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burnoutbabe · 01/03/2025 18:32

I'd find it odd and be thinking of logistics. Can he easily change his flight without affecting yours? Were you travelling back from airport together by car/taxi which you now have to get alone etc.

bettydavieseyes · 01/03/2025 18:38

I think he could be more tactful. He said it flippantly without considering your feelings. He could stay another week and maybe you would mind less if he broke it to you nicely, knowing you couldn't. What people sometimes don't think about is there really isn't a right and wrong in this scenario, your feelings are valid and his desire to stay longer is reasonable. A couple in love should consider each others feelings, that's the bottom line.

GravyBoatWars · 01/03/2025 21:03

I think what you're saying is he feels he can have just as wonderful a time in Dubai because he's in Dubai, regardless of whether you are there with him, or not.

You're just an added extra, like room service or a lap dance amongst an array of other options.

But that’s a wild leap. My DH took the kids to away this weekend while I stay behind and I’m enjoying the time alone in the house. That’s obviously not because I could take or leave my DH or DC or because they’re just an added extra. It’s because I like my house and I enjoy both sharing it with the people I love and having time here to be on my own schedule. They’re two separate things and I enjoy both in different ways.

Regardless, OP can’t stay because she has to go back to her home, job & kids. Her bf is comparing a week working remotely in Dubai alone with a week working remotely at his home alone. Another week there with OP isn’t an option that he’s passing up.

Not wanting your partner to be able to enjoy themselves without you if you can’t stay with them is controlling and toxic.

Kitchensinktoday · 01/03/2025 21:08

I would feel a bit miffed to be travelling home on my own after a romantic break

TattooGuineaPig · 01/03/2025 22:10

GravyBoatWars · 01/03/2025 21:03

I think what you're saying is he feels he can have just as wonderful a time in Dubai because he's in Dubai, regardless of whether you are there with him, or not.

You're just an added extra, like room service or a lap dance amongst an array of other options.

But that’s a wild leap. My DH took the kids to away this weekend while I stay behind and I’m enjoying the time alone in the house. That’s obviously not because I could take or leave my DH or DC or because they’re just an added extra. It’s because I like my house and I enjoy both sharing it with the people I love and having time here to be on my own schedule. They’re two separate things and I enjoy both in different ways.

Regardless, OP can’t stay because she has to go back to her home, job & kids. Her bf is comparing a week working remotely in Dubai alone with a week working remotely at his home alone. Another week there with OP isn’t an option that he’s passing up.

Not wanting your partner to be able to enjoy themselves without you if you can’t stay with them is controlling and toxic.

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I don't disagree with you. But she's neither married to this guy nor do they share kids. You're miles away in terms of what your basic relationship looks like.

MyLimeGuide · 01/03/2025 22:19

ItShouldntHappenToMeYet · 01/03/2025 07:20

Devastated??!!!!!!
Hyperbole for breakfast.
Devastated is for death, serious unplanned events, the destruction of your life and that os all you know due to war, Act of God or a mistake you've made that impacts badly on others.
Your DP spending an extra week in Dubai after a 'grossly romantic' (whayever that means) time together is just , meh

What does hyperbole for breakfast mean?

MyLimeGuide · 01/03/2025 22:22

I totally understand why you feel like this, I bet no way would these women who have posted these ridiculous posts on here be happy if their hubbies announced, at the end of a holiday "sorry dear, enjoy the flight home (alone) I'm staying here, laters!! 😂

CandidRobin · 01/03/2025 22:52

MyLimeGuide · 01/03/2025 22:22

I totally understand why you feel like this, I bet no way would these women who have posted these ridiculous posts on here be happy if their hubbies announced, at the end of a holiday "sorry dear, enjoy the flight home (alone) I'm staying here, laters!! 😂

Well because it would be unusual if your husband announced random plans to extend a holiday without consultation. In this case it is a boyfriend/girlfriend situation. They don't live together. They have their own interests and commitments.

WGACA · 01/03/2025 23:07

TemporaryPosition · 01/03/2025 07:14

Curious what grossly romantic means..

Me too!

Bananalanacake · 01/03/2025 23:50

It wouldn't bother me at all, I'd be happy with an extra week to myself. Or do you need him to drive you home from the airport?

kattaduck · 02/03/2025 01:08

I don't get the problem at all sorry.
He's probably come to the realization that working from Dubai is a lot nicer than working from the UK right now. I'll probably be a bit envious but also happy for him that he's got to enjoy the nice weather after a workday.
I don't mind traveling on my own though and don't think flying together says something about a relationship. I mean I'll either read or sleep.

Question to those who think it's a big deal: Would you feel the same if he flown back together with the OP and then out again the next day? Or I they wouldn't have flown together from the get go?

I also don't get the whole OP is just an added bonus. According to that you could never holiday on your own somewhere where you've been as a couple. It's just two different types of holidays.

I am not a cool girl I just don't get it.

kattaduck · 02/03/2025 01:10

MyLimeGuide · 01/03/2025 22:22

I totally understand why you feel like this, I bet no way would these women who have posted these ridiculous posts on here be happy if their hubbies announced, at the end of a holiday "sorry dear, enjoy the flight home (alone) I'm staying here, laters!! 😂

I'm not married but as long as they don't have kids together I would just be enjoying having the house to myself. I'd like a week on my own though.

JHound · 02/03/2025 02:47

Byefeliciabyebye · 01/03/2025 05:22

I’m away with my partner in Dubai. It’s been grossly romantic and today is our last day.

i have kids and a full time job at home. He works remotely and has adult kids.

We were just both joking about how lovely it’d be to stay when he said “well I might stay another week”.

Obviously I cannot stay another week as I’m due back at work and to get the kids back from their dad.

I would be devastated if he did this. I can’t really articulate why but certainly in part because it shows our lives aren’t compatible.

Seems like a bit of an overreaction.