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To let DD get her eyebrow pierced for her 15th birthday?

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:44

DD is insistent that this is the only present she wants. My local piercer won't do it until she's 16 but she's found another in town that will do it as long as we both take ID. She says she knows the risks that it could grow out or get ripped out but I don't really think that she believes anything bad could happen. What are peoples experiences? I don't really like piercings (I don't even have my ears pierced) but I am bringing her up that it is her body, her choice, so torn on what to do? In case it makes any difference she is a great kid who is trustworthy and doing well at school. None of her friends have any piercings other than ears.

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Iamallowedtodisagreewithyou · 05/02/2025 10:45

I wouldn't, no.

Ears or belly button sure - but nothing visible.

TwentyTwentyFive · 05/02/2025 10:47

Well presumably she wouldn't be able to have it in at school so it would heal up pretty swiftly and be completely pointless?

Regulus · 05/02/2025 10:47

Do school allow it? Mine doesn't allow facial piercings.

HipMax · 05/02/2025 10:48

Her body her choice at 18.

It's hideous anyway

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:50

The school are fine with it as far as I know. I have seen several kids with facial piercings around when I've been there for events.

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TwentyTwentyFive · 05/02/2025 10:50

Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:50

The school are fine with it as far as I know. I have seen several kids with facial piercings around when I've been there for events.

I'd be very surprised if it was allowed? Have you checked the schools handbook?

TheAzureSwan · 05/02/2025 10:50

She is a child.
Surely parenting is about saying no when something isn't appropriate?

LoveWine123 · 05/02/2025 10:51

Personally, I wouldn't let her. Part of the concept of "her body, her choice" is the responsibility of looking after said body and making responsible decisions. My main concern at this age will be someone ripping it out or it getting caught in something and causing damage. It won't happen is not a good argument and it's not showing she understands the risks. On a personal level, people don't always look at it at the right way - is this the image she wants to portray?

GrammarTeacher · 05/02/2025 10:51

No. No decent place would do it at that age. There’s a reason for that as well.
And I’m a fan of piercings!

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:51

They are quite relaxed compared to some schools, bright hair dye etc is allowed.

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CaptainAwkward · 05/02/2025 10:52

There might be problems re school but if she’s willing to accept that she might have to take it out for school or time it so that she can wear an ‘invisible’ transparent stud (has to be healed properly) then I’d let her

All depends on her maturity personally too I suppose?

Some teenage girls are utter mingers when it comes to hygiene and taking care of things
If she’s the sort who’s responsible and will follow the aftercare given with no grumbling then that’s great

Only you know what sort of kid your DD is

GrammarTeacher · 05/02/2025 10:52

Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:51

They are quite relaxed compared to some schools, bright hair dye etc is allowed.

Hair dye isn’t a health and safety risk in PE.

Loveumagenta · 05/02/2025 10:52

No, when she’s 18 she can do what she likes. She can insists all she wants, at the risk of having you get her a present she doesn’t like!!!!

Allmarbleslost · 05/02/2025 10:53

I don't see any problem with it. It's not like it's permanent like a tattoo!

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:54

She will be able to get it done at 16 (with ID) without my permission according to the local piercer I spoke to. She will definitely look after it well.

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Sparrow7 · 05/02/2025 10:55

Does anyone has experience of it going wrong? (Maybe I can put her off with some horror stories 😂)

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Oakcupboard · 05/02/2025 10:56

I have many piercing but I would be cautious of the eyebrow one - I don’t know anyone who had it done that doesn’t have quite bad scarring from it. It’s not like other piercings in that when you take it out they are barely noticeable, she’ll always have a mark.

Gonnaenodothat · 05/02/2025 10:56

No, I had mine done at 16 it grew out and left an awful scar which I still have to this day!! I wish my mum had been strict and told me no. Take it from me she will absolutely regret it!

WeightLoss2025 · 05/02/2025 10:57

Honestly, I was in the exact same boat with my mother at the exact same age.

After much pestering she said she would allow it... then reneged. I was incredibly pissed off at the time but I'm eternally grateful she didn't let me go through with it.

I have had upwards of 20 piercings all over my body, I was like a colander at times 😅 But this is the one that I'm so glad I never got.

She will not keep this piercing too late into her 20s or 30s and they leave a horrible scar.

I have 3 lip piercings still that I wear occasionally and love them, the scar/hole is small when I don't want to wear them which suits work. But the eyebrow piercing scars are rough looking and never heal.

Please, don't let her do it!

fingerbobz · 05/02/2025 10:58

No.

It will scar

She will change her mind

Tell her to wait a year

WeightLoss2025 · 05/02/2025 10:59

Could you convince her to go with something that looks a little classier and easier scar/hole to cover? Look up an inverted labret on her lip, not at all noticeable when it's not in, and still has the punky type look she may be after?

Purplebunnie · 05/02/2025 10:59

DD1 had hers done, it caused some issues and she's taken it out. She still has a little scar

Gonnaenodothat · 05/02/2025 11:00

Also I would be avoiding any piercing studio that is willing to do it at her age!

TiredCatLady · 05/02/2025 11:00

No not at 15 - there are reasons reputable piercers don’t allow it. Make her wait until she’s 16, if she still wants it at that point.
I have a lot of piercings… they may not be “permanent” but if they go bad, they can leave some awful scarring.
Separately, eyebrow piercings are an absolute PITA for migrating and going wonky, never mind getting caught on stuff. If your DD plays any sports, I’d seriously advise against getting a brow piercing.

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