Who is the poorest person in your family and why?

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Just being nosy?
Whose the poorest and Why?

My sister.

She didn't work to her full potential at school so that's had an impact on her earning abilities throughout her life. However, she works bloody hard as a carer, and is really good at it, but as this country doesn't value people like her, she is paid poorly.

Unfortunately her husband died 2yrs ago after he contracted a degenerative disease so she, also, had to take time out of the workplace to care for him.

Sometimes life deals you a shitty hand that you can't plan for. That's what happened to her.

Me, I think. Siblings minted through inheritances and own businesses. DC both better off than me, too.
I'm retired and resting on my not too impoverished laurels.

Haha same here. My dog is definitely in negative equity.

If you mean siblings... we range in ages from 73 to 83. We are all comfortable on a day-to-day basis. We never talk about money.

Three of my sisters are widowed and live in government-supported senior buildings. I have no idea at all about their assets.

My brother has lived in the same house for over 60 years! He bought it in 1964 for £2,200. It's probably worth a bit more now.😀

I'm a widower, retired, decent pension, I've been in the same house for 30 years.

I have one sister who has done really well financially. She and her hubby recently bought a former nursing home out in the county, with 17 en-suite bedrooms. They have subdivided it into separate quarters and have aged in-laws, children, and grandchildren, all in the same building. They all share the gardens and parking lot, but all have separate entrances and quarters in the house.

🤣🤣

I've no idea really, no one my side of the family could be considered poor. DH family more so but in complex ways

My adult DC, who are 25 and 23. They rent and barely get by.

Why do you want to know such a personal question

Well, I’m in most debt despite a good job. But I’m a homeowner, have car and holidays etc.

DB works minimum wage and topped up with UC. Rents and no car, no holidays. But also no debt.

Me?😂
DH and I both have decent jobs but we prioritise family life over working/careers. We had two children fairly close together whilst I was still in my 20s so obviously now in my early 30s we’re just building back up from that. We own our home (mortgaged but have paid off a decent chunk) and DH runs a successful business so we’re by no means destitute. Just don’t have a massive amount of spare cash.

DBrother and his girlfriend live abroad and have well paid jobs with no kids. They have a lot more disposable income but also don’t own their home so it’s swings and roundabouts really.

My parents obviously benefit from being of a different generation and having run a business in the right industry at the right time. They aren’t super wealthy but they are perfectly comfortable, mortgage paid off, good savings etc.

DHs parents are in a similar position to financially. His siblings are older so a bit more established than us but not wildly better off by any means.

The sibling who didn’t really lean into their career and spent a lot of time abroad ar5ing around doing low level teaching jobs that were going to go nowhere, including by way of qualifications. That it was teaching isn’t the point, it’s the fact that they have no qualifications and now can’t even teach here. They are now mid 40s still not settled job wise, renting with one kid and partner in tow, and haven’t even started to think about pension. The fact that they’re going to be working until they’re 75 is starting to sink in.
The other sibling should probably be a lot wealthier than they are, but they have a spending habit

Is article fishing still a thing on here?

I don’t like this at all.

With a parent that writes you off like that... Well, the world's your oyster!

For a very long time,it was me

Single mum,on benefits and a very low paid job

I went back to college,worked hard to learn a trade and went nc with the lot of them

They all have good jobs but spend every penny they have on tat/credit

I own my own home (paid for in cash),have an ok-ish job and a happy life with my dp

No longer am I there to be looked down at and made fun of for being lower than pigshit and a sponger (not my words at all)

And they hate it

Ficking hell. You’re a judgy pants aren’t you

Me, not poor in a wider sense, just got the least wonga in my family. I work public sector, partner’s disability not sufficient for benefits but enough that he can’t really work FT. No complaints there, we do fine and he’s a better than decent house husband which suits me down to the ground. Mum retired on final salary pension plus the part that comes my dad’s (he died a while ago), mortgage paid off decades ago. Sister has a decent private sector job and her husband does some kind of fancy finance thing (uses his bonuses to buy houses) so they do very well thankyouverymuch.

Definitely the oldest cat. He's run up a small fortune in vets bills and has never once offered to start paying us back

Me because I married someone who has a prestige career rather than a money career.

I make great money, mind, but as the practically sole earner with three kids, it doesn't stack up compared to my siblings - One is a child-free medical expert, one a very high earner married to a high earner (two kids), one married into serious money (one kid).

I have one bio sibling, neither of us went to uni. Earn 40k/80k respectively. I am lowest earner.

Inc stepsiblings, the ones who had kids before they were 20 are lowest earners.

Inc stepsiblings - 3x went to uni but do not work in an area relevant to their course and they would be no worse off (they worked their way up in a field that didn't need a degree, e.g. work in supermarkets at a high level). They earn upwards of 100k each.

Another went to study a niche to a level below degree and now does sales in the field so earns bigger money from that (estimate 80k)

Me - I don’t want to be a supervisor let alone a manager so turn down promotions. I tend to pick jobs with job satisfaction over pay. I don’t do overtime or work through lunch. I choose my time and peace of mind over money. I couldn’t imagine having a job like some of my family where they are always stressed, under pressure and logged on still at 9/10pm (but earn ridiculous amounts of money)

The one who is workshy who married someone who is workshy. I wouldn’t mind, but they never stop whingeing about how hard up they are. If they would put their backs into some work, they wouldn't be hard up. Too late now at turned 60 but it's notable that one of their children only works p/t and games, one started a job, moved away, and gave up the job because it was too hard, the other has stuck an apprenticeship but now it's complete needs to find themselves by doing something creative.

Depends on how you view it:

My DGM - state pension but no mortgage etc.

My DS - higher income than me but very high outgoings because of where she lives in the country and the fact that she's single.

Me - lower income but also live in a comparatively cheap area of the country and have a partner to share the bills.

My sister.

She lives alone and has a mortgage and car to pay for by herself. I really feel for her so try and help out when I can, but she literally lives Hand to mouth.

Me. I’m no longer able to work so only receive benefits. I was never a high earner, but it was more than this. I hate it.