Police interview tomorrow for harassment

[Chanjh25]

So I'll try make this as short as problem

My sister has a drug addiction and has for the last five years, it's got so bad that me and my brother had to give her cpr
She has five kids at home
When she's on drugs all of my family leave her too it (as we have tried many times and she just turns evil) only me has helped her I've tried helping her I've enabled her looking after her kids whilst she's high out her face so they are safe atleast
Now I'm her number one target when I confront her again she does anything to ruin my life she's gone into the school and told them all these horrible lies about me about my kids that social services themselves contacted me
When we are good and she's not on drugs we get on like a house on fire but when she's on drugs in her target the things she has said and done to me are traumatic that I'm genuinely suffering with PTSD
I block her she messages my other account I block that she messages me some way saying she's going to make sure my kids get taken from me she's made numerous threats how she's going to batter the life out of me when she sees me last year it got so bad that I had to ring the police and report her for stalking a harassment
To today I get a phone call from my local police station they want me to go in voluntary or I will be arrested for harassment
Don't get me wrong I'm not innocent in all this when she argues with me I have argued back with her and said some stuff but done nothing other then to her,
So I'm actually in shock right now because the last five years she has harassed me and ruined my life
So how can she have the balls to ring the police on me for harassment when she's done all this to me for five years.. why are drug addicts like this? Why after all I was trying to do is help her but tbh I think I've just enabled her is now she's tryna olay the victim? To add I have kept all the messages all the threats and all the evidence of her being on drugs I've found them in her house numerous times now this isn't soenthibg I want to do but when I go in thag interview tomorrow I'm going to have to tell the police literally everything but I still feel guilty please don't suggest about social because she's taking drugs around her kids because I've tried that she's bulletproof they did NFA because as we know addicts are good at lying and covering their backs however I have proof of it all

Go along, insist on having the duty solicitor present. Say your piece. Show them any evidence you have to back up your side of things. Then say this is the straw that has broken the camel's back for you and you now have no choice but go to social services. Her children need removing. Without you in their lives to keep them save she cannot be trusted to parent adequately.

YOUR children are on child protection while hers arnt?

I would move areas away from this toxic behaviour and focus on yourself

You and your solicitor tell the truth. You contact child safeguarding at social services and the nspcc. You ring the police every time she harasses you. You block her on every contact.

This does not add up at all.

I think going there straight away is a bad idea. You need to have an appointment that is convenient for you. You need to print out all communications (she may have provided altered or selective evidence). Speak to a solicitor in advance and write a statement including referring to all your evidence. Then when you go to the station, with your solicitor, you read out your statement covering all interactions.
You sound like you react overly emotional about the situation and probably do yourself no favours by this.

Please be sure that you have a good duty solicitor. We were in a situation a few years ago where the tables were turned on us (we were the victims but asked into an interview) and were told to say no comment when we should have just told them what happened. We had nothing to hide but we just followed the solicitor's direction as we had never been in this situation before. Our new solicitor managed to get the case dropped once it was with the CPS but it was super stressful going through the lengthy process. This first interview is really important.

Speak with your solicitor beforehand. Generally the rule in police interviews is if you're innocent, answer questions with solicitor's guidance, you only keep your mouth shut and say "no comment" if you're guilty.

Harrassment isn't a big deal for the police so I think the worst outcome you'd get is a restraining order preventing you from contacting her. I think not having any contact with her in future would be the best thing for you. She's toxic, druggies lie and manipulate as you know, she's not worth the time of day. Cut all contact with her and her kids and focus on your own life and your children. She's not worth it.

Prep details of her harrassing you so get copies of calls, texts, messages, DMs whatever and document a timeline of what and when has happened as much as you can remember. Detail what you have blocked and what she has done to go round those blocks, what you have done to keep her children safe.

Sad to say some people you can't help and they do kick back at you so the more the solicitor and the police have to defend your situation the better, keep reporting instances to them and they keep a log with incident numbers and just compile lots of evidence. Other epoples witness statmenets also important.

I am not a lawyer and really don't know what I'm talking about but arguing with someone is not harassing them. Making up lies to schools, making fake calls to SS, and threatening to batter you is.

Take anything you have to document the harassment you have suffered from her - emails, screenshots of texts, records of social services visits, descriptions of the lies she has told about you and your DC to the school, previous reports to the police from last year. Write out a timeline (if you can) of how she has pursued and threatened you in person and electronically.

If you can, show all this to your solicitor before you go into the meeting, take the advice of your solicitor not your brother on how to respond to questioning (who seems to have watched too many TV police procedural dramas). 'No Comment' indeed - does he want you to end up in court?

When you are there with your solicitor I would ask how you file for a restraining order/no contact order against her and, once again, repeat your concerns for her children and ask for a welfare visit.

You have had good advice here about amassing copies of your evidence, preparing a statement and having a solicitor present to advise before and during the interview.
One thing I would also advise is do not chat informally with the police whilst waiting or on the way to the interview.
And I think you need to carry on reporting her harassment of you to the police and your concerns about the wellbeing of the children to Children's Services.
You could ask to speak to someone more senior, if the person who receives your reports doesn't seem to act on them, and follow up in writing.
There should be information about how to make a complaint on the relevant council's website.

This is wrong.

Many people who are innocent have ended up in a mess on the basis of thinking you should just answer if they are not in the wrong.

Always get a good solicitor and take their advice. Often this will involve in them asking what the interview is about and getting as many details as possible. Then you bringing evidence and a prewritten statement. You then answer some questions of the back of that statement and evidence.

Take advice on the internet for what it is...

You’ve been given good advice above. Take the advice of the duty solicitor do not go no comment. That’s the line of a guilty person. Answer straightforward questions with straightforward answers. Your brother’s advice is not helpful.

call them when you are at the house and wait for them to come, you need to call them yourselves.

they cannot be left to live like that my gosh.

do not talk to the police without a solicitor present. get a statement together with your solicitor and present it to them.

the police are not your friends innocent or not. do not end up there waiting around for your solicitor and end up have a chat over tea with them while you wait.

try to meet with your solicitor beforehand and go in together.

So your DC are on a child protection plan because of what she's said, which she has absolutely no proof of? Sorry, but social services don't go down this path without their own investigation.

Who have you shown your proof of her neglect of her DC to? Just the school or social services themselves?

A voluntary interview is a fishing expedition. If the police already had evidence of OP engaging in criminality they would arrest her. OP is under no obligation to tell the police anything they could use to incriminate her.

This doesn’t add up at all. If your children are on CP there is a reason. If hers are not, is because they haven’t been given the facts.
Whole family sounds quite toxic.

Agreed they don't just place children on chold protection because of something someone said.

I think you need to break all contact with your sister. I know you’re trying to help her children but you have your own problems and you need to focus on your own children. If your nieces and nephews contact you asking for help, pass it on to the police and social services. Do not get involved yourself. I know you want to help them, but to are in a vulnerable position and any attempt to help your sister or her children could backfire very badly. You need to walk away to protect yourself. I’m sorry you’re going through this.

A lot of this doesn’t add up or sound right at all.

I suspect you’re leaving a lot of information out about your behaviour and your children’s lives.

Either way this sounds like an absolute shit show and the mothers in your family need to sort themselves out for all the children’s sake.

Like a pp, I recognise the OP's username, and vaguely remember other posts suggesting a very chaotic lifestyle, SS involvement, an ex who had refused to return one of their children from a visit, an addict and gambler boyfriend who had impregnated his ex, I think...?

I mean, I strongly suspect that her children don't have SS involvement because of unsubstantiated malicious reports from an unhinged sister.

Police don’t ask you to come in and be interviewed under caution for harassment if you haven’t been harassing. They don’t seem to do much when someone is actually harassing. So it sounds like you have been harassing her, but believe it was justified…

Equally, children do not get put on the Ch old protection register on the say-so of a drug addict making up malicious lies.

This story has more holes in it than Swiss cheese!

I wouldnt say anything without a legal advocate present regardless of it was voluntary or i was arrested.

Wishing you well.

Child protection plans don't appear out of thin air. You are not asked to attend a police station regarding harassment and find a whole multi-agency meeting there ready to discuss a CP plan. They're not normally held at police stations and the notice for a child protection conference comes from the LA, not the police.

So this cannot have happened in the way you describe. You may get more support and useful advice if you explain the background more clearly.