Would you hire a morbidly obese Nanny?

[whompingwillo]

I would like to hire someone we’ve met for my 9 month old baby. She’s fab, great with kids, lovely, I have no concerns.

I would estimate her BMI is 50-60 and my husband noticed that it is a struggle for her to get up and down off the floor and he is worried that if baby was in danger she may struggle.

So what would you do? Do you think that weight could impact a job like this? I’m sure people of this weight have their own children and are safe to look after them?

YABU - morbid obesity could impact her ability to do this job

YANBU - she’ll be fine

No I wouldn’t. My concern would be her ability to keep up as the baby became a running toddler.

Agree. If the nanny is 5 ft 3 she could easily weigh 22 stone plus to have a BMI of around 55.

My thoughts exactly. All the fat haters are out in force on this post.

DD's childminder was large. She was great at her job.

17 stone IS abnormally large for a woman. It is also an unhealthy weight for many men. We are really confused nowadays about what constitutes healthy.
It may sound fat-phobic, unkind, judgemental- whatever, but really, if I was appointing someone to look after my child full-time, I’d want them to be fit and healthy. I’d want them to be taking my child for walks, swimming, to the park etc. To do that, they need enough energy.

At least they don't disguise their blatant disgust and prejudice, lol.

I'm morbidly obese, still manage to do my physical job exremely well. Fat bashing really pisses me off, just because we are fat doesn't mean we are useless. It's shit that fat people are not worthy of respect in many peoples eyes.

Never assume.

I didn't say it wasn't on the large side.

But 17 stone is "only" 238lbs. That's not the kind of size where you're bedbound, or incapable of tying your shoes, or incapable of taking a child to the park. People are acting as though anyone of that size must be half-crippled while they sit on the sofa shovelling pork pies in their face

It is one type of bullying that is actively encouraged in society. It is appalling.

Always the same on here, though at least this time they're trying to disguise the bashing as "concern" for a child...

Unfortunately this would be a no from me as well. As mentioned by pretty much all pp there’s just no way someone of this size would be able to run around after a toddler. I’m sure there would be ways to keep them safe, reins/ buggy etc but do you really want that for your child when with someone you’re employing? I would also consider health problems and possibly lots of unexpected sick days. No matter how much people try to preach that overweight people can still be healthy, someone this overweight is absolutely bound to have health problems come up even if they don’t know about them yet.

OP agreed with pp that’s she’s probably about 5'3" and around 17 - 20 stone. That’s huge for a physically demanding job, sorry but it is.

Also what is her lifestyle habits etc? I would want the person looking after my child to be teaching healthy habits (healthy meals and exercise).

I used to have to climb trees to retrieve my toddler when he got stuck. He was nippy at bolting off too. Fortunately I took up C25k when he was a baby, and it's no co-incidence that I had a flurry of pbs round the time he was 2 before he developed some sense.

Being physically able to look after active young children is a legitimate concern to consider.

I risk flaming. But no I wouldn’t. I would struggle to be confident that she will have good judgement when it comes to feeding my kid, and modelling good eating habits.

I live with my mum. And she helped wean my daughter. She is obese.
my daughter has a much sweeter tooth than my eldest, and I think that’s because my mum served/offered things that I wouldn’t have whenever I wasn’t directly involved in the meals and snack.
she also models picky eating habits that my daughter has picked up .unlike my eldest who was weaned by me.

I needed the help as I have PND but I really wish I hadn’t.

I agree it is appalling, it makes me so angry!

One day, perhaps fat hatred and prejudice will become as unacceptable as racism and homophobia.

Discrimination against someone based on their body size should be outlawed.

Im heavy and late 50s. I have taken the least no of sick days of all of our staff, year on year over the past 5 years ;NIL. I am pretty active and whilst large I achieve more in a day than many of my far younger, thinner colleagues. I’m also not a glutton and am one of the few who is organised and brings in home-made lunch as opposed to prepackaged food or sambos.

Rubbish. Have you been 17 stone? I have. I could do anything I wanted physically. Walk for miles, swim for miles, attend dance classes twice a week, do my manual 10-hour a day job without breaking a sweat. You, and the majority of the posters on this thread, just want yet another excuse to stick the boot in to fat people. It is utterly tedious.

Bad health is bad health. Not body shaming anyone, but facts are facts.

I would think about the things she would need to do, and ask her to explain how she would fo them, demonstrating if necessary. A few reasonable adjustments might be possible but if she can't chase a toddler or pickup a small child from the floor, that's not going to work

No way.

She would be 20 stone or more.

It really isn't.

There are people of that size who manage full-time work in physically demanding roles everyday. They don't all have heart attacks on the job, or fall over trying to tie their laces, or collapse in a heap walking at a brisk pace

17 stone is 238lbs. Large, yes, but let's not pretend this woman is some kind of massive freak of nature who is incapable of caring for a toddler.

Same here. Being in a larger body doesn't automatically mean being unfit or unhealthy.