to be concerned about my dd’s weight?

[swimmerdoggy]

hi, first time on mn so sorry if this is a rant!
I have a dd(14) who I think may be overweight. fyi, she has ADHD, does swimming, netball and taekwondo and eats rather healthy. Her and my ex husband (her dad) are both relatively slim and we are divorced so she lives mainly with me, and sees him in the summer and most weekends.

she was really slim about a month ago, however I have noticed she has gained a significant amount of weight in the past month. Shes gotten a double chin, love handles and wuite a jiggly stomach. I am not sure why this has happened as we are still eating healthy at home and she chooses a pack lunch for school which is also quite Healthy.

in the summer when she was 10, she gained a lot of weight snd got almost obese thanks ro her dad feeding her McDonald’s almost every day :( but she is healthy now and me and her dad have had conversations about her healthy eating and he feeds her really healthily now when she is at his.

she is 161 cm and 62 kg

i am just looking for advice on weather she is overweight or not? And any tips would be appreciated if she can lose a little weight. I am not being judgmental and I’d just like to say this is all from me caring for her and not being pushy.

Can't you tell her to stop eating sweets and chocolates at mealtimes?? You don't have to mention weight. My DD is slim but I tell her off for eating so many sweets that she doesn't eat much dinner. It's very unhealthy.

You and your sister both seem to have intense ideas about food and weight. You've both commented on her weight yet you are aware she is a healthy weight.
It's no wonder the girl has developed disordered eating patterns, is it?

thank you everyone for these messages. Although I cannot delete the thread, I am going to stop reading it. All the messages about me going to give my DD an eating disorder are making me feel like a bad parent as I am not trying to do this.
@kittensinthekitchen wow, you really know how to lift and support other women. thank you for this.

You seem like a lovely concerned parent, so well done you. You can check if your daughter is overweight here - https://www.nhs.uk/health-assessment-tools/calculate-your-body-mass-index/calculate-bmi-for-children-teenagers
I think she might be overweight from what you have described. Has she had her period yet? Often young girls will gain puppy fat then which melts off soon after as long as there are no real unhealthy habits and they continue to exercise. Just advice her to eat healthy and play more sport/swim etc.