Diary of a 24 M really fussy eater 😟

[Sophiakurby25]

Diary of a 24 M really fussy eater
Breakfast : milk plus homemade bread with peanut butter plus yogurt with blueberries / croissant
Snack : banana or apple
Nap : milk
Lunch : homemade chicken , courgettes and potatoes meatballs , plus carrot stick
Snack : protein raspberry yogurt plus crackers
Dinner : carrot stick plus pasta with pesto with sneaky courgettes /

She also has : leanpork and boiled eggs meatballs , lasagna , sausages , homemade hazelnut meringue , apples , pears , pesto with disguised spinach and courgette , Greek yogurt , hummus with crackers , bolognese .

Not a fan of rice , certain pasta sauces , won’t touch eggs or cheese , sometimes she won’t have dinner if something she doesn’t fancy what I cooked 😌

Bed : milk

Does this sound like sensory issues

it is more than the toe walking she had been doing on and off since she was 14 months

@Sophiakurby25

You've said this is your first baby and you don't have any prior experience of looking after babies.

You've asked for advice, why won't you believe women that do have experience with babies and young children? Why won't you believe the professionals who've advised you?

Do you now realise your child is not a fussy eater?
Are you willing to accept that toe walking can be within the realms of normal at this age?

I recognise this poster too. OP, this is now the umpteenth thread you have posted about "fussy eating", toe walking and other non-concerns about development. You've been told now by countless health professionals and posters with experience there is nothing abnormal with your daughter and she is developing normally. What do you want to achieve?

I'll be blunt. Anyone with half a brain cell would know that list isn't a fussy eater, I'm not sure why you keep feeling the need to post these massive lists. I find it genuinely offensive and attention seeking that you keep posting post after post like this and searching for threads that are years old and hijacking other threads of people who have genuine concerns for their children.

Do you have any friends or family to support you? Your way of thinking is incredibly unhealthy and harmful to your daughter. Are you still going to be hyperfocusing on everything when she's still at school.

Do you have any plans to return to work? I hold no sway with stay at home mums or working mums but from the amount you've posted, I feel it would beneficial for your daughter to be around peers and socialising and to have space from every single minute behaviour being over-analysed and for yourself to have something else to focus on in your life.

Not much of a support at all , the vast majority of my family lives abroad and we moved to a very remote town in the uk from Essex . I am planning to go back to work in a month time .

I do think as well you need help and support for your extreme anxiety. You must know deep down your daughter isn't a fussy eating or have sensory issues. It's a massive leap to think because she doesn't like eggs that she must have some sort of sensory eating issue. Your daughter is an individual. She doesn't have to like everything, she's allowed to have food she does and doesn't like. Surely you must accept that's normal. It's very worrying you think otherwise.

What isn't normal is your almost obsessive need and desire for there to be something wrong or searching for an ASD diagnosis for your daughter. That isn't normal or healthy. You really need to enjoy your child and just let her be, instead of this obsessive hyperfocusing on everything. I really hope you get the support you need in managing this.

Be careful, I said basically the same as you and got deleted and an email warning from MN accusing me of attempting to out name changes, being unkind, and threatening to ban me if I posted in the same tone again

Hi I understand where you are coming from with the toe walking . The reason why I specified sensory issues and / or ADHD is that because my daughter does fidget a lot with her fingers when tired or bored and then she pinches the bit between her eye and eyebrow . She can self regulate pretty good though but everything I read points to neurodivergence. That’s all

Show me a two year old who doesn't fidget! In fact I recently I went to a restaurant and there was a toddler at the table next to us who was eerily still and quiet. I thought back to when my own kids were two and they couldn't keep still for a second. This included playing with their own fingers and everything else.
Just googled. Yes playing with fingers can be a sign of neurodivergency. So can playing with your hair. I've done this my entire life, and I don't believe I'm neurodivergent. However, I also found that playing with fingers is a very normal part of toddler development: "Toddlers playing with their fingers is a normal part of development that helps them learn and develop their skills."
It then goes on to list the skills that are developed by playing with their fingers. These include sensory perception, fine motor skills, cognitive abilities, and problem solving.
So maybe you should see it as a positive that she's playing with her fingers?

my daughter does fidget a lot with her fingers when tired or bored and then she pinches the bit between her eye and eyebrow

Nuerotypical babies and toddlers do this as well though. I think all the babies and toddlers that I've known have fidgeted with their fingers and all had their different ways of self soothing. One little toddler used to always tug at his earlobe. Yours happens to pinch the area between her eye and eyebrow. All the toddlers I've known have grown up and none are nuerodivergent. Toddlers are fidgety!

Oh dear god. My 14 year old DC basically exists on pasta and cheese. (Yes ND)
THAT is a concern. Not what your child is eating.

OP are you the same poster who was talking the other week about potential speech delay in their DD, something about your child saying ‘where’s the hole?’ every time they saw their dad? Trying to build a bigger picture in my head!

OP my ND child was quite clearly ND at 2 but a lot of their symptoms were put down to being a toddler. Unless there are significant concerns about your DC you won't get anywhere yet.

From what you've said, I don't think there is anything of significant concern at the moment which seems to be supported by professionals. Just keep an eye on everything you've mentioned and reassess at a later date. I think going back to work will help you to stop hyper fixating on every little thing.

Even especially for a 24 year old male, I don't think that's a bad diet by any stretch. 😉

OP, I had 3 kids with SN. 2 with ASD and one with ADHD and I don't recognise anything in your posts from their toddler years. Nothing.

Yes thank you for your words .. my 2 YO can’t really sit still in a restaurant or anywhere really .. I am wondering if I am doing something wrong

No, of course she can't sit still in a restaurant, because she is only just 2 years old and it would be completely unrealistic to expect a just-turned-2 year old to sit still in a restaurant. That's not to say none of them can - one of mine could and did - but it's certainly not a realistic expectation.

This doesn't mean there is anything wrong with how your child is developing!

But like I said, all two year olds fidget. t really is normal. I didn't enjoy eating out with my children until they were about 6 or 7!

That's because she's 2.

2 year olds aren't supposed to be in restaurants let alone sitting still in them.

They're supposed to be eating informally with their family, using hands, getting up when finished, that kind of thing.