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To think alot of people just want to know what you're doing and what you're upto?

73 replies

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:05

The don't care they are just nosy ?

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Paradoes · 02/02/2025 14:07

Probably but it’s just chit chat

it’s not a sincere interest

ItGhoul · 02/02/2025 14:14
Biscuit
DreamW3aver · 02/02/2025 14:21

I dont think anyone is particularly interested in what I'm up to never mind a lot of people and I'm not particularly interested in what anyone else is up to.

Who are all these people?

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:22

They want to just use your information as gossip fodder or they ade just nosy.

The odd handful are genuine

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IncaDove · 02/02/2025 14:22

What are you up to today day, OP?

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:24

DreamW3aver · 02/02/2025 14:21

I dont think anyone is particularly interested in what I'm up to never mind a lot of people and I'm not particularly interested in what anyone else is up to.

Who are all these people?

People that live in your community, people you work with, school parents, extended family like aunts and cousin, people you used to know

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GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:24

IncaDove · 02/02/2025 14:22

What are you up to today day, OP?

Very good 😆

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BarneyRonson · 02/02/2025 14:28

I don’t think anyone wants to know what I’m up to.I'm not a topic of curiosity because my life is blissfully uneventful.

devastatedagain · 02/02/2025 14:29

I'm no expert but I think you might be projecting here.

DreamW3aver · 02/02/2025 14:31

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:24

People that live in your community, people you work with, school parents, extended family like aunts and cousin, people you used to know

None of those people would be the least bit interested in what I'm doing and unless I choose to tell them how would they even know?

Are you over sharing on social media?

DUsername · 02/02/2025 14:32

If they don't care why would they want to know what you're up to?

The last thing I'd do is ask questions about someone I don't give a shit about.

Devilgate · 02/02/2025 14:33

100% OP I HATE nosey people with a passion!

😡😡😡😡😡😡

Spurber · 02/02/2025 14:33

No one wants to know what I'm up to I don't think

Devilgate · 02/02/2025 14:33

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:22

They want to just use your information as gossip fodder or they ade just nosy.

The odd handful are genuine

Totally agree

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:41

DreamW3aver · 02/02/2025 14:31

None of those people would be the least bit interested in what I'm doing and unless I choose to tell them how would they even know?

Are you over sharing on social media?

Don't you get it, I don't, ike sharing, so I certainly do not overshare or share on the Internet

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GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:43

DUsername · 02/02/2025 14:32

If they don't care why would they want to know what you're up to?

The last thing I'd do is ask questions about someone I don't give a shit about.

Because the want to know,what your doing ? What your upto in life where are you going on holiday, how are your kids doing.anything they want to get their big nose in on.

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CarefulN0w · 02/02/2025 14:44

Most of the time what are you up to is just polite chit chat. Most Brits are horrified when anyone actually answers the question, especially if they go into detail.

Rules of engagement.

How are you?
Answer, fine thanks, you?
Good thanks, what are you up to?
Answer, not a lot, you?
Yes not much, just off to Tesco.
Answer, oh don't envy you, see you later.
Yes, see you later.

Rules of non-acceptable conversation

How are you?
Answer, oh, so, so. Better now my piles have improved, like sitting on pins it was. I'm at the hospital next week with me leg, and then we're at the clinic on Wednesday with Bert's knees....
oh, I'm sorry about^ that, what are you up to today?
Well we're off to X shop for biscuits then, we've got to go to Y place to get dog tablets, then my Lucy want z and she says you have to get the ones from Taylor's because Browns are no good...^
Half an hour later. Must dash have a good day.

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:48

The real question is more why are they so interested in knowing these things?

Comparison ?greed? Evvy? Something for them to chat to others about as they are so boring? Curiosity aka nosy

Whay Any other reasons people want to know things that are none of their business?

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Devilgate · 02/02/2025 14:49

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:48

The real question is more why are they so interested in knowing these things?

Comparison ?greed? Evvy? Something for them to chat to others about as they are so boring? Curiosity aka nosy

Whay Any other reasons people want to know things that are none of their business?

Dunno but it’s shit and I think nosey people show immaturity

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/02/2025 14:50

My Mum has this thing about wanting to “picture” what we’re doing but I don’t really like it!

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:56

GertrudePerkinsPaperyThing · 02/02/2025 14:50

My Mum has this thing about wanting to “picture” what we’re doing but I don’t really like it!

What the heck ? This is so odd imo

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UnstableEquilibrium · 02/02/2025 14:59

I think you're unlucky OP in that your social circle includes a lot of human beings with their concomitant curiosity about other human beings and what they're up to. You could try interacting with more trees, who can be relied upon to respect your privacy.

Pickingmyselfup · 02/02/2025 15:01

Is it not just genuine interest/polite chit chat?

I will ask friends/colleagues what their weekend plans are/how their weekend was/how their kids are getting on with xyz. If someone mentions they are going on holiday I'll ask where and then we will have a chat about their destination.

It's just having a conversation, nobody expects a full blow by blow account but if I asked someone where they were going on holiday and they told me to mind my own business then I wouldn't bother talking to them again.

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 15:13

When I was younger it would older aunts and uncles, saying have you got a boyfriend yet? Never understood this
as if I had and wanted to tell you I would …. Why do you feel the need to ask
then it turns into when are you going to get married
then when are you going to have a baby…. Then when are you going to have another and how many more will you have, maybe with some unsolicited advice on how many children you should have and why
Etc etc etc

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ilovesooty · 02/02/2025 15:15

GreenCrocodile · 02/02/2025 14:41

Don't you get it, I don't, ike sharing, so I certainly do not overshare or share on the Internet

But you're wanting people to validate you on here. Why does it matter to you what other people think? They don't know the people you know.