WIBU to wear this dress, and no it's not see through ?

[JustAnotherManicMomday]

Attending a christening and not sure if this is OTT.

I think it's a bit OTT for a christening. More of an evening dress than a daytime dress.

It wouldn’t be see through (in the places that matter) even with the light behind because of the mini dress insert it has

. But the dress the OP posted wasn't "something nice". It was a dress designed to bring attention to the wearer at an evening doo.
Bring attention? are women not allowed to dress well and look good?
Have we all to live in the MN leggings and tunic, never cut our hair?
Jesus wept at the prissy bores on here.
Any christening I have attended more would be said about scruffs turning up in jeans and the 'nice top'

To me, it's more evening wear than suitable for a christening guest. But, as PP said, it depends on what's the norm dress code in your social circle.

You've chosen select quotes there. Obviously I think it's disrespectful to use your phone, but the whole ong they've invited guests and I've had to print out extra songsheets and chairs is giving off unwelcoming vibes, yes. And I don't agree that attending church as an atheist is "hypocritical" (I know that was another poster). Churches fulfill different roles other than the purely religious.

I went to a funeral in a lovely mediaeval church recently too. I didn't take pictures but I did appreciate the majesty of the surroundings and the connection to the cycle of birth and death.

Wow I love it. I love dark green and lace. If I had a slim figure I would love to be wearing this.

I think a coat over for the Christening would be nice. They are quite dressy occasions in my circles. I'd keep the heels a bit low though or wear a boot

The ceremony is usually followed by a get together of family and friends, at a venue, that people like to dress more formal than casual for.

Bring attention? are women not allowed to dress well and look good?
There's a big difference between dressing well, which means appropriate to the event, and dressing in a way that deliberately draws attention to the wearer who is not the subject of the event. This dress very much in the second camp. Hence inappropriate.

It's beautiful go for it.
(And I'm probably old enough to be your grandma!)

The wearer is covered from head to toe! It's not like she's turning up in a bikini! Since when does form fitting equate to someone wanting to 'bring attention'? Wowzers.

It brings attention because it's far too dressy. It's a tight-fitting, long, evening type dress. Will look totally out of place at an ordinary Sunday morning.

Do you feel the same about weddings? Wonder why the brides mother doesn’t turn up in jeans and s Jumper? Or go to a funeral in a hoody? Why not go to work in a dressing gown, after all work is about getting work done, not a fashion show 🙄

@DappledThings in my circle, christenings tend to be formal. This dress would not be too dressy. The fact that it's a christening means that it's not 'an ordinary Sunday'.

@DappledThings
You have a very odd outlook on how someone dresses, the dress is lovely and appropriate , many many people want to make the christening an occasion and follow onto a party/lunch and want to be dressed as such.
How is it drawing attention ? somebody might say oh Janes dress is fab, that's it.
Women can choose to dress as they please and it's very sad other women have this attitude.

Yes, sometimes christenings are a separate event in the afternoon, mostly in my tradition they are part of the normal morning mass. Guests who don't usually attend would dress up a bit, but not like they are off to a day at Ascot. If they did they'd look ludicrously out of place and like they were trying to be the centre of attention.

We had people back to ours afterwards for a casual buffet afterwards. I've been for the same in the church hall after at others. Never been a formal event like a wedding reception.

like they were trying to be the centre of attention.
how many times will
you trot this out? it's not about attention, some people like to be dressed nice and if you think it's not appropriate then that's your issue.

Fine. I will stand by that opinion though. I don't consider dressing in something more appropriate to an evening cocktail party or a day at Ascot than to a christening to be "dressed nice".

@DappledThings and as I said, not in my circle. People dress up. In fact it's very similar, formal attire to a day at the races. Men in suits and ladies in formal but respectful dresses. Some ladies even wear hats (grand mothers mainly).

You have described a very casual christening with a casual buffet back at yours. That's what your circle does. If someone from your circle attended my christening THEY would probably stand out as being rather under dressed.

Below is how various members of the royal family dress for family christenings. The level of formality that I've seen at christenings is equal to this.

Fancy!

@DappledThings I would say 'making an effort' rather than 'fancy' 🤷‍♀️

Who is talking about turning up in jeans , jumpers, and hoodies?
Certainly not me.
Believe or not there is a happy medium between going to a church ceremony looking scruffy and going dressed for a cocktail party.
We live in a very secular world. Churches are, or should be, somewhere people go for primarily spiritual reasons.
We were taught that going into a church was going into God's house and so you should dress in a respectful manner.

I would saying dressing as if going to a Royal christening for a standard church one is definitely fancy (and I maintain inappropriately so). But maybe OP's invitation is indeed to St George's Chapel at Windsor.

@DappledThings don't be silly now. The picture was an illustration of how people can dress formally, yet modesty for christenings. It a similar level of formality as racing or day time wedding guest.

I suppose I better tell the scores of guests at every christening that I've been to that they are dressing incorrectly!

If you choose to dress more casually that's up to you but it doesn't mean that others are wrong or inappropriate.

Well yeah, in the end it does come down to the type of event OP has been invited to and as we have no information on that neither of us can possibly know how likely she is to be dressed inappropriately or not.

On the balance of probabilities I'd say it's less likely she's been invited to one as formal as a wedding. Even if she had been I'd say that particular dress is too tight.

All a matter of opinion. Mine being that even the Royals look somewhat overdressed for their own Christenings.