To let DD get her eyebrow pierced for her 15th birthday?

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DD is insistent that this is the only present she wants. My local piercer won't do it until she's 16 but she's found another in town that will do it as long as we both take ID. She says she knows the risks that it could grow out or get ripped out but I don't really think that she believes anything bad could happen. What are peoples experiences? I don't really like piercings (I don't even have my ears pierced) but I am bringing her up that it is her body, her choice, so torn on what to do? In case it makes any difference she is a great kid who is trustworthy and doing well at school. None of her friends have any piercings other than ears.

I have an almost 14 year old DD and I would say no to this.
Mainly because teens change their minds a lot and an eyebrow piercing is very likely to leave a permanent scar.

My DD has 2 lobe piercings and is desperate to get her bellybutton and helix done but we have said no more piercings until 16.

I'd also be wary of any piercing studio that's willing to pierce a 15 year old's eyebrow- I think a reputable place wouldn't

So they allow piercings and bright hair dye?

The Schools where I live are strict on these issues and don’t allow it.

I would agree with a previous poster that once she’s 18 she can please herself.

Sil had one for years when we were all young. Now she has two holes that won't heal over. She hates them but accepted she made her choice

Personally I would be unhappy if it was my DD but I appreciate you want to let her make her own decisions.
I would however check the school's policy and the policy of any 6th form college she's thinking of applying to. Some have stricter uniform and dress codes than others.

I personally wouldn't let her go for the eyebrow one yet. They do scar. I love piercings; have lots in my ears, nose is pierced, tongue at one point, and bellybutton. Lip and brow were the two I avoided because I saw friends get really obvious scarring.

Maybe something in her ear? A nose piercing heals really well, and I know people will hate the idea on MN, but a septum piercing will show even less. I don't have that one done but I know many who have - zero visible scarring.

Also, it's not "chavvy" to have piercings. 🤣 Pretty sure the goths who got harrassed by those sorts growing up wouldn't agree with that! And piercings and tattoos have never hindered my career. 🤨 Nor anyone I know - from academics, senior managers in publishing, to doctors.

It would be an absolutely not from me. But you might have the problem of a strong willed teenager getting it done some way or another. It’s also really not a trendy thing these days, and at 15 she’s still presumably at school? Maybe negotiate and suggest she can get it done when she’s 18 and technically an adult. No corporate jobs for her though.

There's no way I'd allow her to have her eyebrow pierced at 15, or happy about it at18 for that matter I'd do my very best to talk her out of it..

I have piercings but honestly think that one looks so chavvy and looks awful

My daughter will be 15 at her next birthday and I would say no way if she asked for the same piercing. Absolutely no way. She’s too young for starters. And I’m damned if I would spend my money on something like that.

Agree - am surprised. DT’s school didn’t allow any hair dye, nail polish, make up and only ear piercings if it was a stud - removed for games lessons and practice

Interestingly most people I talk to think eyebrow piercing is 'chavvy' or rough looking.
I'm extremely middle class, quite wealthy and dress pretty nicely but I'd love an eyebrow piercing.

I haven't done it as I don't want a scar if I choose to remove it and I like to groom my brows and I think it would cause more trouble than it's worth but I actually like them. Only with something very pretty though. No blackened titanium stud thing

I was saying no on account of school, but if you know school will be ok with it and the piercing place is hygienic and reputable then I would allow it. Better to get it done with you somewhere decent than her going off in secret and getting it done with someone dodgy

Quite honestly, I think it comes from people who have zero idea about other subcultures tbh. Piercings have always been an "alternative" thing to me. I've met the odd "chav" with a piercing, same as I've met ones with tattoos...poorly done! It's fairly recent that chavvy types have started getting them. Years ago they'd hurl abuse (and worse) at goths for having them.

When done properly with nice jewelry (or a good tattoo artist), there's nothing chavvy about them. I know lots of ex-goths/alternative sorts and none of their jewelry or bodyart looks tacky. All also wealthy and "middle class" sorts!

Unfortunately do agree with the eyebrow scarring though. I'd recommend a nose piercing, as I said above. Very little scarring indeed, and even less so for a septum - the horseshoe style ones can even be flipped up and made invisible.

You can't be serious

Eyebrow piercings are notorious for migration due to the repeated movements of the face, thus they scar more reliably than other piercings. DH had one for years and now has a very noticeable scar (we are both heavily pierced and tattooed).
Horror stories and photos of scars would not have put me off when I was a teen if my mind was set on it but I would have grumpily compromised in having it done at a legal age in a reputable studio as long as the answer was an eventual yes. She may even change her mind between now and then.

If she can look after it and she’s happy to agree to potential restrictions (taking it out for PE if they suddenly get stricter, college? Jobs? etc) then I’d allow it, but only at a reputable studio at the correct age, not a place willing to pierce minors.

What about her sports etc? It'd be dangerous

Be a parent.

"chavvy" is class prejudice and hate speak.

And aesthetics are subjective, obviously.

These threads always bring out the worst in people. OP asked for advice not for a bunch of snobs to make derogatory comments about body piercing & tattoos in general. I wonder how many of you would happy pierce the ears of a toddler (always a girl) without a second thought? A lot of us 'chavvy' tattooed & pierced types wouldn't do that..

Many of us have commented that we wouldn’t agree because (1) we don’t like it and (2) schools wouldn’t tolerate it.

Not a decision I’ve had to make as it’s not something DT’s wanted and was an irrelevant issue due to their school policy

I'd also be wary of any piercing studio that's willing to pierce a 15 year old's eyebrow- I think a reputable place wouldn't

I agree with the above. (I’d have zero issue with it once she’s 16 though.)

I have a small scar from my old eyebrow piercing; I took it out before any signs of migration so it really is only a little mark. I can't say it bothers me at all- I don't wear makeup to cover it and I still love the piercing, I'm so glad I had it for the three years I did. I'd also happily get it done again and likely will in the future!

That's not to say you should allow it at 15, as I wouldn't trust a piercer who would willingly do a facial piercing for anyone under 16. But in case she gets it done the minute she's old enough, I just wanted to reassure you that the scars don't bother everyone. It's just one of the risks of getting a piercing, and as long as she takes it out before it migrates or grows out then it's honestly barely noticeable on most people.

It would be a hard nope from me. I personally think they're chavvy and just look shit.
She'd have to wait until she can do it without my permission.

Must have changed since Dd had her cartilage pierced, I still had to give permission at 16.
Im fairly relaxed, but any visible,facial piercing would does be a hard no from me.