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To ask the worst thing you've ever done in anger?

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:25

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it.

When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it.

What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

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ElsaLion · 20/02/2025 22:47

This may not be the worst thing I've done, because in many ways it was justified. Following a disastrous holiday with my PIL a couple of years ago (during which their notably unpredictable and aggressive dog tried to attack our DC on several occasions), MIL subsequently revealed her intention to have the dog assessed to become a Therapy Dog, so would be visiting vulnerable children in schools and hospitals. She immediately dismissed and denied our concerns about its aggressive behaviour, so following the call we looked at the assessment process and saw they had clearly lied about the dog's behavioural history, to get so far in the process.

Cue immediate whistleblowing phone calls to the charity, and their trainer who was due to assess them that week. Both were appalled at the extent of lying and denying of risky behaviour - essentially the dog could have caused serious injury to a child, and risked the charity/trainer being sued. The assessment was cancelled with immediate effect, and the dog deemed completely unsuitable. PIL had an absolute meltdown upon finding out, we later heard of 2am phone calls to the dog trainer, screaming abuse at her down the phone. They also threatened to call the police on us, get me sacked from my job etc. you name it. All because they didn't care that their dog could have seriously injured their own grandchildren.

It goes without saying that we haven't seen them for two years, and contact is minimal.

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:48

ElsaLion · 20/02/2025 22:47

This may not be the worst thing I've done, because in many ways it was justified. Following a disastrous holiday with my PIL a couple of years ago (during which their notably unpredictable and aggressive dog tried to attack our DC on several occasions), MIL subsequently revealed her intention to have the dog assessed to become a Therapy Dog, so would be visiting vulnerable children in schools and hospitals. She immediately dismissed and denied our concerns about its aggressive behaviour, so following the call we looked at the assessment process and saw they had clearly lied about the dog's behavioural history, to get so far in the process.

Cue immediate whistleblowing phone calls to the charity, and their trainer who was due to assess them that week. Both were appalled at the extent of lying and denying of risky behaviour - essentially the dog could have caused serious injury to a child, and risked the charity/trainer being sued. The assessment was cancelled with immediate effect, and the dog deemed completely unsuitable. PIL had an absolute meltdown upon finding out, we later heard of 2am phone calls to the dog trainer, screaming abuse at her down the phone. They also threatened to call the police on us, get me sacked from my job etc. you name it. All because they didn't care that their dog could have seriously injured their own grandchildren.

It goes without saying that we haven't seen them for two years, and contact is minimal.

I can see why you felt bad because ots family but you definitely did the right thing!

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username299 · 20/02/2025 22:49

I broke my toe kicking a wall.

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:49

username299 · 20/02/2025 22:49

I broke my toe kicking a wall.

Ouch. That's definitely instant karma.

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TheLargestToblerone · 20/02/2025 22:50

Snapped and farted.

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:51

TheLargestToblerone · 20/02/2025 22:50

Snapped and farted.

Fart rage is real.

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neverknowinglyunreasonable · 20/02/2025 22:51

I once shouted "Fiddlesticks" at a nun

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:51

neverknowinglyunreasonable · 20/02/2025 22:51

I once shouted "Fiddlesticks" at a nun

She probably had it coming...

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PersephoneSmith · 20/02/2025 22:52

I don’t want to make you feel worse @Dishwater123 but yours is a crime. If I were you I would keep my gob shut about it in future and never mention it again. Even on an anonymous forum.
@ElsaLion you know yours wasn’t a bad thing to do

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:54

PersephoneSmith · 20/02/2025 22:52

I don’t want to make you feel worse @Dishwater123 but yours is a crime. If I were you I would keep my gob shut about it in future and never mention it again. Even on an anonymous forum.
@ElsaLion you know yours wasn’t a bad thing to do

Edited

Exactly! It was nearly 20 years ago so feel truly awful about it. Hedging my bets that I won't be found via this confession. The benefits of hindsight are 20/20 it's not something I'd even entertain today...the fault was definitely with the cheating asshole!

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whathaveiforgotten · 20/02/2025 22:57

If you did that today and got caught you would almost certainly get a criminal conviction OP and technically could get a custodial sentence.

Not sure anyone else's stories will make you feel better about yours as it's so serious!

Glad you can see how wrong it was now though. Her poor family getting those emails.

Goody2ShoesAndTheFilthyBeast · 20/02/2025 22:59

The worst I'm prepared to type out and put online is when my front door got stuck yet again and I was in the rain with 2 toddlers and I lost lost my shit, screamed and did this weird side kick and took the (wooden) door off the (rotting and warped) wooden frame.

The upvc door and frame I had to have fitted as an emergency cost a fortune.

That's all im admitting to because im not willing to give details of my crimes on the internet. 😄😄

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 23:01

I know. I truly know how awful it was. I can't Imagine how bad the fall out was. Its so far from "me" now, even in a state of anger. It was definitely a defining moment in that now I resolve to never respond in anger again.

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OK this makes me feel a bit better. No one got stabbed. We can be criminal together!

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Talkwhilstyouwalk · 20/02/2025 23:05

Things have changed a lot in 20 years....yes, today that would be a criminal offence. 20 years ago I'm not sure it would have been. She'd been awful to you and you wanted to get her back....part of me feels that she should have used a stronger password!

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 23:06

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 20/02/2025 23:05

Things have changed a lot in 20 years....yes, today that would be a criminal offence. 20 years ago I'm not sure it would have been. She'd been awful to you and you wanted to get her back....part of me feels that she should have used a stronger password!

It was a spectacularly easy guess. But there is not justifying it.

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 23:09

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

Thank you. I ca understand why I acted the way I did, but retrospectively my ire was aimed at the wrong person. I've learned very much so to rise above.

I would have been devastated I your situation, canceling the flights was absolutely uncalled for. I hope you managed to get your holiday. Anxiety is crippling but no excuse to ruin everybody's good time.

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Sonolanona · 21/02/2025 00:08

Frizzbee-d a wooden plate at my teenage son. Thankfully it missed. He'd just punched a hole through a wall and thrown a basket ball at my head and I saw red.
Needless to say I felt awful. He was a really REALLY difficult, angry teenager and it was the only time I lost it in 5 years of hell (stealing, drugs you name it ). Luckily he grew up and is a wonderful man now and he still teases me about my terrible aim.

Saphire123 · 21/02/2025 00:28

Decades ago when I was a newlywed, husband and I had some awful rows.
I once charged upstairs, found our marriage certificate, and ripped it to pieces. He sellotaped it back together when we had both calmed down.
I remember being really embarrassed when I had to show it to someone at a later date.😳

BabetteAteOatmeal · 21/02/2025 00:34

When I found out my ex had cheated on me (with three different women) I took all of his diaries and burnt them. He had written diaries for decades, there must have been over 20 of them. At the time I wanted to take something important from him like he had taken my trust. Don’t think it made me feel any better to be honest.

RIPVPROG · 21/02/2025 00:37

whathaveiforgotten · 20/02/2025 22:57

If you did that today and got caught you would almost certainly get a criminal conviction OP and technically could get a custodial sentence.

Not sure anyone else's stories will make you feel better about yours as it's so serious!

Glad you can see how wrong it was now though. Her poor family getting those emails.

OP doesn't mention images, I don't think it's the offence you think it is.

LittleMissLateForWorkAgain · 21/02/2025 00:41

Slammed my fist through the (admittedly crappy) internal kitchen door right next to my ex partner s head after I found out he d been cheating on me.

Finally have the money to replace all internal doors for nice ones and will never happen again as the only man in my house is my son.

CurtainsCurtain · 21/02/2025 00:45

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

If someone had cancelled my hard-earned holiday because they didn’t want me to enjoy it without them, she’d have been lucky to escape with shouting. I think you were pretty restrained.