Friends not sponsoring dh

[Primmyhill]

Ok, I know times are hard and there are loads of people asking for sponsorship etc but I’m just a bit hacked off. In the past I’ve sponsored friends kids for things like walking around the playground at lunch time, sponsored silence etc, you get my drift but there’s been loads over the last few years and I always give £10-20. My husband is doing a huge challenge in April and the sponsorship has been live for months and I’ve sent the link out twice and not one of them has sponsored him. None of them are badly off - they just can’t be bothered I reckon and I’m pretty annoyed. AIBU? Would you do? I’ll know better next time when darling Henry wants money for pushing his teddy around the local f’ing playing field.

He’s had to pay fees for a place so I guess it’s something like the London marathon, skydive, triathalon etc. That’s nor a challenge, that’s a bucket list day out! He shouldn’t need sponsoring to do a hobby. Why not skip the paid event and just run 26 miles/ bike or whatever it is in the countryside for free and be able to donate even more to charity? The fact he’s doing it at a paid event makes it clear he’s doing it for himself/ for the experience first and for the charity second.

Yes, this exactly. If I want to donate to a charity, I will donate directly, without any middlemen or intermediaries who may or may not be taking a cut for themselves.

Jimothy is a MAMiL doing the London to Brighton bike ride.

Yes, I knew someone who did this job too. She started trying to sign us up when she was not even working, and we were in the pub.

I loathe sponsoring people. I do it very begrudgingly. Whenever my children have to do anything sponsored I find it so embarrassing. I over compensate and do £20 from me, £20 from my DH and then get Granny and Grandad to do the same. I can’t go cap in hand to colleagues, neighbours and friends, it’s like begging, but you see some kids with tons of people on the sponsor form, I just couldn’t do it.

😂

People don’t always reciprocate things. People don’t always treat others like you treat them. It’s a sad fact of life.

Just because you donate “hundreds” to other people’s sponsorship challenges doesn’t give you the right to moan about other people not sponsoring.

You’re obviously more of an expert on my husband than I am!

He has paid for his own place also donated to the charity.

So then if he has already donated, there is no need or reason for him to even do this so-called 'activity' then....right? He, like all the rest of us, can donate PRIVATELY, like private citizens.

Unless of course, he just wants poor mugs to fund his, er,......'activity'.

I was on your side until you made it obvious you weren't even going to tell us what this....... activity even is.

Blimey! Sounds like someone trying to push a pyramid scheme.

Thanks!!

Bloody glad I read this thread, genuinely didn’t know how people felt about fundraising!

I’m a private person and posting at all will show everyone that my children have a disability (it’s very newly diagnosed my twins are not yet 2) but I know this place is going to help us for many years to come and just wanted to give as much to them as possible.

That's exactly why my mum does with swimming. It's no more than she dies usually. I sponsor her though because she's my mum!

Best of luck to you!

I think a lot of us have sponsorship fatigue. Requests from friends pop up on FB almost every other day, and it’s to do something they’d probably want to do anyway. I’d like to sponsor people to:

Wash the car
Deep clean the kitchen
Babysit
Mow the lawn
Pop to Tesco
Make dinner

I don’t really care if they run a marathon or abseil down the Houses of Parliament.

She would take all the stuff to the pub..... pictures of starving kids etc, and try to sign us up. Got very tiresome.

I don’t think you’re entitled for feeling disappointed with your friends for not donating. I always see it as an opportunity to support a charity and support a friend at the same time. So many negative Nellie’s on here

Exactly yes. Making everything transactional is really tacky and in very poor taste.

OP, if your husband is truly trying tor raise money for MND, he is doing a good thing. I can't believe how many miserable people there are on this thread. If charities do not ask for money, directly themselves or through volunteer fundraisers like OP's DH fundraising on their behalf, they do not get as much money as if they asked. If you do not ask, you do not get. That is the reality of charity funding. For everyone saying, I'll decide which charities to support unprompted, most would go bust before you remember to send your unprompted donation if they are relying on solely on that. And I always sponsor adult friends who ask with £10 or £20 because that's what friends do. If £20 was the difference between me being able to pay my bills or not, then of course I wouldn't. But it's not.

Gosh, how irksome!

YANBU Definitely don't sponsor little Johnnie for his hopping on one leg in aid of 3 legged donkeys again.

The ones that annoy me the most are folk raising money for some rare medical condition that no one has heard of because their 2nd cousin twice removed has just been diagnosed. Number of times I've had to explain I already donate to several well known health care charities and won't be sponsoring them for Human Felis Wartus Itchy itis of the scrotum.....

Well you don’t seem able to say what he’s doing so right now I figure you’re right.

I didn’t either - it’s been quite the eye opener!!

Believe me, he looks f’ing fantastic in Lycra!

Equipment
Support
Insurance
Blah blah
The charity is at the end of the receiving line.

Again, you're blinded by the cause, and ignoring the process.

Is it a good thing to raise £1000 which people like yourself believe is "going to MND" and then eat up £750 in costs for your skydive, so the charity ends up with £250 and finds that those who gave the £750 won't make any more donations to MND, because "they already gave"? Is that good?