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How can you be addressed as he/him she/her or they/them

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Yalta · 08/02/2025 14:30

AIBU that you cannot be addressed as he/him she/her or they/them

These are references. Surely you would use someone’s actual name to address them or just a greeting.

Or maybe I am missing something. Can someone tell me how someone uses these to address someone

“Hello He”

“Good morning She”

“Good afternoon They

How are you today”

Or writings to you

Dear He/Him They/Them She/Her

Why did no one check this and change the word address to refer. It just makes no sense otherwise

This is from a .gov website

OP posts:
holly1483 · 11/02/2025 09:09

MrsJHernandez · 08/02/2025 14:55

"I borrowed "they" pencil.

That's "they" dog

It just doesn't work with every sentence.

@BloodandGlitter
@Brokenrecordroundround
@wherearemypastnames

Edited

Obviously not. In this case you'd swap your incorrect examples of 'they' to 'their'. Just like you wouldn't say 'I borrowed he pencil', you'd use 'his pencil'.

ThatMerryReader · 11/02/2025 09:42

This is surely a pisstake.
OP you can't possibly be serious.

BellissimoGecko · 11/02/2025 10:13

MrsJHernandez · 08/02/2025 14:42

The whole thing makes no sense.

At the risk of being vilified, I think it's ridiculous to call someone "they" or whatever. It makes no sense in the English language and makes people sound like they can't speak properly. Medically, there are two sexes and Dr's will treat you as such.

Call yourself what you like, but keep the rest of us out of your "woke" gen z bullshit!

Not this BS again. Singular 'they' has been used since Shakespeare's time to talk about someone when you don't know their sex.

HipMax · 11/02/2025 10:14

BellissimoGecko · 11/02/2025 10:13

Not this BS again. Singular 'they' has been used since Shakespeare's time to talk about someone when you don't know their sex.

Exactly, when you don't know. Not when you do. Using it when you do know someone's sex is stupid.

HotTake · 11/02/2025 10:27

I don't care about the newfangled pronouns or whatever but I also think this thread is useless. OP is making a mountain out of a molehill for no obvious reason than to whip up another outrage-fest about "Genz", "woke", "pronouns", etc.

The form is badly worded, yes, but what they're saying is clear to anyone who isn't a pedant so against this "woke bs" that they'd pick apart anything to have a go at it.

All this faux "It makes no sense", "I can't understand what they mean" seems disingenuous.

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