Police interview tomorrow for harassment

[Chanjh25]

So I'll try make this as short as problem

My sister has a drug addiction and has for the last five years, it's got so bad that me and my brother had to give her cpr
She has five kids at home
When she's on drugs all of my family leave her too it (as we have tried many times and she just turns evil) only me has helped her I've tried helping her I've enabled her looking after her kids whilst she's high out her face so they are safe atleast
Now I'm her number one target when I confront her again she does anything to ruin my life she's gone into the school and told them all these horrible lies about me about my kids that social services themselves contacted me
When we are good and she's not on drugs we get on like a house on fire but when she's on drugs in her target the things she has said and done to me are traumatic that I'm genuinely suffering with PTSD
I block her she messages my other account I block that she messages me some way saying she's going to make sure my kids get taken from me she's made numerous threats how she's going to batter the life out of me when she sees me last year it got so bad that I had to ring the police and report her for stalking a harassment
To today I get a phone call from my local police station they want me to go in voluntary or I will be arrested for harassment
Don't get me wrong I'm not innocent in all this when she argues with me I have argued back with her and said some stuff but done nothing other then to her,
So I'm actually in shock right now because the last five years she has harassed me and ruined my life
So how can she have the balls to ring the police on me for harassment when she's done all this to me for five years.. why are drug addicts like this? Why after all I was trying to do is help her but tbh I think I've just enabled her is now she's tryna olay the victim? To add I have kept all the messages all the threats and all the evidence of her being on drugs I've found them in her house numerous times now this isn't soenthibg I want to do but when I go in thag interview tomorrow I'm going to have to tell the police literally everything but I still feel guilty please don't suggest about social because she's taking drugs around her kids because I've tried that she's bulletproof they did NFA because as we know addicts are good at lying and covering their backs however I have proof of it all

Thankyou !! Especially the top parts
Why are people on this thread acting like we don't have a corrupt system

I will have my day in that room with the police officers and my solicitor and they will take me serious if social services won't surely the police will and I will be taking this as far up as I can I'm done being her punching bag

Yeah my life is a mess
Is it my fault my boyfriend cheated on me
Is it my fault my own sister is making my life hell?
How dare you throw the things I am dealing with in my face you have no idea what I have gone through or am going through

EX bf
You think I stayed with him after all of that?

How am I wrong to give the impression when this happens it does happen ! It is happening !
Same with if the police are involved in a child matter as well as social services and police don't have enough evidence to charge or whatever social services will still be involved this is facts and I've heard of it happen numerous times
Your forgetting that social services lie, do you know how many children die whilst they are on a social workers case load because the social aren't seeing the abuse go on? And last of all are you ok? You seem new to the world and how corrupt the system is and can be

@x2boys and I'm answering it all

But I have given the facts so why are you telling me I haven't when I have 😂
Also ofc it doesn't add up because it's a whole mess I'm explaining it in the post and the comments as best as I can
But I'm still entitled to abit of privacy
You just seem like nosey neighbour

You would be wise to stop involving yourself in chaotic situations. I’ve known people keep themselves involved in drama because ‘they have to engage for the kids’/whatever reason that can be considered ‘noble’’, but in the vast majority of cases an excuse to cover the fact that they are addicted to the excitement and intensity of it.

Go to the interview, and take the legal advice you’re given. You’re not there to fight your bigger issues with your sister so don’t try to. You’re there because you’ve been accused of harassment, so that’s all you need to focus on. Don’t go in being emotional and/or combative. You’re already on a child protection plan, you don’t need them any more reasons to justify any further action against you.

Then, if you genuinely want to stop being involved in your sister’s dramatics, stop. Stop engaging. Walk away from it. Don’t even get involved by talking about it with your brother or anyone else. Stop.

In your position I honestly think it would be a good idea to relocate if you can find any way to manage it. Cut the sister and the awful boyfriend out of your life completely and make a fresh start far away. I understand wanting to help your nieces and nephews, but you can’t risk your sister dragging you down with her. Yes she may lose her children, but if you stay involved you could to. You need to get these toxic people out of your life permanently.

You have been enabling her to contine in her destructive spiral and enabling her to keep subjecting her kids to this trauma. The kids need to be in the care of someone who has no contact with her so that they can begin to heal. The various behaviours you and she are accusing each other of are far less important than the safety and wellbeing of the children and neither she nor you seem able to prioritise that.

I am very much not new to the world. I just know that social services don't put children on CP plans on the basis of malicious, unsubstantiated reports. You said you were under CIN and doing well and what your sister said escalated things to CP. I'm saying they would have investigated the allegations.

Instead of getting angry with me and others, perhaps you should concentrate on applying to the courts so you have access to the son your ex is refusing to return to your care, because your attitude at the moment is that everything is someone else's fault and it's not achieving anything good.

@Chanjh25 seriously, please do not go into a police interview tomorrow thinking that if you just explain the situation honestly, the police will understand your points and everything will be fine. It could go seriously wrong for you - the police cannot be trusted to be fair here.

Reading between the lines OP I think you’re probably quite vulnerable and with a troubled background. Children (like you were I’m assuming) that grow up in chaotic homes often repeat this pattern with their own children, it’s very common to have social services involvement if you have been in care or on the radar yourself as a child.

You need to break this cycle, cut your family out.

Report the concerns about your Sisters Children. Not in the context of your situation with her, or as a response to her allegations. Call the MASH telephone number, and clearly state that they are at risk of harm and what the risks are. Have a list prepared.

In regards to your police interview, have an advocate of some kind if that’s possible. Going forward, be the bigger person, let your social worker know that you want a fresh start and will cut ties with your Sister. Don’t engage in bad mouthing her or going over the past. Work with them, take all the support you can get.

Good luck.

This is very fair and kinder than I was, so thank you @Nursingadvice .

@Chanjh25 if you're still reading, please listen to this if you don't to anything else.

I know im not the OP of this thread.
But seeing your a former police officer I would like your opinion on my thread re abusive behaviour from my spouse and what I should do and expect.

This!
I’m a (non practising) criminal defence solicitor and came here to say exactly the same thing. Please, please, follow this very good advice!

Your post shows exactly why she has done it . Totally off the wall.

Why when she lied? She is a smackrat ffs she hasn't had attention for a month so she is creating it