My child wants to move to a worse secondary school to be with friends.

[Wieralmostthere]

Hi. I have a child in Y8, who has decided over the last 5 months that she wants to move to the secondary school that some of her primary school friends go to. Which is in our catchment area. She wasn’t close to any of them when she went up to secondary school, and was even enjoying her new school. The school she goes to is a very good school and her older sister goes there. The school she asks every day to move to is not. I feel awful when she’s begging every morning to move, but I know that educationally it would be the wrong move. She sees her friends after school and weekends, but that is obviously not enough. How do I explain to her that I do care if she’s happy.. or is that the reason she should move?

I would let her move. DS is attending the local comp with friends rather than an independent school a hefty commute away. His side of the bargain is to make up for some of the shortfalls with additional work and outside activities. Any deviation from this and he's on a bus to an independent school before his feet can touch the ground. Social stuff is as important as academic in my opinion.

You need to close the door firmly on this idea. She didn’t get to choose to move school because she prefers friend group X rather than Y.

I wasn't being rude! Your reply was rude! I Can be rude if you want me too though, FUCK OFF.