't need explain a single thing here regarding your reaction. I can explain it. All of us who grew up in perpetual fight or flight and fear within a highly dysfunctional and narcissist family cult system that I sense strongly you did - we get it.

Your reaction to this threat has triggered a fear reaction in you that reignites a lifetime of visceral fear. Someone might say don't over react etc but the fear reaction and your post demonstrates your fear - it's normal after your life experience.

Here's what to know. They have NO chance. No court will give two shits, it's laughable they even think it. It's just an attempt to get control and they can forget it. They will have frightened you all your life I imagine. Now they can fuck right off with that pathetic threat.

Anyone who is passing information like this is not psychologically safe at all for you. They are absolutely what you call a flying monkey. You must either no longer interact or grey rock them. This friend you refer to.

You really must limit what you do on social media. It is not worth it. The more closed and protective you are with every part of your life the better.

The only real risk may be when your kids are older, would they go out their way to try contact them directly. They could. So I'd teach your kids the vital lesson now regarding privacy online.

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Wow, I didn’t realise only one person is allowed to post similar information, @AngelicKaty 🙄

If you had RTFT, you would see that my first post that gave slightly more detail was shortly after your first post. I have reiterated some of the points from my earlier post in later posts when responding to other PPs for clarity because… some people don’t RTFT 🙄

Yes, always after my posts, so why did you feel the need to write at the end of your monologue in reply to me "There are threads in legal (and from the other side on Gransnet), you might want to read." if you'd RTFT? 🙄

I quoted and responded to your post stating that a PP’s comment that OP should “buckle up” was ludicrous. I didn’t @ you specifically, @AngelicKaty.

I disagree with that PP that the GPs will get contact but, although I agree with you about the process, I don’t think telling OP to buckle up is ludicrous at all. It may well be a bumpy (and possibly expensive) ride getting to the point where the court decides that they shouldn’t have contact or refuses leave to apply for a CAO for the reasons I explained in my posts.

“You” is plural. You, the OP, anyone who doubts that it might not be a bumpy ride and is interested, would do well to read some previous threads.

Although taking OP to court is probably just an empty threat.

Go back and look at what you posted KnickerFolder · 06/03/2025 12:11 - you absolutely did quote me, which is what people do when they are replying to that specific poster so it's entirely reasonable for me to think your lengthy post was directed at me.

Yes, if you read my reply, as I said in my first sentence, “I quoted and responded to your post”.

Usually posters name check a poster, AngelicKaty, or use an @, @AngelicKaty, if they are directly addressing a specific poster. Sometimes posters, as I did, quote a PP when they are addressing a point the PP made to make it easier for other posters reading the thread to understand the point they are making as they have the background/context.

My post was addressing a point you raised, not you.