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Is this GDPR breach

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Harass3d · 01/02/2025 00:16

A complaint has been lodged with my employer about a comment I made on social media (not upheld!). This complaint has come from the head teacher at my son's school and he has identified himself as such (fine) but then goes on to identify me as a parent (which has no relevance to his complaint) am I right in thinking this is a breach of GDPR? It is no business of my employers where my son goes to school.

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Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 08:45

I wonder how this developed since the OP @Harass3d last posted?

I always think that if not update… probably unsuccessfully

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 10:10

I took a step back & decided not to respond to the complaint immediately.

I took advice from friends, family & a solicitor. My union & HR. As stated several times I rarely use SM & up until this point had always been cautious about what I posted, the comment I made was out of character for me.

On reflection of all of this - the underlying driving factor for me was that I strongly felt my child was being failed by the education system & I had to take this higher. All my correspondence with the school has been done in email or followed up with an email outlining discussions had (a lot) and I made a complaint to the education board with all my evidence and within this included the HT correspondence with my place of work. In-between starting this post and now my child had an accident which required surgery and weekly visits to a specialist unit (80 mile round trip) and that naturally took priority & head space.

As it stands I have an open complaint with the council & a response is due by the 10th of September.

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Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 10:12

And the solicitor, union and HR all advised this course of action?

Spanglemum02 · 21/08/2025 10:59

Hi @Harass3d , I'm sorry to hear about your child's accident. I hope they are makind a good recovery. I'm glad you did take your complaint further. In my opinion thr HT should not have contacted your employer or found out who your employer was. I hope they at least apologise for the false accusations.

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 13:12

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 10:12

And the solicitor, union and HR all advised this course of action?

If your child was being failed by the education system would you stand back and let it happen? Would you accept someone contacting your employer with untruths about you - potentially damaging your career?

As I said before I came here seeking advice/opinions, with mixed responses. Some people think I'm being untruthful or not telling the whole story that's fine - your comment this morning you probably didn't expect me to come back with an update, hurts eh 😉.

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Harass3d · 21/08/2025 13:14

Spanglemum02 · 21/08/2025 10:59

Hi @Harass3d , I'm sorry to hear about your child's accident. I hope they are makind a good recovery. I'm glad you did take your complaint further. In my opinion thr HT should not have contacted your employer or found out who your employer was. I hope they at least apologise for the false accusations.

Thank you. It's been a long haul & was really the most ridiculous accident imaginable but that's children 🫠

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Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 15:10

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 13:12

If your child was being failed by the education system would you stand back and let it happen? Would you accept someone contacting your employer with untruths about you - potentially damaging your career?

As I said before I came here seeking advice/opinions, with mixed responses. Some people think I'm being untruthful or not telling the whole story that's fine - your comment this morning you probably didn't expect me to come back with an update, hurts eh 😉.

i asked whether the solicitor, HR and union that you consulted suggested the course of action you have taken

and this is your reaction

So I am guessing the answer is… no

LePetitMaman · 21/08/2025 15:32

So, in summation. You attacked him, personally, on SM.

And are now outraged that this has been shown to your employer, because he identified himself (well of course he needs to do that) when he contacted them, and he said (in effect) "I question if she should even be in the role, in my profession, this conduct on social media would result in dismissal" (which might be true, or might be bollocks, it's actually irrelevant because you aren't in his profession)

Your employer has ignored the lot and it's a closed issue.

What's the problem?? Don't go out of your way to attack people on SM then be professionally offended when it backfires? There's no breach of data of any consequence, and here you still are banging on about solicitors, unions, etc like "she who has been wronged".

It's clear from your retorts to people that you aren't taking much on board and feel absolutely justified in what you've done, whilst furious that someone might hand you back a dose of your own medicine. Take some accountability and maybe a life lesson about not saying unpleasant things and expecting no recourse. As my eldest would say, "fuck around, find out."

You're coming off looking a lot worse than he is. But evidently, no one on this thread is going to make you see that.

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 15:41

It's clear from your retorts to people that you aren't taking much on board

agreed

i just asked if the professionals the op consulted were on board with the course of action.

Very bizarre response, not answering the reasonable question (which really, is an answer in itself ie NO they did NOT agree!)

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 15:43

LePetitMaman · 21/08/2025 15:32

So, in summation. You attacked him, personally, on SM.

And are now outraged that this has been shown to your employer, because he identified himself (well of course he needs to do that) when he contacted them, and he said (in effect) "I question if she should even be in the role, in my profession, this conduct on social media would result in dismissal" (which might be true, or might be bollocks, it's actually irrelevant because you aren't in his profession)

Your employer has ignored the lot and it's a closed issue.

What's the problem?? Don't go out of your way to attack people on SM then be professionally offended when it backfires? There's no breach of data of any consequence, and here you still are banging on about solicitors, unions, etc like "she who has been wronged".

It's clear from your retorts to people that you aren't taking much on board and feel absolutely justified in what you've done, whilst furious that someone might hand you back a dose of your own medicine. Take some accountability and maybe a life lesson about not saying unpleasant things and expecting no recourse. As my eldest would say, "fuck around, find out."

You're coming off looking a lot worse than he is. But evidently, no one on this thread is going to make you see that.

Brilliant post

Will go down like a sack of spuds though with this Op! 😆

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:10

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 15:10

i asked whether the solicitor, HR and union that you consulted suggested the course of action you have taken

and this is your reaction

So I am guessing the answer is… no

Well you have guessed ..... Wrong

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Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 16:12

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:10

Well you have guessed ..... Wrong

Sure Op

why not just have responded as such to the very reasonable un inflammatory question enquiring whether you had following the professionals you consulted.

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 16:13

And let’s be honest… you’re hardly likely to admit to being told by HR and union and a solicitor that you’re grasping

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:16

LePetitMaman · 21/08/2025 15:32

So, in summation. You attacked him, personally, on SM.

And are now outraged that this has been shown to your employer, because he identified himself (well of course he needs to do that) when he contacted them, and he said (in effect) "I question if she should even be in the role, in my profession, this conduct on social media would result in dismissal" (which might be true, or might be bollocks, it's actually irrelevant because you aren't in his profession)

Your employer has ignored the lot and it's a closed issue.

What's the problem?? Don't go out of your way to attack people on SM then be professionally offended when it backfires? There's no breach of data of any consequence, and here you still are banging on about solicitors, unions, etc like "she who has been wronged".

It's clear from your retorts to people that you aren't taking much on board and feel absolutely justified in what you've done, whilst furious that someone might hand you back a dose of your own medicine. Take some accountability and maybe a life lesson about not saying unpleasant things and expecting no recourse. As my eldest would say, "fuck around, find out."

You're coming off looking a lot worse than he is. But evidently, no one on this thread is going to make you see that.

If what he said to my employer was true I'd be okay with that. It's not though so I'm not okay with that. I'm also not okay with the fact the HT could not find the time to respond to a complaint in a reasonable time frame but could find the time to seek out my employer, speak to others about me & complain - if your okay with that cool.

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Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:21

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 16:12

Sure Op

why not just have responded as such to the very reasonable un inflammatory question enquiring whether you had following the professionals you consulted.

I'm not required to respond anything. I said that I'd taken advise & what actions I've taken following that. You came on here with a smart arse comment, didn't expect a response and now you probably feel like a tit because I've come back and updated. 🤷

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Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 16:29

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:21

I'm not required to respond anything. I said that I'd taken advise & what actions I've taken following that. You came on here with a smart arse comment, didn't expect a response and now you probably feel like a tit because I've come back and updated. 🤷

Goodness

Roll on mid September for when this HT can put all this behind him knowing this daft issue has been put to bed - in his favour needless to say

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 16:30

and now you probably feel like a tit because I've come back and updated

oh Op, we aren’t all quite as sensitive as you 😆

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:34

I'll be sure to let you know in due course what the outcome is...

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Sundaymorningcalla · 21/08/2025 16:55

Maybe I'm missing something but if you made a comment on social media in presumably your own name, where is the GDPR breach?

Social media is a public forum.

It's be no different to my username being my actual name on here and someone not liking something is posted and reporting me to my employer. There is no GDPR breach.

May have already been covered but not going to waste time wading through 23 pages of an ancient thread.

Returnofjude · 21/08/2025 17:08

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:34

I'll be sure to let you know in due course what the outcome is...

We shall see…

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 17:10

Sundaymorningcalla · 21/08/2025 16:55

Maybe I'm missing something but if you made a comment on social media in presumably your own name, where is the GDPR breach?

Social media is a public forum.

It's be no different to my username being my actual name on here and someone not liking something is posted and reporting me to my employer. There is no GDPR breach.

May have already been covered but not going to waste time wading through 23 pages of an ancient thread.

Yes your missing a lot.

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LePetitMaman · 21/08/2025 20:42

Harass3d · 21/08/2025 16:16

If what he said to my employer was true I'd be okay with that. It's not though so I'm not okay with that. I'm also not okay with the fact the HT could not find the time to respond to a complaint in a reasonable time frame but could find the time to seek out my employer, speak to others about me & complain - if your okay with that cool.

But what he's said isn't untrue is it?

Saying you shouldn't be allowed to work in your profession, isn't a true or false statement, it's an opinion.

Saying you've mouthed off on SM before, he's simply found something you've said at some point, even if it's just one other occasion.

Opinions aren't untruths. And either way, your employer doesn't give a shit. You're like a dog with a bone, and you're making yourself look worse and worse.

Laura95167 · 21/08/2025 20:45

Im not understanding why your employer would care what you think of this man's school?

What could he even say to your employer, that you said on FB hes a ineffective head teacher?

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