Taxi costs split - who should pay

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Just wondering if I’m being an arse for thinking this so would like opinions!

Going on holiday soon with a good friend and my two teens (ds14, dd16) 2 week package longhaul, can’t wait.

We were discussing costs/kitty etc the other day and she said that we’d need to get taxis round and about quite a bit (she’s been several times before so knows the score) and we can just split the cost 4 ways and I pay 3 lots and she’ll pay 1. I was a bit surprised, I fully expect when we go for dinner, trips etc to pay for me and the kids but for taxis I would have just split it between me and her, if it was her with the kids I would never have suggested a 4 way split for taxis.

YABU - there’s 4 of you, so split 4 ways, she shouldn’t have to pay for your kids taxi
YANBU - that’s tight, it should just be split between the adults

I’ll speak up for the friend. There’s three of you and one of her. If she shared a taxi with any 3 other people she’d expect to pay 3/4 . Why is it different because they’re under 20?

50:50 - if she insists then just take your own cab and she can pay full price for her own! She’s being cheeky

We were just toying with the idea of a kitty (her suggestion ) that’s when the taxi business came up in conversation. Nothing was agreed re kitty, then she just said ‘all the taxis we can just split 4 ways and you pay 3. I’m guessing if we’d elaborated on the kitty idea she’d have said she’d put in £100 and I put in £300 (for example) then taxis would be paid out of that (so her getting the 25/75 split that she seems to think is fair 🤷🏼‍♀️😳)

I guess because if it was reversed and she was the one with the kids I would never suggest we split it by 4 and she pay 3, in my eyes kids ‘don’t count’ for things like that. Of course I fully expect to pay for their food, trips etc but I don’t know, it’s just how I am

There and back sounds sensible rather than faffing with who pays how much when. I do think you need a sensible honest talk about it you are all on holiday you all need taxis to get about I don't think it's fair to have you paying more.

You are right food is a separate issue and hopefully the country you are visiting has a split the bill facility so you can just pay for your family.

50/50 because she’s incur the same cost if it was just the two of you

How's the accommodation costs working out. Might she be feeling short changed and trying to recoup costs?

Going out to dinner ... order seperately so you get your own bill.
I think your mate is taking advantage on the taxi front. If they were 23 abd earning then yes split 4 ways.

I would say 50/50 on taxis too since 5 seater cars are the norm and there’s 4 of you plus a driver. If the destination charged more for 5 seater cars than smaller cars then there would be an argument for you paying more but if that was the case then she would have surely said.

It’s a package and the total cost was split 4 ways and I paid 3 so she only paid for herself (as I would 100% expect)

If they were adults and earning I would definitely expect a 4 way split (even if I ended up paying 3 lots being their Mum and a pushover 😂)

Your friend sound mean, obviously the taxi fare should be split 50/50.

Well 4 in a taxi plus driver is a squeeze so you go with your kids in one taxi and she can go in a second on her own. See how she likes that maths.

Maybe compromise and you pay two-thirds.

My Dad comes on holiday with us quite often and we always have a kitty. We guess how much we’ll need and he adds 1/4 and we add 3/4 and all meals, transportation and trips come out of that. Obvs anything we buy for ourselves we pay for ourselves.
If we need to we top it up.

For accommodation we split it 4 ways.

the way I see it for accommodation and taxis is that I would have to pay the full cost of he wasn’t there so it benefits us by him paying 1/4.

She's on the make imo.

No, I'd say the adults split it, the kids go for free. She needs that lift as much as you do. This is the problem with sharing a holiday. I'd be tempted to suggest getting separate taxis.

100% YANBU

I would think it would make sense to use the kitty to pay for transportation. Each person contributes 25% (or friend 25%, you 75%) and pay for taxis from that.

Using that logic, OP would incur the same cost for just herself and the children, so why can't her friend just jump in for free since it's not costing any extra!

Technically, I think OPs friend is right, she's only responsible for paying one quarter of the taxi costs.

However, these are friends going away together, and there should be a middle ground, and some consideration of each other.. I absolutely wouldn't be splitting every taxi journey, but maybe OP could pay for more of the days than her friends? I'd think a 1/3:2/3 approx split would be a compromise on both sides, maybe? But not exact? Just OP paying a bit more for her 3 people than her friend does for one.

Well I can see I’m in the minority, but I’m afraid I think she’s right. Single people are always getting ripped off like this. 3 in your family are benefitting from the taxi ride compared to one person in her family. So you split the cost 3:1.

But the cost would be the same whatever? Friend is being tight

She seems so tight. Technically yes she’s right but I can’t imagine being this mean. I’d hate to go on holiday with someone like her.

Do people really nickel and dime so much with good friends?

I've just come back from holiday with friends and my dc. I paid for everything I would have paid for anyway with my dc, so if I would have taken a taxi with them I did not expect them to chip in. I paid for almost all the meals out too, as my dc eat more than all the adults combined, but it would have been OK to split those per person I guess.

OP you won't be out of pocket if you pay most of the taxi, if your friend wasn't there you'd have to pay it all. Your friend is already making concessions by going with your dc in tow, do you really want to be so stingy?