After reading another thread I thought I’d post this.
Dh has a relative he is close to. We see this relative at least once a month sometimes more dependant on their working pattern and our work commitments.
They have had their problems in the past ( haven’t we all.)
Anyway, after last seeing them I’ve realised that they never ask about my family, and when another person asked me about one of my adult dc, they actively looked disinterested and started talking to someone else. I get that but isn’t it a bit rude?
For background: I have initiated conversation about their adult dc, asked after them, how are they doing, when will you be seeing them? How is work going, their plans etc and shown an interest. I asked about another family member on their side, showed interest, asked if they enjoyed going to this persons wedding etc etc. all things I would consider polite.
I have young adult dcs and one of them recently moved to a different country via work and I will be visiting them this year. As soon as another person asked how my travel plans were going dh’s relative turned their head away and began a conversation with someone else. I find it rude.
Thinking about it they don’t ask how any of my family are. We normally get on, no background drama. They didn’t ask how my elderly mum was even though they knew I had just come back from seeing my mum.
In fact they didn’t ask anything at all as to how I am or how any of my family are.
It just struck me as rude.
Other people present all asked each other how they are and how their family members are. I include myself in this.
Is this normal?