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To wish Starmer would make a unilateral decision to rejoin the EU?

308 replies

Wildflowers99 · 27/02/2025 18:59

That’s all, really. Yes it would be ‘undemocratic’ but should we sacrifice national interest on the altar of a vote from 10 years ago that everyone seems to regret?

We feel adrift during a scary time, and the US has all but ghosted us.

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MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 18:59

MissScarletInTheBallroom · Today 18:50

MrsSkylerWhite · Today 18:16
That's entirely hypothetical since we'll never be allowed to rejoin.

I’m not so sure that’s case now,
MissScarletInTheBallroom, with the weird new world order. Our armed services and nuclear deterrent would be a strong reason for the European nation’s voting in favour.

Yes, but it would need a unanimous yes from the EU27, including referendums in several of those countries. It wouldn't necessarily be heads of state or national parliaments or Brussels bureaucrats who got the casting vote. It could be voters in rural France

I suspect that even those rural French voters are pretty unnerved by Putin and Trump’s antics. I believe they have the internet or at least television 😁

FannyBawz · 01/03/2025 19:01

We’ve become the loner in the playground. Ditched our mates for the popular kids and now they’ve rejected us.

Wildflowers99 · 01/03/2025 19:02

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2025 18:59

I completely agree with you. The world’s changed more and faster in the last few months than in the rest of my seven decade lifetime.

This is my logic. No, the EU isn’t perfect - it’s a bit neoliberal for my tastes and I’m sure the waste was high.

But we urgently need allies, and the US has made it very plain that it sees us, and the other Europeans, as ungrateful leeches.

Of course we can be allies without the EU but I think stronger ties, and a removal of unnecessary barriers, can only be a positive at this point. Frankly in my dream world we rejoin and it is mandated every country has to spend a minimum of 3% on defence, but that of course will not happen.

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Clavinova · 01/03/2025 19:03

Kendodd · 01/03/2025 18:45

I wonder if people not wanting to rejoin the EU think even a ruined economy, striping away of rights and opportunities and becoming an international laughing stock is better than listening to the whinging of Leave voters?
Oh, Leavers haven't even shut up whinging though, you'd think they'd all be too busy enjoying their sunlit uplands to continue moaning and lying about Brexit.

The people I know in real life barely mention Brexit - they've just carried on their lives as before.

NotTerfNorCis · 01/03/2025 19:07

We fucked up by leaving the EU. I think most people didn't understand what they were voting for.

Normally I'd be against unilaterally rejoining because that makes a mockery of democracy. But if we were moving into a situation of real global threat - with America gone rogue and Russia threatening - we might need to.

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 19:07

Clavinova

The people I know in real life barely mention Brexit - they've just carried on their lives as before.

I can pretty much guarantee that a percentage don’t want to mention it because it’s been a disaster. Very embarrassing to admit you were duped.

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 19:09

NotTerfNorCis · Today 19:07

We fucked up by leaving the EU. I think most people didn't understand what they were voting for.
Normally I'd be against unilaterally rejoining because that makes a mockery of democracy. But if we were moving into a situation of real global threat - with America gone rogue and Russia threatening - we might need to

This. I believe the UK would be welcomed back with the bare minimum of bureaucracy. We’ve a great deal to bring to the table in this very unstable world.

itsgettingweird · 01/03/2025 19:09

I'd rather Starmer realise that FAR FAR FAR more people DIDN'T vote for him than did and completely reform the way government is chosen in this country.

Will he do that? Doubt it, he wouldn't be in power now if it wasn't for the system that got him there.

If we had a different system our whole political history would be different based on different voting over the years.

Don't think it's really democratic to dislike a system when it doesn't work on your favour!

Clavinova · 01/03/2025 19:10

MissScarletInTheBallroom
We had literally the best deal of any country in the EU

Those countries who were the largest net beneficiaries of EU funding had the best deal.

itsgettingweird · 01/03/2025 19:11

I do wonder if those who supported brexit would have done so had they known what was coming given how much we need europe more than ever now.

My sibling on the forces at the time said this is what would happen as a result of brexit.

True? I have no idea. But it was a common thought that Russia was interfering in the vote to get this outcome to then attack the boarders.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/03/2025 19:17

Clavinova · 01/03/2025 19:10

MissScarletInTheBallroom
We had literally the best deal of any country in the EU

Those countries who were the largest net beneficiaries of EU funding had the best deal.

It's way more complicated than that. Too complicated for a referendum tbh.

Biscuitsnotcookies · 01/03/2025 19:23

itsgettingweird · 01/03/2025 19:11

I do wonder if those who supported brexit would have done so had they known what was coming given how much we need europe more than ever now.

My sibling on the forces at the time said this is what would happen as a result of brexit.

True? I have no idea. But it was a common thought that Russia was interfering in the vote to get this outcome to then attack the boarders.

The EU have done precisely nothing to help Ukraine! Nothing to stop Russia. Very little in the way of military aid and relied largely on the U.K, France and NATO for defence! So misguided, genuinely worrying how far removed some pp are from reality.

The EU have the perfect opportunity to step up - I am going to bet my house on the fact they won’t!

StandFirm · 01/03/2025 19:23

Brexit has been an incredibly expensive waste. It costs us billions in bureaucracy and billions in lost trading opportunities.

Clavinova · 01/03/2025 19:28

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/03/2025 19:17

It's way more complicated than that. Too complicated for a referendum tbh.

Well, yes - look at the complications of deporting an EU citizen if they haven't found work;

Your host country can ask you to leave if you can't prove that you have a realistic chance of finding work there.

In exceptional cases, your host country can deport you on grounds of public policy, public security, or public health - but only if it can prove you pose a serious threat.

https://europa.eu/youreurope/citizens/residence/residence-rights/index_en.htm#just-moved-1

MaggieMistletoe · 01/03/2025 19:30

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 19:07

Clavinova

The people I know in real life barely mention Brexit - they've just carried on their lives as before.

I can pretty much guarantee that a percentage don’t want to mention it because it’s been a disaster. Very embarrassing to admit you were duped.

Agreed. The people I know who voted leave never talk about Brexit, they must feel duped at least to an extent.
I don't think its quite as taboo as the subject of covid though, I know people lost the plot during that time and behaved like hysterical lunatics. Even family members who were so over the top, they now never want to talk about those times ever again because they are just so embarrassed of how they behaved.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/03/2025 19:30

Clavinova · 01/03/2025 19:28

Well, yes - look at the complications of deporting an EU citizen if they haven't found work;

Your host country can ask you to leave if you can't prove that you have a realistic chance of finding work there.

In exceptional cases, your host country can deport you on grounds of public policy, public security, or public health - but only if it can prove you pose a serious threat.

https://europa.eu/youreurope/citizens/residence/residence-rights/index_en.htm#just-moved-1

That's not what I was talking about.

Hypothetical complications around the ability to deport EU citizens haven't actually been a major issue for the UK.

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 19:33

The last thing we need to be doing is deporting EU citizens, @Clavinova. The UK would grind to an halt.

It’s unlikely that many are not in work. Our local hospital is almost completely staffed by EU citizens (and others from around the world) at every level, from porters and HCAs to surgeons. My husband’s life has recently been saved by an exceptionally skilled surgeon from Bulgaria.

Those arriving in the pre-Brexit world usually wanted nothing more than to work as hard as they could and send as much money home as they were able.

HoppityBun · 01/03/2025 19:35

MrsSkylerWhite · 01/03/2025 18:39

Indeed, @HoppityBun. So, let’s have another referendum and let democracy take its course.

It’s not up to me but most polls show little change in opinions. Which is irrelevant, given the actual question asked by the thread heading

Biscuitsnotcookies · 01/03/2025 19:40

The terms of rejoining would be so deeply unappealing even the most ardent remainer wouldn’t vote for it.

There is no chance of either a referendum or rejoining so this is a redundant thread.

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2025 19:43

Biscuitsnotcookies · 01/03/2025 19:40

The terms of rejoining would be so deeply unappealing even the most ardent remainer wouldn’t vote for it.

There is no chance of either a referendum or rejoining so this is a redundant thread.

You might have been right six months ago. The world’s now changed dramatically. All of us in this region need to stick together now because the rest of the world doesn’t give a shit about us.

Tomatotater · 01/03/2025 19:58

itsgettingweird · 01/03/2025 19:09

I'd rather Starmer realise that FAR FAR FAR more people DIDN'T vote for him than did and completely reform the way government is chosen in this country.

Will he do that? Doubt it, he wouldn't be in power now if it wasn't for the system that got him there.

If we had a different system our whole political history would be different based on different voting over the years.

Don't think it's really democratic to dislike a system when it doesn't work on your favour!

Exactly. Its funny how many Conservatives have suddenly realised we have a terrible voting system when it has been unfit for purpose for decades. The Tories had a chance to change it as part of the coalition but they obfuscated,only agreed to put forward a system that wasn't actually even PR and then campaigned against it. This isn't a new system that somehow Labour invented in order to get elected somehow before they were elected.

Eight8eight · 01/03/2025 20:02

I voted remain, and it would be in my interests as the education tax would be illegal, but I really don't think this would be ok or any good for democracy!

Biscuitsnotcookies · 01/03/2025 20:03

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2025 19:43

You might have been right six months ago. The world’s now changed dramatically. All of us in this region need to stick together now because the rest of the world doesn’t give a shit about us.

What?? The EU have done absolutely nothing and your best idea is to ‘stick’ to them?? It beggars belief.
Literally strapping yourself in on the titanic.

BIossomtoes · 01/03/2025 20:05

Biscuitsnotcookies · 01/03/2025 20:03

What?? The EU have done absolutely nothing and your best idea is to ‘stick’ to them?? It beggars belief.
Literally strapping yourself in on the titanic.

What else do you suggest now the US has buggered off?

Clavinova · 01/03/2025 20:12

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 01/03/2025 19:30

That's not what I was talking about.

Hypothetical complications around the ability to deport EU citizens haven't actually been a major issue for the UK.

It's often discussed on Mumsnet - in fact I've just checked and there was a discussion on the Brexit threads two weeks ago. A remain poster has posted duff information although she doesn't realise it.