To be feeling a bit miffed that I've been uninvited?

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Not sure if I'm being overly sensitive so just wanted opinions on this.

Quick backstory:
OH got a new boss around 18 months ago. Long story short they've become very close both in a working relationship but also a personal one too. Boss lives around 3hrs away which near where their head office is - OH is in a role that is home based but with travel to various locations when needed (usually around 2 weeks a month) but when they're travelling or OH has to go the head office they obviously meet up for work but also socialise etc. OH has met his fiancée a few times and is going to stay with them at their house in a few months when boss has his stag do. I hear about this man quite a lot 😂

Boss is getting married this summer. While the official invites haven't been sent out yet, I'd been told we were both invited to the evening do. Great! I finally get to meet the man I hear so much about. We were planning on making a little weekend away of it as we very rarely do anything together. OH announced yesterday that he's now got an invite to the day do but that means I'm ditched and no longer invited to any of it.
OH is thrilled he's been honoured with an invite to the day event but I feel a bit upset that the weekend we had planned is now scrapped and I've been 'uninvited'

I totally understand weddings can be a nightmare to plan and that I don't know these people so they don't owe me anything. I just feel a bit sad. AIBU?

Ahhh yes I agree with that, I assumed it was aimed at the last few replies!

Deranged because people see it differently than you do? I wouldn’t call you deranged for having a different opinion.

Of course I don’t think anyone with a different opinion to me is deranged. But yes, I do think these particular opinions are deranged.

Me thinking it’s fine for OP’s husband to go to the wedding on its own and someone else thinking he shouldn’t go = different opinions.

Thinking OP’s husband going to a wedding alone means he must be in love with the groom, or that the groom and his fiancée are deliberately trying to drive a wedge between him and OP so they can marry him off to the groom’s sister = deranged.

No one is deranged.
Some people wouldn't go to a work friend's wedding without their partner.
Some people would attend on their own without a thought.

I don't think anything about this scenario is worth a row over.

I’d be surprised if many people would refuse to go to their bosses wedding if their partner couldnt come too. That sounds like a clingy sort of thing to do. I’m female, I’d go. And I’d not expect my husband to be weeping into his whisky or people telling him it meant I was delighted he wasn’t going, or I was gay or some of the other mad suggestions being made.

Many of us are confused about why dh going to the day event have any impact on numbers for the evening. Make no sense at all

Sounds like either the boss or dh don't want OP there and are making up weird excuses

I’d assume they redid the numbers for both day and evening and revised the invite rather than think there was some conspiracy;

sometimes the simplest explanation is the obvious one, I’m fairly sure the boss isn’t giving a lot of thought to the op who he has never even met.

My spider sense is twitching, suggest to DH you still want to make a long weekend of it and you'll potter around by yourself on wedding day.

See if that horrifies him....

Personally I think it is really rude to invite someone to a wedding but not invite their spouse!

That's really weird imo, to invite someone without their long term partner.
It happened to us once, and DH turned down the invitation. I wouldn't go to a wedding without him either (I'd go to an evening do if it was just a bunch of work colleagues going without partners but not the whole day)

No, not absolutely everything. But what are weddings about if not celebrating relationships and marriage. It's beyond weird to event a good friend to your wedding but uninvite their wife.

Not to mention what kind of man goes to a wedding without his wife?

Gosh this escalated 😆

No mention of a single sister and no I don't think he's having a gay affair. 😂😂

Not to mention what kind of man goes to a wedding without his wife?

One whose wife has never clapped eyes on either the bride or groom?

OP, you sound eminently sensible. Especially compared to some of the posters on this thread.