DH annoyed at new neighbour ‘kiss’

[Niceeyes]

Just to start it wasn’t a full on ‘kiss’

we recently bought a new property and the neighbour came around to introduce himself, I answered the door (for context there is a resident association and he is the director and I had spoken to this man once before regarding the rules for the building) and he introduced himself and kissed me on both cheeks….
DH was in the hallway then went into the living room seething at what he saw.

I went into the living room afterwards abs ge said what the hell was that all about. That I was out if order letting a strange man kiss me and that I was disrespectful to him and that moving forward I have set the bar to this man.

i told him he’s being ridiculous and what was I supposed ti do.
we have been together 7 years and occasionally he shows this bad trait.

what do you think of my story? Aibu or is he??
hes given me the silent treatment for almost 24hrs now and he’s taken himself to the spare room

Someone else who doesn't understand the meaning of consent. 🙄

🙄back at you. I fully understand consent. That is not the OP's issue. It is her husband's reaction to the greeting, and the fact that it is not a one off. She was not bothered by the kiss, she was bothered by her husband calling her disrespectful and sulking afterwards. He clearly doesn't trust her and has decided she has behaved inappropriately and is punishing her for his insecurities.

Whether you or I, or anyone else, is uncomfortable with cheek kiss greetings is utterly irrelevant.

🙄 You clearly don't understand the concept of consent if you think it's fine to kiss someone on both cheeks without knowing in advance they're OK with it - that's literally the requirement of consent.
OP's neighbour and her DH are both problems. The neighbour kissed her without her consent (the fact that she wasn't unduly bothered by it is irrelevant since the neighbour wouldn't have known how she felt about it when he did it) and her DH shouldn't be blaming her for something that was done to her rather than anything she did.

These outbursts of jealousy usually make people accused of inappropriate behavours feel bad, like you mentioned walking on eggshells. If it is any comfort know that it is not about you. He holds some very deep wounds and he is not dealing with that. Jealousy is about internal conflicts, control etc. If he is ever open to talk about his behaviour you might suggest some form of therapy that would be helpful for him to resolve this. his life woukd be so much lighter. I feel sad you are living through this though, it is such a toxic environment that erodes in time your self esteem, confidence, dignity. No one should live like this. If I were you, if the relationship had a good base otherwise (that is for you to decide with open eyes and clear head) I would say to him that the only way I could continue with the relationship would be if he took steps to address his behaviour explaining what a dreadful impact it can have. Everyone deserves to feel safe, light, joyful in their home with their partner in this short life. Stand up for yourself. sending you much love and kisses on both cheeks :-)