To reschedule another time if friends need to bring their toddler or baby to hangouts?

[Vicosa321]

you know when you suddnely plan to meet up with a friend of small children but without their kids and suddnely something happens or change or things meaning they have to bring LO if meeting up.

have had some that want reschedule to another time for adult meet up instead, and another friend with the question «have to bring LO, you don’t mind?» and i kinda hate this one because they don’t ask you if you want to reschedule to another time instead where you can be 2 adults having adults convo and meet up. And this one makes it seem like you are an asshole if you say no. My friends child are lovley but i do need some adult time with them aswell. And i know im not an asshole by asking to hang another time instead? But some may take offence and assume by my answer that i don’t want to see their LO. Once a while sure but everytime? Not. Babies and toddler change the dynamic of meet ups

I actually don't. It's the nature of having two severely disabled children and no support network. Luckily I have some friends who are understanding.

Ha ha 🤣 I'd hate it!!!

I had someone who wanted to come over for drinks in Friday evening. She has 3 teenage kids (youngest 15, I think). And on the day, afternoon, she texted me:"Are children invited?". I said with all honesty that I'd had a full on week with back to back conference calls and I was looking forward to 1:1 drink with a fellow adult and couldn't handle more than that. She responded that that was cool and she assumed my teenager (DD16) was in and wouldn't mind company (but she most definitely would as she hadn't met her kids before). Honest is best policy 😅😅😅

This would never be said to a man moaning about his mate always bringing a toddler down the pub.

It's this sexist expectation that women must always be delighted by having children around that's the problem.

Good for u i guess? But thats not everyone’s occasion @Outchy