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I made plans with a work friend and she invited her bf but it completely changed our plans

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Janice000 · 09/02/2025 20:36

I spended the day with my friend and everything was going well until dinner, she invited her boyfriend and told me they were long distance and was in time for some monthd ,so he wanted to spend the most time possible with her, i agreed because the never see each other at all and i'm usually very calm because we knew what we had to do, so he came when we where drinking some cocktails and apreciating art and at first everything seemed fine until he started talking with the barman we were supposed to stay there no longer than 30 mins because we were gonna go to dinner it was like 8 20 pm, we told him the plan and he was ok but he started drinking a cokctail one after the other and he stopped listening to us and started having a bad attitude, just bragging about the places he had lived and his income and their relationship and even made bad jokes about my career or simple things i said, with more and more people even when we told him we are ready to go, my friend just changed to his side and i just ended up like a third wheel, i told her my time was to finish at 10 pm and he just keept there, and ignoring me, i was supposed to take her back to our workplace to grab some stuff, but she also asked me to drive them closer to their house, i said i cant, but i take you to work, the stayed longer than my time and i just left, it wasnt far from our workplace so they walked or well, runned to the place and i just gabbed my stuff and left, i told her i was sorry and that i see her at work. Was i to rude to do it? I was really mad honestly.

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PearlClutzsche · 09/02/2025 20:41

Yeah, she's not a friend. I wouldn't bother going out with her again!

DeepFatFried · 09/02/2025 21:32

You are not being unreasonable, his behaviour was terrible, and hers too.

But once she told you she had invited him because it was her only time with him , it might have been tactful to say you would go home when he arrived, or after one drink to be friendly, because you were only ever going to be a third wheel with that arrangement.

Tangelablue · 10/02/2025 07:38

Why would you think you where rude? They both took the piss out of you, changed the plans then asked if you could drive them somewhere you weren't going. They where extremely rude and I'm surprised you stayed as long as you did.
When you see her in work, do not let her make out you did anything wrong.

Brenzett · 10/02/2025 07:53

Tangelablue · 10/02/2025 07:38

Why would you think you where rude? They both took the piss out of you, changed the plans then asked if you could drive them somewhere you weren't going. They where extremely rude and I'm surprised you stayed as long as you did.
When you see her in work, do not let her make out you did anything wrong.

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