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To ask the worst thing you've ever done in anger?

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 22:25

Getting this off my chest and asking what the worst thing you've ever done in the faint hope of feeling better even if I don't deserve it.

When I had just left for uni, many years ago, I was devastated to receive several insulting text messages suggesting my then boyfriend was cheating on me and they also layed into my appearence and personality. I was so very hurt that when I found out who it was I "hacked" (read as guessed) the password of the culprits email, found several VERY explicit sexting emails from not only my boyfriend but a few others...in my (admittedly misplaced) rage, forwarded all of the emails to her family and friends, including her dad and gran. I still feel super awful about it to this day and can see EVERYTHING that was toxic and wrong with it.

What's the worst thing you've done in anger? For the record I KNOW I was unreasonable posting in the hope of hearing about your misguided rage.

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oakleaffy · 21/02/2025 08:39

Saphire123 · 21/02/2025 00:28

Decades ago when I was a newlywed, husband and I had some awful rows.
I once charged upstairs, found our marriage certificate, and ripped it to pieces. He sellotaped it back together when we had both calmed down.
I remember being really embarrassed when I had to show it to someone at a later date.😳

That’s quite funny in retrospect 😂
( Are you still happily Married?!) hope so!

LillyPJ · 21/02/2025 08:43

DazedAndConfused321 · 20/02/2025 23:05

OP, you were upset and angry, I don't blame you for reacting to the person who caused that initial feeling! There's always going to be a better way to deal with issues, but yours wasn't that bad. A cruel person might've learnt a lesson!

I was in a group of friends who included someone who was harmless but incredibly insecure and projected her feelings towards everyone else. We were all on eggshells, trying not to upset her or cause her anxiety. We had a trip abroad planned for months, and on the day we were meant to meet at a hotel before getting an early flight the next morning, she told us she'd cancelled our flights (she'd taken it upon herself to do bookings and arrangements) because she was too anxious to go but didn't want to miss out if we went without her. I was livid, drove to her house, and shouted at her until she cried. I was financially struggling and had saved for months, non refundable hundreds of pounds worth of tickets cancelled. And all because she was anxious. All I know is she sought therapy and treatment for her anxiety after, but we haven't spoken since.

I'd be livid about the cancelled trip too and don't think you were unreasonable being livid. It's terrible that she suffered so much anxiety but it was really nasty of her to cancel the trip and spoil things for everyone else.

oakleaffy · 21/02/2025 08:46

Talkwhilstyouwalk · 20/02/2025 23:05

Things have changed a lot in 20 years....yes, today that would be a criminal offence. 20 years ago I'm not sure it would have been. She'd been awful to you and you wanted to get her back....part of me feels that she should have used a stronger password!

Allegedly many people used to use really weak passwords like “Password “ or “Qwerty “

Nowadays computers tell you if a PW is weak.

What was really strange , son’s password is only one number different to my own

I was using his laptop and asked for his Password- and said “ No, that’s mine?!”

That was really strange. ( He didn’t know my password, either)

borntoblossom · 21/02/2025 08:47

Loving some of these stories. Ages ago after a big argument with my boyfriend at the time, I smashed up his big fancy expensive TV. I can't remember the argument, but it will have been related to his horrendous cocaine habit

LillyPJ · 21/02/2025 08:49

Showerflowers · 21/02/2025 08:37

I was on a bus heavily pregnant and with my toddler son. A man got on and was being very loud and inappropriate. Swearing, smoking and chucking bits of rolled up paper at people. Playing loud music on his phone.

I just snapped. Probably lack of sleep or hormones. But I just got up, snatched his phone, and posted it out the bus window as we whizzed along.

Brilliant!

NovaF · 21/02/2025 09:00

Two things when I was at uni

The first was that we had someone stay in our living room for four months. He never paid rent, we could not use the room properly as he slept there, he would shout at us for being messy and living like pigs despite never paying rent or bills, then slept with the girl he knew our other flatmate was in love with. He had known that flatmate for years. He was always in the habit of wiping his nose on his sleeves, so I did a wee on all his sleeves. Lets calls him B.

he thankfully moved out. Cut to nine months later an my housing situation fell apart and guess who I ended up being a flatmate of again! He was actually alright now he was paying rent and had his own room. We had a flatmate move in and she was dozy, K.

B and other flatmate, P, were low level weed dealers. K invited her friend to stay and told me he was a copper. I told her she should tell them but she didnt. Anyway her friend came to stay and I watched B and P weigh the weed and put it into baggies in front of them and could see her friend watching them. I went into my room I wanted to be no part of it and it was awkward. Anyway about 20 mins later I heard K go out and P and B (who were 10 and 4 years older than me) running around. B banged on my door and asked he to told him, he was shaking, I thought someone had died.

He was white as a sheet and said ‘hes a copper he saw us bag that weed’. I feigned surprise and they fled to their girlfriends houses. When they returned a few days later I heard them screaming at K. The screaming and berating went on for weeks and they were shitty and ignored her until the tenancy was up six months later. Yes she was stupid, their behaviour was a bit much. Obviously nothing came of it from her police friend.

B and P apologised to me about the atmosphere and I told them they needed to give it a rest as it was horrific in the flat. It calmed but was still awful. After one incident with them shouting at K I lost my patience. I had hamsters (I missed my childhood dog and wanted a pet).

so the next time I cleaned the cage I put his little hamster shits in the middle of the communal Bisto Gravy tub only B and P used. I realised they didnt really look like Bisto but stirred them right into the pot. I took great joy in thinking of them trying to dissolve that stubborn weirdly big gravy granule. Enjoy boys!

LilMagpie · 21/02/2025 09:03

I was in a house share and nearing the end of a year abroad when I got news that my best friend had died unexpectedly. I scrambled for last minute flights home and found someone to take over my room. I told my landlord the circumstances and that I had found someone so no rent would be lost to him and without any sympathetic words or condolences he immediately told me he would be keeping my deposit for leaving at short notice. Not a huge amount of money, but still my money.
I saw red and threatened to smash the house up (extremely unlike me but I guess grief is a beast). I didn’t smash it up but what I did do was make several extremely long international calls on the house phone, knowing that bills were included in my rent. For the next week, I encouraged some backpacker friends to visit and use our phone to call home. I was determined that if I wasn’t going to get my money back, I was going to make damn sure he wouldn’t get to enjoy it either. I hoped he’d enjoy receiving his phone bill a month later, after I was long gone.

But I did leave feeling kind of guilty, because on my last day there he had a change of heart and turned up with my deposit in full and an apology 💀

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Only4nomore · 21/02/2025 09:05

My mum had an affair and for weeks after I gave the affair partner mulitple flat tyers

Kingbomb · 21/02/2025 09:06

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Did you mean to @ me or someone else? I thought mine wasn’t too bad compared to some of the others 😅

ERthree · 21/02/2025 09:08

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If they had hurt you badly then you were justified.

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MrsMiniver1942 · 21/02/2025 09:09

Sent birthday, valentine and Christmas cards to a man who had been playing me for a fool (he was married, which I didn't know at the start) to his house with a fake name on them as the sender. He turned out to be a massive player, sending pictures to loads of women, so it could have come from anybody.

LilMagpie · 21/02/2025 09:11

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I didn’t wee on anyone’s sleeves lol

stampin · 21/02/2025 09:12

I'm a bit grossed out by some poster's actions.......

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UnderHisEeyore · 21/02/2025 09:13

Ex fiance in my 20's was sleeping with my work colleague and gas-lit me for months. I finally found out from his friend (when drunk) and kung-foo kicked his wing mirror off on the driveway before telling him he had to leave. I left my job and we sold the house. Was a huge life change and you never fully get that innocence back.

CurtainsCurtain · 21/02/2025 09:13

stampin · 21/02/2025 09:12

I'm a bit grossed out by some poster's actions.......

I think quite a few of these are entirely fictitious. In the spirit of ‘I told off the guy watching tv loudly on his phone and the whole bus burst into spontaneous applause!’

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NovaF · 21/02/2025 09:18

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B…dat u?!

TheBlueUser · 21/02/2025 09:20

After a long day at work, I arrived home at 10pm to find one of my housemates had eaten the dinner I had cooked earlier so I had food when I got home.

All flatmates knew this was my dinner as they had been in the kitchen when I was cooking it. This was after a few similarish incidents.

I had 4 flatmates, 2 boys and another girl. I knew it wouldn't have been the girl, so I messaged her asking her to find out who it was. I knew they were all at a pub quiz together.

She told me they laughed when she asked and said they shared it because they only wanted to pay for a snack at the pub so didn't want to be too hungry.

I knew they would be home around 11:30 after the quiz was finished. So at 11:25 I went to both of their rooms and poured two big jugs of water over their beds. Then I opened two can of sardines and stuffed the contents under each of their beds (low to the floor so they wouldn't think to look under it).

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Dishwater123 · 20/02/2025 23:09

Thank you. I ca understand why I acted the way I did, but retrospectively my ire was aimed at the wrong person. I've learned very much so to rise above.

I would have been devastated I your situation, canceling the flights was absolutely uncalled for. I hope you managed to get your holiday. Anxiety is crippling but no excuse to ruin everybody's good time.

It wasn’t aimed at the wrong person. She was the one not only revealing your bf’s cheating (WITH HER) but saying a load of crap about your looks and personality! He should have had a similar ‘punishment’ but she was hardly innocent - she obviously hated you and she could have been done today for sending malicious correspondence!

Don’t feel too bad - she wrote those thing, they weren’t made up and she chose to send them to somebody in a relationship and then make his gf upset with the things she again purposefully wrote. She deserved bad karma, as did he.