To let DD get her eyebrow pierced for her 15th birthday?

[Sparrow7]

DD is insistent that this is the only present she wants. My local piercer won't do it until she's 16 but she's found another in town that will do it as long as we both take ID. She says she knows the risks that it could grow out or get ripped out but I don't really think that she believes anything bad could happen. What are peoples experiences? I don't really like piercings (I don't even have my ears pierced) but I am bringing her up that it is her body, her choice, so torn on what to do? In case it makes any difference she is a great kid who is trustworthy and doing well at school. None of her friends have any piercings other than ears.

This.

Why would you even contemplate allowing a child to do this?

I would say no until she's 18

What do you mean by this?

I've spoken to DD about all the points raised here and she's agreed to wait until she's 16. Will get her some further ear piercings for her birthday. For all those saying put my foot down until she is 18, do you actually have teenagers or just toddlers? I'm raising my kids to be able to think for themselves and make their own decisions. It won't be long before they are out in the world on their own. I see my job as they get older is to advise and guide them, but I am not their boss. We have discussions not ultimatums.

@GiddyRobin
I've never found nose piercings attractive at all. I find it interesting that many people like them but not brow
Brow piercings bring attention to the eyes. Nose piercings bring attention to the nose. I don't know why that's desirable!

I quite like noses! 😆 My DH has a lovely aquiline honker and it's fabulous...definitely not the sort to get a piercing though. Love a nose with character!

I do agree with eyebrow piercings drawing attention to the eyes. There's also the bridge piercing which I think is lovely, especially on women with big eyes!

Don't be daft.

I reckon any 15 year old who wants an eyebrow piercing gets one partially because it's trendy.

And my 5 very visible tattoos and my facial piercing haven't put a dent in my career; nobody has ever said a single negative thing about them to me.

I wouldn't. My sister had hers done at 15 and it grew out, I assume because she was still growing? Still has a scar at 38

The middle class snobbery on here is showing

People with lots of piercings aren't often the "trendy" types. They don't get them to "fit in with the current fashion" but to express themselves.

Piercings and tattoos don't make you unemployable, don't mean you can't access better jobs and aren't looked at the way they were 20 years ago. Heck, I started my job 6 years ago and when I started part of getting ready for a shift would involve changing some piercings to "blanks" where the hole would close and taking others out, tattoos had to be covered. Now I have even more and we have staff with facial piercings and tattoos are the norm. It's very customer facing and people love asking about them, wanting to see them better etc.

Purely anecdotally I've known a few people have bad scarring from eyebrow piercings.

Dd had her nose done for her birthday last year, she was 14. I don't see the big deal with it tbh. School aren't bothered:

@Sparrow7 The fact that you've posted here shows that you're not totally happy,
You're trying to second-guess your instinct as a parent.

I am bringing her up that it is her body, her choice
- but within that she also has to accept that her parents will - and should - make choices for her that she's not yet mature enough to make

For all those saying put my foot down until she is 18, do you actually have teenagers or just toddlers? I'm raising my kids to be able to think for themselves and make their own decisions. It won't be long before they are out in the world on their own. I see my job as they get older is to advise and guide them, but I am not their boss. We have discussions not ultimatums.

There is a very fine line between 'being their boss' and 'issuing ultimatums' and actually being a parent.
You can have discussions and still make the final decision - it's part of your job as a parent.

You're obviously not on board with what they want, so what's wrong with behaving as a parent and saying 'no' ?

Parents can say ' no' and children can rebel - it's how the world works. Children learn by discussion - but also learn by pushing against boundaries.

For all those saying put my foot down until she is 18, do you actually have teenagers or just toddlers?

That is so dismissive when you've actually asked for opinions and advice!

Yes, If they're living under your roof, they live by your rules.

If you're not sure what your rules are, then you should decide what the limits are - because you are the parent, the adult and this is what we do for our teenage children.

It's not an easy decision, but don't ask for advice from strangers that may not back up your own opinions and you're going to just dismiss

Some people will agree with you. Some people will disagree with you.

Sometimes your children will agreee with you. Sometimes they will disagree with you.

If you're not completely happy with something, the answer is always 'no'
( I've found it actually applies to most things in life, not just raising children 🫣)

What she means is that she’s not capable of seeing a fifteen year old child without making some unpleasant judgements on them, based on their appearance. And because she’s not capable of doing it, she assumes that she’s the default setting and other people will do the same.