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To ask the worst thing you've ever done in anger?

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:25

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it.

When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it.

What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

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Didimum · 21/02/2025 07:06

I pushed my partner during an argument. That was 12yrs ago.

Keepingthingsinteresting · 21/02/2025 07:08

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

Frankly I think you were quite restrained. She would have been sued and lucky not to be punched. Did she not even offer to pay you back?

coldscottishmum · 21/02/2025 07:16

I ripped up all photos of me and DH, binned them and deleted all our early photos from when we first got together. I was completely justified in the way he treated me at the time, but I felt really sad about a year after that I’d never see them again. I don’t think he’s ever forgiven me for that one!

Speckyfourfries · 21/02/2025 07:25

Told one of those "knock on the door at 8a.m to talk about Jesus" Mormons to fuck off. I was in a really bad place and she woke me up. Felt mortified afterwards.

Speckyfourfries · 21/02/2025 07:26

Ripped up my marriage certificate after a row with DH.

Then needed it for something and had to pay to get a new one

FutureFakingFucker · 21/02/2025 07:40

Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 23:06

It was a spectacularly easy guess. But there is not justifying it.

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I don’t know. I kind of feel glad you did it. Except it’s left you with difficult feelings about it. What awful people. Hopefully it taught her a valuable lesson. You dance with the devil…

Ilikepianos · 21/02/2025 07:42

ElsaLion · 20/02/2025 22:47

This may not be the worst thing I've done, because in many ways it was justified. Following a disastrous holiday with my PIL a couple of years ago (during which their notably unpredictable and aggressive dog tried to attack our DC on several occasions), MIL subsequently revealed her intention to have the dog assessed to become a Therapy Dog, so would be visiting vulnerable children in schools and hospitals. She immediately dismissed and denied our concerns about its aggressive behaviour, so following the call we looked at the assessment process and saw they had clearly lied about the dog's behavioural history, to get so far in the process.

Cue immediate whistleblowing phone calls to the charity, and their trainer who was due to assess them that week. Both were appalled at the extent of lying and denying of risky behaviour - essentially the dog could have caused serious injury to a child, and risked the charity/trainer being sued. The assessment was cancelled with immediate effect, and the dog deemed completely unsuitable. PIL had an absolute meltdown upon finding out, we later heard of 2am phone calls to the dog trainer, screaming abuse at her down the phone. They also threatened to call the police on us, get me sacked from my job etc. you name it. All because they didn't care that their dog could have seriously injured their own grandchildren.

It goes without saying that we haven't seen them for two years, and contact is minimal.

Oh that's brave. You were 100% in the right. Well done for doing the right thing!

PeggyMitchellsCameo · 21/02/2025 07:43

Was in a terrible relationship in my younger years, boyfriend constantly telling me who he fancied and how fabulous he was.
It ground be down.
I had a thing for a celebrity as you do, just mentioned it in passing, and from then on he wouldn’t leave it.
But he knew other girls felt the same, he was absolutely gorgeous.
At a really low point, I was randomly introduced to this guy. In a situation where lots of people saw. He actually flirted with me outrageously and I never put him off.
By word of mouth it got to my boyfriend and he was furious. He kept saying there was something going on and I did nothing to dispel the rumours.
We broke up.
I kept randomly meeting Famous Guy and eventually told him about my awful ex and why he hated him. He was actually really lovely about it, and would flirt even more.
Again it all seems to get back to the ex, and I know in the end he was hurt as he really thought I’d left him for Famous Guy.
It did my confidence no end of good, to be fair.
Still see him on the telly now and it makes me smile.

Ilikepianos · 21/02/2025 07:44

Speckyfourfries · 21/02/2025 07:25

Told one of those "knock on the door at 8a.m to talk about Jesus" Mormons to fuck off. I was in a really bad place and she woke me up. Felt mortified afterwards.

They probably thought you really needed Jesus after that but too scared to return :) 8am can't blame you though!!

OVienna · 21/02/2025 08:00

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

I would have taken her to small claims.

Booboobagins · 21/02/2025 08:01

My DM 86yo attacked me when I was driving the car. She punched my left arm repeatedly. It didn't hurt but I was so mad, I told her to get out of the car. Called my sister and asked her to get mum.

I left her there by the side of the road to wait 20mins for my sister to arrive. It was a dry day. It was in good town. I haven't spoken to her since. She def has brain atrophy but denies it. She's always been aggressive but that aggression is worsening as her brain function deteriorates. I feel bad cos she's old but I can't excuse violence at all. She's been horrible to me many times in my life. I may never speak to her again now.

Vinvertebrate · 21/02/2025 08:01

In my early 20’s, I had a fuckboy bf. We got together when, to my delight, he dumped his pregnant gf for me. (I know…) We went on a skiing holiday (my first, he was a pro) with a group of his friends and let’s just say my skiing prowess disappointed him. He was clearly rather taken with another woman on the holiday - lengthy black runs together ensued - and pretty much ignored me.

When we got back, I waited for him to go to work, filled the pockets of his ski gear and boots with frozen prawns and pickle, whacked the central heating up to max and fucked off forever. I have never, ever done anything like that before or since, but I was devastated. I’ve never skied since either!

IButtleSir · 21/02/2025 08:07

To all of you saying what the OP did wasn't that bad: think of what a horrible shock that would have been for the dad and gran of the woman who the OP hacked. They had done nothing wrong and yet were sent explicit messages sent to their daughter/granddaughter.

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It was probably fairly “innocent” and if I received an email from my child forwarding a message saying along the lines of “I want to suck you off”… I’d read one line and stop

And you wouldn't be remotely upset by having read that, would you?

Titasaducksarse · 21/02/2025 08:17

On exiting a situation with a person I'd had sex with but had treated me badly I got their toothbrush and used it to clean their toilet.

LightCameraBitchSmile · 21/02/2025 08:18

PersephoneSmith · 20/02/2025 22:52

I don’t want to make you feel worse @Dishwater123 but yours is a crime. If I were you I would keep my gob shut about it in future and never mention it again. Even on an anonymous forum.
@ElsaLion you know yours wasn’t a bad thing to do

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For what crime?

Katemax82 · 21/02/2025 08:20

I've done worse but the 2 things that spring to mind are
Age 19, we had a new dog and my 7 year old stepson had recently moved in with us. He wound me up massively so in temper while cleaning up the dogs shit I threw the bag angrily out the back door, which hit the wall of the adjoining house and exploded! Wasn't very funny cleaning that up...
Secondly and far far worse, aged 40 i went on my husbands leaving drink for his job he had been in 22 years...I had too much and one of his mates bought me a whole bottle of prosecco in the last round before leaving instead of a glass. I puked in the taxi home...all over the driver

oakleaffy · 21/02/2025 08:24

ElsaLion · 20/02/2025 22:47

This may not be the worst thing I've done, because in many ways it was justified. Following a disastrous holiday with my PIL a couple of years ago (during which their notably unpredictable and aggressive dog tried to attack our DC on several occasions), MIL subsequently revealed her intention to have the dog assessed to become a Therapy Dog, so would be visiting vulnerable children in schools and hospitals. She immediately dismissed and denied our concerns about its aggressive behaviour, so following the call we looked at the assessment process and saw they had clearly lied about the dog's behavioural history, to get so far in the process.

Cue immediate whistleblowing phone calls to the charity, and their trainer who was due to assess them that week. Both were appalled at the extent of lying and denying of risky behaviour - essentially the dog could have caused serious injury to a child, and risked the charity/trainer being sued. The assessment was cancelled with immediate effect, and the dog deemed completely unsuitable. PIL had an absolute meltdown upon finding out, we later heard of 2am phone calls to the dog trainer, screaming abuse at her down the phone. They also threatened to call the police on us, get me sacked from my job etc. you name it. All because they didn't care that their dog could have seriously injured their own grandchildren.

It goes without saying that we haven't seen them for two years, and contact is minimal.

Thank Goodness you did this! Well done!

My own very gentle, kind dog is a therapy dog, and is very mellow and I’m shocked their aggy mutt would ever have passed an assessment.

They have to be very calm, not jump up, not paw at people, take treats very gently and to be paragons of good behaviour- not a dangerous liability and a risk to children.

Rawnotblended · 21/02/2025 08:26

My ex husband is an arsehole and slammed the door in my face after I’d done him a favour. So I keyed his car. A really deep curly scratch.

I regret that it was only on one panel, if I’d been quicker I could have got the doors in. I also regret that I didn’t write my name cos I’d hate him to think someone else did it. Wanker.

Dolambslikemintsauce · 21/02/2025 08:28

Reported my best mates dh to Dog's Trust... He was abusing their new ddog... She wasn't going to.... They took poor ddog back the next day.

ElsaLion · 21/02/2025 08:30

@oakleaffy Thanks for sharing your experience, hearing about your dog's lovely temperament has certainly made me feel that we did the right thing!

oakleaffy · 21/02/2025 08:30

Dolambslikemintsauce · 21/02/2025 08:28

Reported my best mates dh to Dog's Trust... He was abusing their new ddog... She wasn't going to.... They took poor ddog back the next day.

Thank you for doing this.

oakleaffy · 21/02/2025 08:34

ElsaLion · 21/02/2025 08:30

@oakleaffy Thanks for sharing your experience, hearing about your dog's lovely temperament has certainly made me feel that we did the right thing!

You definitely did!
That dog is the very worst thing to have around vulnerable or poorly children or adults.

Well done.

Very probably the assessor would be able to tell it was unpredictable, but you spared them a wasted trip.

Showerflowers · 21/02/2025 08:37

I was on a bus heavily pregnant and with my toddler son. A man got on and was being very loud and inappropriate. Swearing, smoking and chucking bits of rolled up paper at people. Playing loud music on his phone.

I just snapped. Probably lack of sleep or hormones. But I just got up, snatched his phone, and posted it out the bus window as we whizzed along.