@Purpleturtle46 yes! I know that's the basic reason many are so pissed off. It doesn't seem or feel fair. What could be done to make your hard work feel sufficiently rewarded so that you feel you are fully appreciated for all your hard work and your time. If you felt you were sufficiently rewarded financially and not being screwed over somehow you wouldn't care so much I imagine about your family member.
I see a system that goes for the easy target and feeds on the very understandable frustration people like you are feeling. It's exploiting people like you in many ways. If we went after the RFamily as one example, who are sucking more from you than your relative, might that prop up a system that enables you to be less exhausted and worked to the bone whilst also raising children. What other losses beyond the vulnerable group are you incurring that you don't realise? There will be plenty.
It's too easy to push people to the brink, get them understandably pissed off and then say ' look at these guys' the lazy, smelly, poor people robbing your cash. They are easy targets.
I was a high earner high tax contributor and then I got very sick with various illnesses and I saw inside a system that terrifies you. Because if you dare step out that system you know that you'll find it difficult to ever get back in again if you become severely unwell, in hospital, need time off. You'll be at risk of losing your home, debts piling up, even legal action whilst you're terrifyingly unwell in many cases.
Your relative might be a lazy bugger to be fair. But it's usually alot more complicated behind the veneer. The RFamily are robbing you more than he is.