leaving children & step children our house in our will.

[GingerStephenson]

My husband finished paying for his house when we were still courting. Since then we have married & lived together (for approximately 9 years). As we have gotten older, there has been discussions about selling up, moving away, & what to do regarding the house once we have passed. The discussions only ever mention him, myself & his children. I don't want to sound like I'm 'money grabbing' but what about my children. its such a difficult topic to discuss as I only had rented accommodation, however, I have contributed, financially, to the house since living together. Please advise & TIA.

It looks like 95% of posters on this thread have absolutely no clue about the legal implications of being married!

And redo your will after you marry, which you shouldn't do in the first place.

OP, I think you should stop investing your time and money into an asset which belongs to your husband and in which you and your children have no interest.

I'm in a similar situation. I'm renting and he owns a house. We've been together over 4 years and are going to move in together soon. Really you should have talked about it before you got married. Some people believe once you're married you have an equal share in everything...the law thinks that...other people don't. It's important to decide how you both feel and get your wills written up if he doesn't want you to inherit it all.

We've decided that, once we marry if something happens to him down the line I can stay living in the house. But, once I pass away, the house goes to whoever he wants as he is buying it for us with his money. So I imagine his adult children will inherit it. I'm fine with that. My daughter is very young (5yo) and she doesn't have a dad, so he is a dad to her and he adores her, so I do hope he does leave her something as well but that's his decision.

My Dad is now mortgage free and has sorted out his will.
He re-married in 2023.
His will states if his new wife survives him, she will live in that house until either she dies or chooses to sell. If she chooses to re-marry, she is to sell the house.
Once the house is sold, it is split equally between her and his three children (I am one of the three children).
His new wife has a teenage daughter who won’t profit from the sale of the house.
I can’t imagine why she would or should?
His new wife doesn’t contribute to any bills at all as she only works an hour a day on a term-time contract.

If my Dad chose to split the sale of the house to include his wife’s daughter then that would be absolutely up to him. It is his house.

If your husband became mortgage free while you were still only dating, I wouldn’t dream of asking him to include your children.

I don't want to sound like I'm 'money grabbing'

Maybe not, but you do

What do you mean? There is no legal requirement for OP's husband to leave anything to his step children in his will.

of course people know the law
Most second and third wives usually take the house and fuck up the bio kids
Sometimes they live in it until they die and still fuck up the kids who at that time might be over 60 themselves

literally she is living rent free in his house and can keep doing so without any care of the world, but she dreams his dead, asking stranger how to fuck up his bio kids. -in a nutshell

if you loved that man and were grateful for giving you all that money , all that life, that house for free while you are both alive and even after he dies, how on earth you have the heart to imagine him dead and putting your kids into the inheritance picture....that is very very low class

Exactly

Are your children also his children?

me neither.

op, does his will leave the house to you? Or his kids? Or both? Are you going to be homeless if he dies?

Well it depends. The house is a marital asset so if they were to get divorced then she’d likely get half of it. Given half of it is effectively hers then she could contest a will that bequeathed more than half of it to anyone who wasn’t her.

My mum has re-married, the house belongs to her, but if she goes first my step-dad will be allowed to live in it until he passes away and then we'll inherit. I'm fine with that. He hasn't fucked anything up for me. He makes my mum very happy and is a good man. They've already even together 20 years and it may well be decades more. You seem to have some weird opinion that step-children all hate their step-parents and only care about inheriting money. That's rather sad.

My children will inherit from me and their father. My DP’s children will inherit from him and their mother.